Dentists have always done that. It's their divine right to shame us. Take better care of your teeth.

I'm curious, what exactly are you doing more today that you didn't before? And I do believe some behaviours, just for practicality's sake and for our own good (and sometimes for the common good too!), should be a bit curtailed even if they're not "bad". Overall, I'm glad you know yourself better today and that you're enjoying it.

It looks like you might be piling everything into the ADHD bucket. The bit about the dentist isn't shaming, it's about keeping your teeth healthy and that's what I mean about putting your behaviors into that ADHD bucket. A diagnosis isn't a free pass, it's information that you typically use to help navigate and mitigate symptoms.

It's a pretty common occurrence for ADHD and Autistic folks. I'm a little bit autistic (Aspergers) and come from a family where literally everyone but me has ADHD, but I was always generally NT passing due to a lot of anxiety and really high levels of masking. I still am NT passing, but when I was informally diagnosed (by psychologists not psychiatrists) and agreed/identified with the label, I stopped masking as much. I don't know how much other people noticed (they probably didn't), but it was a big difference for me and allowed me to be more aware of the reasons behind some things that I feel and do - and to be able to forgive myself more for not being "normal".

Also though do please try to brush and floss regularly. Tooth pain/cavities/decay are no joke - you only get one set of those bad boys, gums don't grow back, and you can't really imagine how much it sucks to get nerve pain whenever you eat or drink things until it happens to you - then it's too late. (No shame, only F E A R )

I just noticed how they routinely use shaming as a form of control.

Grow up, if your first response to shame is to assume everyone else is wrong you have some work to do to move on from being a teenager.

I hate that shit. Find a new dentist. They don’t all do it.

Most absurd thing with dentists: They do this thing where they check the depth of the little pockets in the gums. It seems to have 0 medical value. Just to be like: "Watch out, it's 2.5 mm now! Two years ago, it was at 2.3 mm. Just so you know what's up."

Ironically, it takes a long time for the whole mouth and is very painful, worse than fixing actual problems, e. g. by drilling.

Mostly for that, I left my reputable high-tech dentist of two decades for a small practice with old equipment that specialises in anxiety.

Yup, I still find things that I have incredibly thick masks on or discover that things I hated are a lot more tolerable now that I'm medicated (driving, mainly). When I first started meds, I couldn't stop talking about them, I was probably quite annoying haha. My whole world changed, to others I didn't seem all that different but to me it was a paradigm shift.

I been dealing with ADHD (diagnosed) since the age of 7.

It is a pendulum, but it doesn't just swing back and stop.

Throw in bipolar disorder, and your world can go to shit rapidly and you probably will not understand how until after you've done the damage of trying to fix it.

Also when did it become ok for dentists to tell you off for not brushing up to their standards. I just noticed how they routinely use shaming as a form of control.

I think they've always done this, and it has the opposite effect on me. I don't want to be shamed, so I don't go, tooth starts to hurt, but they'll shame me, so I don't go, things get worse, have to go, get shamed, get fixed, remember shaming, don't schedule next appointment, repeat.

Please remember to brush your teeth and visit the dentist. Don't be me. You only get two sets and you've already burned through the first one.