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Feels like the main quest with how much I've been avoiding it
good, you'll gain so many xp and skills from your other quests, that when you're ready, the dating quests will be easier
This is not true
āsomeone who hasnt dated in years
I meant that by investing time and effort in yourself, in what you like, you become a better person, and a better partner.
Yes im well on my way to dying hopelessly alone. I dont need you to explain the basics to me.
fFUUUUUUUUU i wrote a long response but accidentally deleted it. fuck
I was extremely depressed not long ago. and extremely lonely, feeling unworthy of affection or human relationships. barely felt human.
It began with no kings, I met a group protesting Palestine (had no idea they existed, and a topic in very interested). from there I joined their weekly protests. from those I was introduced to DSA, and I began working on their mutual aids. before I realized I was getting invited to other activities/action groups...
now?
From those groups I have made very deep friendships which I treasure deeply. Have grown as a person, I feel human. I see them so often, barely passes a couple days without hanging out with someone. Have managed dating, partly because how much more interesting and rich my life is right now, but cut it off due to cPTSD giving me nightmarish flashbacks from a traumatic abusive relationship I had in the past. but I still get intimacy frequently, like amazing intimacy with amazing people regularly. my depression is non existent. and it became a positive feedback loop, and in ever step, i gradually discovered who the fuck I was, the person lost in years of depression. I'm a fruity silly goof who wants to make the world a better place.
I'm not saying any of this to brag. and it is my upmost intention not to make you feel worse. I want you to believe that I was there, 100% was there, in the deepest depression, over a decade without experiencing any positive emotion, 5 suicide attempts, countless failed antidepressant treatments.
all I'm saying, find a group that does something you care about, and show up. consistency is key. it was so awkward at the beginning. but it got so easy so quickly.
if your situation is so dire I believe you can get out.
Generally great advice. Its what i tell people!
Does not apply to me.
I'm so happy for you, and I mean that in all honesty. Gave me a lil' kick to stay motivated, and I needed that right now. Thank you.
i believe in you, if someone as hopeless as I was can crawl myself out. everyone can
You cannot love another if you don't love yourself. The best is finding someone who wants to grow beyond their past hurts. Become better people. Together.
Good luck all.
Oops we are in shitposts not couple memes. I mean....
The main quest is marriage. The side quest is eating strangers asses. Ive always gotten distracted dungeon crawling. š«
Lmao @ dungeon crawling
You are right, though. It's not fair to any partner if you expect them to fulfill the hole in your emotional wellness. All you are doing is setting yourself up to be emotionally fragile and codependent on them.
If you're like me, you won't listen to the information above, but I promise you that I learned this the hard way.
I obsessively do all the side quests before I can progress the main quest.
Life when you start dating your sidequest instead of your mainquest. š
Life when you fully understand gender and sexual orientation is a completely made up concept. You just need to be the true self and embrace that life is short and be confident to express your feelings.
Out of curiosity, if itās all completely made up, how would you explain the fact that people across different cultures and time periods consistently report similar patterns in sexual orientation? That suggests thereās something deeper going on than just social invention.
That said, I completely agree with you on being authentic ā I just think the ācompletely made upā part might be a stretch
Its a construct made up based on the needs and perceotions of primitive peoples. Id explain it the same way id explain patterns/similarities/trends in mythology and language across cultures that had no contact. That doesnt make it 'real' any more than 'mama' is the true word for 'mother'
Sorry, not really following your mama analogy. It sounds like that's just a variant of mother, which is, of course, has a very real meaning.
I think itās more like colour: the boundaries (like where blue becomes green) are kind of made up, but the spectrum itself is real. Same idea hereāthe labels can vary, but the underlying experience isnāt just invented.
It comes up a lot in a lot of languages because its a very easy combination of phonemes for a human tomake even without much motor control. Parents like to think baby is talking about them.
So even in completely unrelated languages words for some stuff are cognates at a statistically unlikely rate.
Currently in the middle of a divorce and realizing this is this same exact thing. Finding a partner doesn't improve your self worth, or value. It should compliment it.
Whenever I start dating again I feel the stakes will be so much lower to find someone than when I found my soon to be ex. It might actually be a nice experience than a stressful one.
Wish I could figure out how to unlock the sidequest, oh well...
holy shit it's violet.
or an impersonator š¤
not an impersonatorš„¹
wait did you get banned or something? isn't this like the fourth account?
3rd, to be specific.
I was in the honeymoon phase with that Korean guy I mentioned, the one I moved in with after like a day of meeting. Did some traveling with him, so I went offline in general. Didnāt work out; felt both too shallow and too deep at the same time, so I broke it off.
Took that solo trip I was talking about and am currently in Vietnam.
What the actual fuck is your life?
felt both too shallow and too deep at the same time, so I broke it off.
Ah, the ol' tuna can size problem
Wtf did I do to you?
Clearly not enough orgasms.
You're back!
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