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Who's in the wrong here?
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teal really proved living well is the best revenge.
Neither one is someone I want to talk to but grey really should've just put the phone down and focused on that promising opportunity
I don't think grey actually has another "opportunity". This feels like a negging tactic to me.
Remind me what negging is again
Green has a decent counter play against being snubbed first, but it surely is a dick move versus just saying "okay, cheers".
However, we humans do crave drama, and I've been entertained, so I think in the grand scheme of things, as a miniature Shakespearean tragic comedy, I will allow for it to be cosmically more good than bad. Perhaps they both learned something. Or it's all fake ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Having someone show their red flag this early warrants a "thank god" methinks. Also, "thank the flying spaghetti monster" is more like it.
Red flag? "This is going to sound bad but I need to cancel, sorry" is way more than you'll get dating, 90% of the time. IG they could've told them sooner, but I also don't know how serious things are. It looks like a perfectly adult response.
Regardless, saying "Thank God" when you were just confirming a date with someone feels like a knee-jerk reaction to save face and insult the person you feel ditched you.
The proper and respectful way to cancel a date would be to say - for example - "look, I've thought this through and I am not feeling it, I changed my mind about further dates, I appreciate the time you spent with me & I wish you all the best!"
The red flag here is mentioning someone "promising" and not wanting to miss the opportunity. It says in the same words "you are not a promising character". The comparison is the hurtful thing you don't say out loud if you want to be respectful of someone's feelings.
And the proper respectful thing would be to give the person you're cancelling with more notice than an hour before hand, and only after they contacted you to confirm.
I am for having read this. Doubly for commenting,
Grey is definitely in the wrong, that's exactly when you should have used a white lie but they were being a huge dick.
Greens response could've meant (s)he had a busy day at work and was glad to put their feet up. The bluntness met have been unintended.
Grey then exploded and made it a problem, showing that green actually dodged a bullet.
(s)he
✨they✨
(t)hey
(t)heyyy
Lmao, the other person for sure. There's no reason to lose your shit like that
Both half wrong imo. I'm relatively new to the whole dating and multi dating thing but what I've come up with is:
Never ghost if you've made plans or texted a lot off app (so points to other person for actually cancelling)
Don't rub it in people's face that you're seeing other people but be honest if asked (negative points to other person)
Accept rejection gracefully with no hard feelings. I got ghosted recently and struggled with this one but stayed strong.
Any tips appreciated though because it can be tough out there.
I really don't think teal did anything wrong, in fact I think it would have been wrong to keep it to themself. Too much shitty behavior going unchallenged in our world these days imo.
I must be weird, or maybe it's because I used to date someone like Grey, but the impression I got about green is not that they said that because they didn't want to go out anyway, it was that they were glad grey revealed themselves to be uninterested in them even if it was kind of in a sleazeball way, acting like it was just fine to cancel last minute to go be with someone else.
More like green was happy grey pretty much just sent up a red flag and confirmed that they dodged a bullet.
Was that not the point we were supposed to take away from this?!
Love your chicken, by the way.
Gray does not understand the relief of cancelled plans.
"Cancelling plans is like heroin." -John Mulaney
Who's in the wrong here?
Everyone in this thread who is too stupid to realize this is fake rage bait.
As is your comment. Rage bait within rage bait. Meta rage bait. Ragebaitception. Ragebaiturducken. I see you.
He probably knew he dodged a goldigger.
we dont know their gender at all
The behavior is very male coded.
The moronic thank God lmao.
He is and Millennial as well.
Everything together reads moron dodges...to be fair, could be a dude. But....
Something about that genuinely go to hell, you are scum.
Very woman codded.
ive got to wonder what benefit holding these broad generalizations to heart has on a person. i realize we all have our hang ups, but applying a gendered lens to every little thing seems tedious and arbitrary.
Gray in the wrong but teal should've elaborated on the thank god message
Nah, it's way funnier that they didn't.
Yep. Just leave them on read, and let that shit simmer.
Why?
this post was submitted on 08 May 2026
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