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[-] Th4tGuyII@kbin.social 20 points 1 year ago

As it turns out, the majority of folks are just people trying to get by, and if you're nice enough to them, they'll be nice enough to you.

The problem with most terminally online people is that their social lives ended when they left school, which is when the population of arseholes is at its highest. Everybody is trying to impress everybody else, even at the cost of others.

But a lot of those same people tend to chill off as they mature into adults and become less self-centred. There are still absolutely arsehole adults, but nowhere near as many as the terminally online expect there to be.

[-] Korne127@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

What do you count as terminally online? I don't differenciate between online and offline friends and spend lots of times talking or chatting to people online (as I spend time doing stuff with people irl). But I wouldn't say that my or this social life is bad.

[-] drislands@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I would classify "terminally online" as almost exclusively interacting with people online with little to no IRL at all. A bit part of that would also be that the people you interact with are people you've never seen.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I’ll also add another major sign is if you don’t know their irl names. I have close friends who I met over the pandemic who live far away, but we knew each other by name and hear each other’s voices. That’s a big thing. Your Twitter/tumblr mutuals or people you regularly interact with on Reddit/Lemmy are people that terminally online people will think of as friends rather than “no we’ve never met irl but we play d&d together or have a book club over discord”.

The other big thing is whether or not you go to irl events. Just literally being somewhere that’s neither home nor work/school helps so much.

[-] ParsnipWitch@feddit.de 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'd call people that who lost contact with reality. So if something you believe could be immediately proven wrong by just stepping outside for a while, you are terminally online.

For example the 4chan theory of: "80 % of women date only 20 % of ultra chad men". There are people who actually believe this.

[-] Th4tGuyII@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

My definition is more or less the same as the one @ParsnipWitch offered...

The terminally online are thise who have little to no contact with reality. They are the shut-ins and the NEETs of this world. Those that would fully believe in conspiracies about life which could be disproven simply by interacting with others IRL.

[-] shasta@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

What about people who use browsers instead of terminals?

[-] Th4tGuyII@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Well fuck, you got me there... In one sentence you've just given everyone on 4Chan the ability to touch grass.

[-] NateNate60@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

When real life does not match up with the description given by social rejects on a site notorious for infidelity

[-] lars@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

notorious for infidelity

What does this part mean?

[-] Armand1@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

I think they mean "inaccuracy to reality" rather than "cheating on their partners"

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[-] benni@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

He means that the stories and information posted there are artistic works of fiction and falsehood. Only a fool would take anything posted there as a fact.

[-] orca@orcas.enjoying.yachts 3 points 1 year ago

Using high school as a marker for what to expect for the rest of life is such a terrible idea. Just throw that in the rubbish and go experience people for yourself. Wade through the assholes and you’ll find tons of nice folks just trying to live.

[-] drislands@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

It's true. I think the amount of attention highschool gets, from people saying it was the best years of their lives, to adults coming down hard on you to do the best thing for your future, to your peers seemingly having an amazing time while you're not, winds up making teens feel like it is indicative of how life will be in general.

[-] averagedrunk@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

It never made sense to me, but I wasn't having a GREAT time until I was in my mid 30s. I had something like a 7 year party. Disposable income, before the worst of my aches set in, and just doing whatever I wanted as long as I made it in to work.

High school was Lord of the Flies.

[-] saruwatarikooji@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

While that is true... There is still a ton of high school bullshit going on, especially in workplaces.

All the same drama and gossip... I'm so glad I don't work in an office anymore.

[-] lowered_lifted@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Retail jobs are the worst for that because most people there ended up working them right out of high school

[-] atocci@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Yeah, Bowling for Soup was really on to something there

[-] Madison420@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

And still making good music just an fyi.

[-] Root@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 year ago

It just goes to show the average age of anons. Too sad if they plateau around that.

"X raped my childhood!"
"Jeez, Michael, you're in your 20's."

[-] Moc@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

⛺️🔥 Rest here traveller. Reading the comments in this thread can get tiring.

[-] ParsnipWitch@feddit.de 3 points 1 year ago

[-] drislands@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

It's mostly fine. There's one guy who's got a real rough view of the world and taking it out on anyone that engages with him, but if you block him it's a lot better.

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[-] Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago

I tried community college first online and then in person at 19/20. Felt so anxious about everything. Mom drove me there and back and was really mean about having to do it. Classes of normies were uber-social, like everybody introduce yourselves and talk aboit the topic. Felt fuck me eyes coming from everyone, which I was probanly returning, but it was a LOT of attention for my loner self. I stopped going and Mom resented me because it cost thousands for like nothing but she didnt want to do it my way either so it was sort of her fault as well. Anyway it was probanly trans dysphoria too. Of course my every waking moment I was like I wonder if they can tell Im feminine please tell me this will help me be more openly queer. Lol.

[-] Comment105@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

When you're terminally online, it helps to be at least reminded that online culture isn't normal, especially not 4chan. But Reddit, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are all full of their own weirdness.

Better than recognizing that would be to reintegrate into society fully and leave the internet mostly behind to sulk and moan.

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[-] darthsid@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

This is what rehabilitation feels like

[-] OurTragicUniverse@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Wtf does the tilt of your eyes (canthal tilt) have to do with anything? Do incels not like eyes now or something?

[-] squiblet@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

Incels think of lots of complicated theories about society and appearances to explain why they think women are not attracted to them

[-] pthaloblue@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

That's interesting, they're pretty much the same techniques used by racists from the 17-1900s to determine "racial superiority". It's like it never went away, just crawled into 4chan

[-] squiblet@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Racist phrenology is alive and well among the racists who hang out on 4chan, and definitely, they also apply it to incel theory, mixed with misogyny and a feeling that genetics and society dealt them an unfair and poor hand which can’t be rectified.

[-] poeticstuff@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

Most people like being around other people who are chill and respectful. There's no magic trickery about it. Get outside and talk to people.

[-] xxxSexMan69xxx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago

Just talk to random people outside?

[-] Obi@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 year ago

Results vary by region... You can try that for a while in northern Europe for example. In southern Europe the first person you speak to will probably end up inviting you for dinner with the family.