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submitted 11 months ago by hyattpotter to c/malaysian_dating

only for those who are single and looking for something long term

Frustrated with girls who flake and ghost even if you put a lot of effort, or even those who are just there for validation with no intentions to meet up? Trying to find someone who is actually on the apps for the right reasons? You are not alone, it happens even to the most attractive of guys. Good news? There is an effective way to weed out a huge number of them, albeit not totally. Here is what worked for me:

  1. First of course start with a good opener, don’t try too hard but don’t give a basic ‘hi’ either

  2. Keep the convo length from 10 messages from your end, don’t try to text all week like how many do, keep it interesting

  3. Within those 10 messages, ask what their intentions are on the apps. When you hear stuff like “I don’t know see how it goes” or “just bored”… Yeah a high chance the person isn’t there for anything serious. Make sure you guys are on the same page, because women who are actually there for the right reasons want someone who is upfront about what they want from the apps

  4. When the vibe is right, straight up ask for a phonecall, if she doesn’t feel comfortable doing it, then substitute by asking for her phone number (girls who are truly into you will give you their phone number) and continue from there

  5. Once the call is great, then ask for a meetup

Why I say keep it short and ask for a call? Because girls who are really into you won’t hesitate to call, and truth be told many people regardless of gender are just on the apps for validations or something not serious. But it isn’t impossible to find someone with the right things in mind, this is one of the tactics that has worked for me.

Taken from r/Malaysians, credits to u/TaylorFritz!

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[-] Annoyed_Crabby 4 points 11 months ago

doctorsonder:
Bro why I gotta do all this gamer tactics just to date someone

😂

But do girls really comfortable giving someone their phone number within 10 message?

[-] hyattpotter 2 points 11 months ago

nope! and I don't like the ideas of calls either. I think the advice above is for specific type of girls.

If hesitate then just move on? Yeah I suppose if you're getting that many matches, but girls who hesitate don't mean they are not interested, they just have concerns. I think it's valid. Cannot be too eager. and I feel like the pace above maybe works for people in their 20s? But older probably too fast-moving. Having someone is nice, but I'm not about to hang on to every single text I get, we're working and tired.

[-] Annoyed_Crabby 2 points 11 months ago

Yeah, works for some, but these day give number out feels like not safe :x

I wonder what's his ratio of give vs no give.

[-] blubblubblub 1 points 11 months ago

I’m ok to share my number with a guy I’m interested in, but that doesn’t mean I’m comfortable with a phone call huhu

Prefer to text bcs I can take my time to reply and think about the replies. Thought probably wouldn’t mind the phone calls after I feel more comfortable.

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