One of Paulo Friere's theses is that to the oppressor, moves toward equality feel like oppression.
While it is always good to be ruthlessly critical of everything, rather than just merely being "white people making it about them," or self-hating whiteness (a reactionary trope in virtually every other context) or even just toxic and cringe, when you have a large group of whites saying, "yes I deserve it, violently oppress me based on my skin color," assuming it isn't some awful kink, it really could be an authentic way for white people to say that we truly desire equality.