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submitted 8 months ago by LesserAbe@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

Doesn't have to be a thing you bought. Just some thing you didn't have but then once you did it expanded your scope of actions.

The first obvious example that comes to mind is a car. Plenty of drawbacks to prevalence of cars, but being able to go where I want when I want, and far away, is very transformative.

I'm interested in other examples of things that aren't just useful, but that open new possibilities.

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[-] MajorHavoc@programming.dev 32 points 8 months ago

I had a teacher advise me to make a habit of occasionally seeking out embarrassment, to stay in the habit, and prevent being paralyzed by fear of embarrassment.

I've followed that advice for years, and it's like a super power.

I've done so much cool shit that a previous version of myself would have been afraid to try.

I don't even remember all the embarrassing stuff, even though there's plenty. The cool stuff is what sticks in my memory, even though I'm prone to remembering my mistakes.

[-] Acamon@lemmy.world 23 points 8 months ago

Saw a Ted talk that said the same thing. The guy over came some social anxiety by actively putting himself in an awkward situation each day (his was asking if he could get his coffee for free at the coffee shop). Once he got use to low stakes situations where people were surprised, confused or mildly judgemental (but also amused or just disinterested) it was easier to do things that actually mattered without worrying about people's reactions. And he got a few free coffees.

[-] 1984@lemmy.today 10 points 8 months ago

First step is to post something onpopular but true on Lemmy, and be OK with the downvotes. I dare you all. :)

[-] Agent641@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

Youtube is actually good for both viewers and uploaders if you use it right. If youre upset with your experience of it, its your fault.

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[-] Wirrvogel@feddit.de 31 points 8 months ago

I am handicapped and in early retirement. I had a hard time going on walks, got tired fast, there was always the fear of stumbling/falling again and carrying a bag was painful using a backpack made me getting tired faster.

I bought an expensive walking helper /walker with 4 wheels (not something you sit on and drive, but walk behind), a seat and a big bag for shopping. I feel like superwoman now when I am on a walk, because I can walk longer, buy stuff and just put it on the thing and it is so easy to get even heavy stuff home and whenever I get tired and no matter where I am, I just sit down, relax, power comes back and I can keep going.

The best thing I have ever bought in my whole life.

I was told this is only for very old people and that it looks ridiculous at my age and that I would not need it by everyone, fuck them. It is pure quality of life and increases my power to over 9000! I have been more outside in the last 12 months, than in the 5 years before that because of it.

[-] rynzcycle@kbin.social 14 points 8 months ago

Dance. Started dancing (taking classes) at 350lbs 4 ½ months ago, still going now at 295lbs. Everything is sooo much easier. First exercise I really liked, improves my flexibility, strength, and cardio. And I feel mad sexy doing it.

[-] RHOPKINS13@kbin.social 5 points 8 months ago

I'd highly recommend playing Dance Dance Revolution, if you're at all interested. Very fun way to burn lots of calories. There's an open source clone called StepMania. If you really end up enjoying it, you're going to want to invest in some high quality metal dance pads. Worth every penny though, in my opinion.

By the way, I'm 400 pounds. I know your struggle. I've lost well over 100 pounds playing StepMania before. Unfortunately I've had some bad events put me in a bad depression, which caused me to gain it back.

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[-] Delphia@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

I'm a crossfit guy, but I absolutely agree. Once you find an exercise you enjoy and look forward to life just seems better.

[-] okasen@slrpnk.net 13 points 8 months ago

Moving to a city with a tool library. For an annual £20 fee I can borrow any of a myriad of power tools. Currently using an orbital sander for some DIY, previously borrowed a hedge trimmer for the garden, it’s freaking great.

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[-] sagrotan@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago

As sad as it is, it's true. I was broke for so many years that I even today, after years of having some, it eats at me paying so much for a car or other stuff. And I don't know if I should change. I think I'll never will anyways. Just trying to help without being exploited. First: tell no one how much money your project (or whatever) made. Wife and kid know, obviously, no one else. ESPECIALLY not "family". But it's a super power in our world that one could get lawful justice if anybody does you wrong. Without any money, you won't. From experience. And the daily anxiety is gone. Ok, not gone, but very, very small. Completely without I'd be too lazy in the long run, I presume.

[-] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 8 months ago

Transitioning

[-] demesisx@infosec.pub 11 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Becoming proficient with Linux (I use NixOS, btw 🤓).

[-] fsr1967@lemmy.world 10 points 8 months ago

My divorce. I didn't even realize that my ex-wife was abusive until getting into the divorce process. Once I got away and started to understand, I began to take some of my power back and develop even more. I went from terrified of her to strong and confident.

[-] El_Supreme_O@lemm.ee 4 points 8 months ago

I hope your new positive path continues. Good luck, said the survivor or a bad marriage.

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[-] halloween_spookster@lemmy.world 10 points 8 months ago

Does upgrading my electrical panel count?

[-] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 10 points 8 months ago

The first was my bike. Totally changed life. It opened up the entire county to me, though the far end was not viable time wise.

Then my first car.

After that, I suppose it was a cell phone. Gave me the freedom to travel and stay in communication on my terms. However, part of that was caller ID by default. The freedom to ignore calls and make the decision based on who was calling without having to worry about missing an important call was big time. Since I could do this anywhere my car could reach, it was the pinnacle of freedom, with subsequent iterations only expanding the use.

After that? My cane.

After my body fucked up, and I was on a walker for a while, being able to walk steadily without the walker was freedom again. It may seem like the walker was that, but it never felt like it. I went from jogging and walking and hiking freely to crawling, literally in a second.

From crawling, a walker sure was better, but it was as much a symbol of limitations as it granted more mobility.

But the cane? That's when I knew I would be able to have something resembling the life I had lost. It isn't the same as it was and never will be. But the difference between having the cane and not having it is what makes it powerful.

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[-] kofe@lemmy.world 8 points 8 months ago

Internet. I've lived in rural areas most of my life and only in the last five years was able to start gaming with friends and watching unlimited video. I feel much less resentment that people don't want to visit me and am happier getting my social needs met in person by physically going out less often (I still get out once a week ish)

It's not a replacement for intimate relationships but any means, but I do think it can enhance them with healthy boundaries n whatnot. I went through a rough break up recently that's had me realizing I'd like a partner that's ok with me having space to chill with friends day to day but still making time for each other.

[-] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 8 points 8 months ago

2011- prescription Vyvanse

2017- $300k family inheritance

2020- freedom to travel with no responsibilities

2024- semaglutide

[-] technomad@slrpnk.net 5 points 8 months ago

semaglutide?

I envy the 'travel with no responsibilities' don't take that for granted.

[-] invertedspear@lemm.ee 6 points 8 months ago

Anti diabetic / weight loss drug

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[-] Thcdenton@lemmy.world 7 points 8 months ago

Learned to code. Most profitable hobby I've ever had. Crazy fun.

[-] Omgboom@lemmy.zip 7 points 8 months ago

Quitting smoking

[-] Professorozone@lemmy.world 7 points 8 months ago

I quit my job. Not sure if it gave me something but it sure took away a lot of asses I had to kiss.

Does that work?

[-] Mango@lemmy.world 6 points 8 months ago

Psychedelics. Very eye opening.

[-] Tehdastehdas@lemmy.world 6 points 8 months ago

Literally, tyrosine and iodine, because my thyroid gland was running slow and I was feeling cold most of the year. Now my body's idling power is higher.

[-] Bwaz@lemmy.world 6 points 8 months ago

A low-powered zoom microscope. I can again look at and work on tiny things, fix jewelry, electronics, remove splinters. Use it WAY more rhan I ever thought I would.

[-] thegreatgarbo@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

For anyone interested, just Google "stereoscopic dissecting microscope used". The 'used' part is to makes it less expensive. They can cost a lot. I used to use my lab sonicator water bath to clean my jewelry, and our dissecting scope to check the jewelry to make sure all the skin crud is gone from every crevice.

[-] Aceticon@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago

I moved to a different country driven by a wanting to become worldly rather than for economic reasons.

Facing a whole new place, with a different language, different social norms and expectations and even different living conditions, like that on your own makes you massivelly more adaptable to new environments, as a later move to a different country showed as well as living for a couple of months in yet another one.

[-] key@lemmy.keychat.org 5 points 8 months ago

Generator so I have power when the power goes out. Would like solar but soooo expensive.

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[-] xkforce@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

When I figured out how to run computational chemistry software on my home pc. It entirely changed how I saw chemistry because I could tinker and experiment with (virtual) molecules on a grand scale. Being able to run five maybe ten thousand simulations significantly increased my understanding.

[-] morphballganon@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

Tools.

Drill, star bits (make allen wrench bolts much easier), circular saw, oscillating multitool, clamps, a tiller, power washer, ladders

[-] TheInsane42@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

Relying on a basic understanding how things/situations work.

At a new school, I really messed up a math test. I was studying like crazy, learned all formulas that I would need and managed to apply them all in each question on the test, combining all off them each question. Lowest score possible (1 out of 10), as I really messed up. Next test I didn't study, I jusy flipped trough the book, checked 1 situation I didn't understood and made the test. On handing out the teacher asked what I did different then the previous test. I told him I didn't study, I just checked if it was logically to me and decided I understood as much as I could. He told me to do just that on all tests and I'd have no problems with education and gave me the result, a perfect score. (10 out of 10)

That was 34y ago and still I want to understand things and see the logic behind it. Works perfectly on almost everything. (Humans behavious still mostly eludes me though, totally illogical 🤨)

[-] conciselyverbose@kbin.social 3 points 8 months ago

(Humans behavious still mostly eludes me though, totally illogical 🤨)

We're not rational, but there are patterns. If you're willing to do some reading Thinking: Fast and Slow is beefy, but helps to show some of the patterns of irrationality in a structured way, from one of the leading experts on human behavior. If that's too much, Thinking in Bets is a nice taster that still is well backed by much of the same research, but is shorter and more accessible.

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[-] angrymouse@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

Taking lithium as a bipolar, my life started there

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[-] Bravebellows@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

Real-time live AI captioning.

It's not perfect but more words than none.

I hold daily Scrum meetings in Zoom and everyone benefits with the transcript saved at the end of the meeting.

I raid with my guild, with Live Captions window overlaid onto of my chat box.

[-] magnetosphere@kbin.social 3 points 8 months ago

Experience. Learning when it’s okay not to give a fuck, and when I definitely should.

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[-] slampisko@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

Self-diagnosing with ADHD in my 30s. Going for an assessment soon!

[-] technomad@slrpnk.net 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Going super sayan.

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Getting a 3D printer.

Most things I had to replace because of being broken, the thing that broke was just some plastic bullshit; now I can just replace the broken part. Not to mention the myriad of things people have made that solve problems I never even thought of until seeing them on Thingiverse and such.

Add a soldering iron and some other tools and I can make my own electronic gadgets.

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[-] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

stimulant use

[-] kingblaaak@lemmy.world 2 points 8 months ago

stopped getting fussed over things outta my control

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