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[-] Extrasvhx9he@lemmy.today 82 points 1 year ago
[-] bermuda@beehaw.org 12 points 1 year ago

This + I like to just give people answers. I find too often online somebody will ask a question and a lot of users will often try to be helpful but fail because they didn't actually answer it.

Dumb example Q: "What's the best Indian food in this city?" A: "There's not a whole lot of Indian food but you might have luck with a burgeoning southeast Asian store"

[-] ThatsMrCharlieToYou@lemmy.world 67 points 1 year ago

If people would interact with others as they would do face to face. For whatever reason, we are so quick to forget the person at the other end. You'll see people complain or discuss real people with literally no empathy and it can be mind boggling at times.

[-] cyberpunk007@lemmy.ca 21 points 1 year ago

This is sadly so true. I think part of it too is that text is a poor medium for expression at times. For example, it's harder to read sarcasm.

[-] radix@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago

I find this to be less of a problem in less formal spaces. When typos, capitalization, and memes all get incorporated into the dialect, sarcasm and other nuance comes across much more readily. See also: Tumblr.

I suspect that sort of dialect wouldn't be as comprehensible here though, because of the greater diversity in demographics here than Tumblr or my small closed group chats with friends. Here on Lemmy, I try to mitigate this by giving the benefit of the doubt and never ever feeding the trolls.

(Does downvoting a troll count as feeding it, because it gives them attention? I don't want to risk it, so I usually pass them by, but I'm curious as to people's consensus here.)

[-] ElBarto@lzrprt.sbs 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

If people would interact with others as they would do face to face.

Man, I'd never say anything online if I did that.

[-] TheHalc@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 year ago

Part of the challenge of social media is that it leads you to interact with many more people than you ever could in normal life.

While the vast majority of people are delightful, there are significant numbers of people with whom I wouldn't want to interact, either face-to-face or online.

One thing I should get better at is avoiding engagement with those people online who I wouldn't benefit from interacting with.

I don't talk to the crazy person ranting on the street, why would I do it online?

[-] poplectic@feddit.uk 6 points 1 year ago

Absolutely.

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[-] arcrust@lemmy.ml 40 points 1 year ago

Downvoted unkind discourse.

Upvote is for quality. No vote is for noise/disagreements. Downvote is for hate.

In theory, the lower a score, the less people see something. If I disagree with something that's said (like a civil political opinion), then I won't 'like' it. That takes away one potential point. But if someone is being unkind to others (mean, rude, trolling, etc) then I'll downvote, which I see as removing two votes. The one they could have had from me, and one from someone else. Hopefully, that means they won't get as much attention.

If it's really bad, then I'll also report

[-] maegul@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 year ago

Upvote is for quality. No vote is for noise/disagreements. Downvote is for hate.

Yep. This, I think, "is the way". The downvote for disagreement is not a good pattern and probably never was IMO. This is a good way of putting it. Another way someone else put it was essentially that the downvote is about the way in which something is said and the upvote is about whether you agree with it.

I honestly think separating them out in some way, so that we can still use the downvote as an effective tool of aggregating the quality of a post, but not in a way that is simply there to offset upvotes. Like, maybe two "scores", number of upvotes and number of down votes with different filters for each? In a way, the "controversial" sort achieves something like this.

[-] fing3r@feddit.de 37 points 1 year ago

If i have something bad to say, i don't.

[-] moipe@lemmy.world 35 points 1 year ago

I block and never talk to the nazis.

[-] viking@infosec.pub 29 points 1 year ago
  • Report spam, scam, racism, hostility and clickbait
  • Don't engage trolls
  • Don't answer questions I'm not sure I have the correct answer for (or else point out that I'm just giving a "best guess" response)
  • Try to be neutral or positive/affirming in replies. If I can't, I'd rather not reply at all.
[-] Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz 26 points 1 year ago

One thing I've started doing more than ever is blocking a ton of people. For example if I see someone making a post about twitter/elon/trump etc. I go to their profile and see if it's just one time occurance or a patter and in the latter case I block them. If I see someone posting fuck this and fuck that and I hope this person dies etc. I block them without even viewing their post history.

There's just so many users on a platform like this that I simply can't pay attention to everything so by blocking the people commenting in bad faith is the least I can do. Some might say I'm creating an echo chamber and maybe so but this really isn't about wether I agree with them or not but wether your comments bring any value to the conversations.

[-] Fizz@lemmy.nz 11 points 1 year ago

Over the long term this really does help keep your browsing experience enjoyable and your mind optimistic. Its way to common to get depressed from constantly seeing a torrent of bad news and negative posting.

[-] Macaroni_ninja@lemmy.world 23 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It's not a life hack, but I try to be polite and open with people to a reasonable extent. I turned around several internet arguments with this attitude, even when we had a different opinion at the end there was no toxicity.

There are always the unreasonable idiots and straight up crazies and of course the trolls. Well fuck those people, just block them 👍

[-] Karmmah@lemmy.world 21 points 1 year ago

Since switching to Lemmy I use my up/downvote in a different way than on reddit. Upvote now means I think the comment/post contributes something valuable while downvote means the comment/post is unnecessarily unfriendly or just not contributing anything constructive.

[-] incogtino@lemmy.zip 27 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Typical Reddit voting v Lemmy voting

Reddit Lemmy
I agree Upvote Upvote
I disagree, but it contributes to the conversation Downvote Upvote
Meh Downvote -
Trolling and bad faith arguments Upvote Downvote
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[-] Gork@lemm.ee 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

That's what they were originally about on Reddit as well before its gradual decline. "Reddiquette" as they called it.

Unfortunately it turned into an "I agree" or "I disagree" button.

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[-] Silviecat44@aussie.zone 20 points 1 year ago

Curate my feeds so I mostly don’t see negatuve content (doomers, cynics, trolls, etc)

[-] evatronic@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago

I do this, and employ frequent and rapid blocking on social media.

Instead of engaging, dick wads get blocked without comment.

[-] Fizz@lemmy.nz 19 points 1 year ago

When I see people going through something that resonates with me I acknowledge that its hard and encourage them to keep trying and that they will make it to the otherside.

[-] borlax@lemmy.borlax.com 17 points 1 year ago

Log off occasionally.

[-] pztrn@bin.pztrn.online 15 points 1 year ago

Not feeding trolls.

[-] Mubelotix@jlai.lu 13 points 1 year ago
[-] troyunrau@lemmy.ca 12 points 1 year ago

Radical optimism. Hell yeah! Basically anti-doomerism.

[-] Clipper152@lemm.ee 10 points 1 year ago

Force all social media to become non-profits.

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[-] PopcornPrincess@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

I upvote and comment on uplifting/lighthearted content like this post ;) …and I post Dad jokes.

[-] PlexSheep@feddit.de 9 points 1 year ago

I try to contribute to OSS, host my own services, seed (legal) torrents.

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[-] Ilari@sopuli.xyz 9 points 1 year ago

Commenting to creators with specific things that I like about their work

[-] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 1 year ago

I write a lot of comments that I feel add important information and context, I add links to save other people clicks, and I back down on the odd occasion I make a mistake.

[-] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 1 year ago

Disconnect.

[-] SomeoneElse@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 year ago

Acknowledge when other people have been particularly nice, helpful, funny or interesting. Support those who make mistakes and hold their hands up, and apologise myself when I’m in the wrong.

[-] GingerPale@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

I type as snarky, sarcastic comment I can muster, post it, then delete it 10 seconds later because ultimately, no one cares.

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[-] Rocky60@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago

Ban politicians from social media

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[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 6 points 1 year ago

I comment jokes everywhere in order to make people laugh, or at least smile. Or at least least slightly blow air out of their nose.

[-] KpntAutismus@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

not be an asshole to everyone, and trying to explain my reasoning.

[-] Reborn2966@feddit.it 6 points 1 year ago

don't be an asshole.

works for corporations, individuals, and everything in between.

[-] tarneo@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago

Use a non-chromium browser son that web environment integrity doesn't work. (Librewolf)

[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago

Moderate the OnlineFavors subreddit.

[-] covert_czar@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 year ago

Post photos of beans

[-] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Honestly I joined the fediverse apps instead of traditional social media, Lemmy and Firefish and Pixelfed. It's quite nice on all of them, I got rid of Twitter and Instagram and probably will quit Facebook next. It feels much better.

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