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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by Everythingispenguins@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

I was talking to a female friend and young Arnold Schwarzenegger came up on conversation. I pulled up a picture of him and spent a long time looking at it. Then said "I am trying to decide if he is attractive.

I know for me women who are fit and toned, attractive. Once a woman is muscular, attractive falls off a cliff. Probably because they start looking like a man.

The Arnold picture

Edit yes I am a guy

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[-] Dangdoggo@kbin.social 64 points 9 months ago

The kind of hypermuscularity that body builders have looks unattractive on any gender imo and not just aesthetically. It also is a clear message that they will not eat taco bell and watch Pokemon reruns at 2 AM with me.

[-] Everythingispenguins@lemmy.world 8 points 8 months ago

Can the tacos be earlier? I have to be at work at 4:30 am. 😋

[-] AVincentInSpace@pawb.social 3 points 8 months ago

what job do you have, and have you considered getting one with less asinine hours

[-] Everythingispenguins@lemmy.world 9 points 8 months ago

I work at an airport. We have shifts spanning all 24 hours. Nope, I could work more normal hours, but I choose not to. 4:30 am is a little earlier than I would like, but it does have a few advantages, I don't catch as much of the heat in the summer, I get off early in the day if I don't work overtime, and that shift has the most competent coworkers. Oh and the company I work for offers some pretty good benefits.

[-] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 37 points 9 months ago

I'm not a woman. I find extremely muscular people unattractive among all genders. There's a point where it switches from fit to grotesque.

[-] MrsDoyle@lemmy.world 27 points 8 months ago

No, not attractive. That's a man who spends a LOT of time in the gym, looking at himself in the mirror. He eats and drinks weird stuff and possibly is on drugs that make him angry. Not my cup of tea.

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[-] RainfallSonata@lemmy.world 27 points 9 months ago

Weird that most of the comments here are about muscular women.

[-] Everythingispenguins@lemmy.world 25 points 9 months ago

Yeah some people seem to be answering the question they want to not the one asked.

[-] Zerlyna@lemmy.world 19 points 9 months ago

We hen it gets to veins popping out, count me out.

[-] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I know for me women who are fit and toned, attractive. Once a woman is muscular, attractive falls off a cliff

Speak for yourself

- A lesbian

[-] Everythingispenguins@lemmy.world 32 points 9 months ago

Hum.. I was. You will notice that the first word in that quote is "I"

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[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 15 points 8 months ago

As a fellow lesbian, there is definitely a cliff, but it’s post karlach. Personally the older I get the more I love a mom bod, but a jocky herbo type? Yeah I’m down. But once you get into bodybuilder levels yeah no. Though as I say this, it’s not the muscle, it’s the contrast of high muscle with low body fat. Because like, yeah powerlifters can get it, but when you start looking like Arnold with tits, nah.

[-] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 8 months ago

Oh Karlach can for sure hellish rebuke me all she wants

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago

I’m more of a shadowheart girl, but yeah Karla h absolutely can get it. I’m not saying I’m not into muscular women with anger issues lol.

[-] papalonian@lemmy.world 8 points 9 months ago

- A lesbian

Speak for yourself.

- A dude

[-] GladiusB@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

- A lesbian

Speak for yourself.

- A dude

  • Michael Scott
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[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 17 points 9 months ago

I like my guys to be cuddly. Ahnold ain't cuddly.

[-] Everythingispenguins@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

Curious does that mean you aren't attracted or just wouldn't want to date?

[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 4 points 8 months ago

To an extent, both. I wouldn't say I have a strong sense of attraction to begin with, and conversely I'm not outside dating any guy if we grow into each other, but people of his type draw me in even less. If he had a different persona/aura (think Jareth) but retained his physical image, I may be drawn to him, but he is not mismatched with his physical image.

[-] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 12 points 8 months ago

Yes. The amount of time a man spends in the gym to build muscles like that is inversely proportionate to how much time he has available to spend fortifying a relationship with a woman.

[-] grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world 12 points 8 months ago

Personally, I do not find men (or women) that are as built as that photo of Arnold attractive. I do like nicely-toned arms though, I am definitely an "arms" chick, as in, I find muscular arms in particular attractive. But there's definitely a point where if the muscles are too big, it starts to be less appealing.

[-] thisisdee@lemmy.world 11 points 8 months ago

Nicely toned is probably ideal. But I prefer skinny than overly muscular like body builders. Tall and skinny or lanky was pretty much my type especially when I was younger. Now my husband has a bit of fat around the belly and I love that too.

[-] Today@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

For science, it's cool. For snuggles, it's not for me.

[-] VaultBoyNewVegas@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

Is this a question for straight women only or can a pansexual guy answer? Personally I've a thing for fbb's but with guys it doesn't do anything for me. Turns me right off.

[-] vrek@programming.dev 14 points 9 months ago

What is fbb? Flexing big bisons?

[-] Everythingispenguins@lemmy.world 9 points 9 months ago

You got ger those bisons to pose.

I think he was referring to female body builders. Though there are some other ways you could interpret it. Read at your own risk

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Fbb

[-] all-knight-party@kbin.run 9 points 9 months ago

Hazarding a guess with context... Female bodybuilders

[-] Everythingispenguins@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago

I am not going to stop you from chiming in

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 6 points 8 months ago

Not into dudes, but my guy friends seem to like their men more muscular than my women friends

[-] Devi@kbin.social 5 points 8 months ago

Not attractive at all to me. I don't mind if a guy is toned, but muscular is really unattractive to me. The thing with attraction is that it's individual, and I know some women who would love this look, I tend to like geeky guys, but I have friends who like big guys, bald guys, short guys, skinny guys, attraction is just super individual.

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 5 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Not a woman, but I am pan and no I don't find this kind of body attractive. In anyone. Normal tone where muscle is obvious, but not the main show so to speak, is the limit for me.

I personally (bi man), like both really muscular women and men

[-] MudSkipperKisser@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

No, that level of vanity is unattractive to me

[-] littlewonder@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

Go look up thirst trap woodchopping videos or channels of people really good at whip cracking. The type of natty, muscular physique these people have is great.

Where I'm personally turned off is when people start to use steroids to go beyond how bodies look when they're natty jacked because of an active hobby or job (talking about the look---it's ok to get muscles at the gym instead.).

Fwiw, I'm strictly talking about muscles here, regardless of fat. If built, construction homies have a lean look or if they are a teddy bear, it's all cool with me.

TLDR; Steroids can make muscles unattractive.

[-] garbagebagel@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

Do not like the Arnold level picture, but I like strong people. From my understanding of muscular & strong people, strength muscles =/= show off muscles, and you can be strong without spending all day at the gym.

[-] ReallyKinda@kbin.social 2 points 9 months ago

Even though we generalize that we’re attracted to categories like men and women I think most people are only attracted to a handful of singular people rather than a whole gender (or a more muscled or less muscled subset of one).

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