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I know this is kind of random. I've got a black necklace with a long round pendant on it, and I think I look better topless when I wear it. I'm not sure why.

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[-] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 67 points 5 months ago

If you think you look better with it on, then chances are you do look better with it on, because you'll feel hotter and more confident! So wear it :)

[-] kakes@sh.itjust.works 24 points 5 months ago

This is the only answer that matters right here.

[-] MrJameGumb@lemmy.world 59 points 5 months ago
[-] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 24 points 5 months ago

I love that the story he went with after was that he would pick up lost chains after fights and wear them so the owner could claim them...

Like sure, technically possible.

But also so was the ultimate Debo move. Imagine Mr T whoops your ass, takes your chain, and next weekend he's wearing it and 50 other chains.

You just take the L and don't mention it.

[-] gedaliyah@lemmy.world 12 points 5 months ago

Even more impressive is wht he stopped wearing them.

[-] Gerudo@lemm.ee 4 points 5 months ago

You mean it wasn't an O.G. did I'm Gonna Get You Sucka lie to me?

[-] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 3 points 5 months ago

I don't even need to follow the link to know what that's about - it's a beautiful story

[-] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 23 points 5 months ago

One of the purposes of jewelry is to enhance looks. It can serve to draw attention to specific features.

Now, there is a disclaimer needed here. I'm hetero. So I have no sexual attraction to the male form. However, I've dabbled in multiple forms of art, and used to jang around weight rooms with some bodybuilders among the mix. So you either learn to appreciate the male form or you GTFO of both of those PDQ.

Necklaces can very much enhance a chest/torso. It's all about the kind of necklace. Understated is usually best. A single pendant, with the chain/string/whatever being are the right length is going to pull the eyes to the center of the chest most of the time. This can be a very good thing. You adjust the length to match where you think that extra attention is going to give the best visual, and you've succeeded in jewelry.

Even a very fine chain can also give a visual break. Depending on the hair situation, chests can actually be boring to look at. A lot of hair, and it's a visual sameness just like a total shave is. You need light and shadows, variances in tone. If you don't have that naturally, you can supply it with jewelry (works with piercings too, btw). I'm a fucking sasquatch, and there's more visual interest when I'm wearing even something utilitarian (a keychain sized flashlight is damn handy on a chain) rather than jewelry.

So I'm not surprised you prefer the looks when wearing your necklace. Makes total sense.

Now, sexy is as sexy does. If someone is into necklaces as a paraphilia, or just as a mild nicety, you can't really judge whether the jewelry makes you look better or not. Most people I've ever heard talk about male jewelry at all leaned towards a little being enough, rather than any specific type.

But, yeah, I've seen enough dudes shirtless to have the opinion that a tasteful piece hanging somewhere on the sternum is sexier than without, most of the time. Doesn't turn me on, but that's not necessary to have an opinion about sexiness per se.

[-] AFC1886VCC@reddthat.com 8 points 5 months ago

Damn that's an in depth answer! Thank you muchly.

[-] Melobol@lemmy.ml 21 points 5 months ago

If you want to wear a necklace or - anything - you should just do it.
I know it's hard to believe when you are still young, but when you are wearing somersetting YOU like, it will make you happy. And a happy person is attractive.
It's just a plus that any chosen accessory will attract people who have the same taste :)

[-] Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world 21 points 5 months ago

Irrelevant.

Do you think that necklace makes you look sexy? Does it give you confidence to wear it out? Great! Confidence is sexy. Having something you do for yourself is sexy. Anyone who falls for you is gunna probably think that necklace is cool either because they are gunna associate it with you and it is gunna make them smile because you obviously like wearing it. Think of the accessory worn by your favorite character - that could be how someone who really likes you reacts to your accessory in the future.

If someone thinks it's not their style or thinks it looks dumb if it's a deal breaker they kinda shallow and you're better off without... and if they value your feelings they are gunna think your attachment to the thing is cute.

Embrace the pendant. Life is too short to deny yourself the things you like.

[-] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 16 points 5 months ago

Straight male here, I'm not who you asked but here's some data. I wear a small silver chain, it was given to me as a teenager and I very rarely take it off. Basically every woman I've slept with has grabbed it to pull me down to kiss me.

[-] FluffyPotato@lemm.ee 9 points 5 months ago

It will depend on the person but for me personally I love crazy fashion, my ideal world is where everyone dressed like they were in Jojo's Bizarre Adventure. So a necklace with a massive gemstone that looks like it contains the souls of a long dead race is ideal.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 7 points 5 months ago

I'm indifferent about jewelry on anybody, male or female. Like, the piece itself can be nice but I don't ever seem to think it enhances the look of the person, except sometimes earrings. Very occasionally I think it detracts from the look of the person but almost always just neutral.

You are the arbiter of what looks good on you, though. If you like it, that's all that matters.

[-] radix@lemm.ee 6 points 5 months ago

Yes. It's like the male version of cleavage.

[-] ShepherdPie@midwest.social 12 points 5 months ago

I thought the male version of cleavage was when your beer belly hangs out a little below your shirt because you definitely still wear the same size shirt that you did 10 years ago.

This is the male version of underboob ๐Ÿฅต

[-] neidu2@feddit.nl 5 points 5 months ago
[-] MorrisonMotel6@lemm.ee 2 points 5 months ago

As far as I'm aware, you are correct

[-] braxy29@lemmy.world 5 points 5 months ago

welcome to fashion. you can add things to the body that emphasize good stuff, detract from stuff you don't like, draw the eye in a particular direction, create an illusion, break up an expanse, etc.

enjoy!

[-] stoly@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago

If I find the particular body in question attractive, then jewelry will serve to enhance that experience for me. It accentuates the shapes.

[-] grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago

Yes! I wish more men felt comfortable wearing jewelry. I like the addition of jewelry to any body!

[-] RabbitMix@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 5 months ago

It doesn't influence my attraction to a man.

[-] clark@midwest.social 3 points 5 months ago

Agreed. For me, itโ€™s a neutral accessory that can be made negative or positive depending on stylistic choices and confidence.

[-] Audrey0nne@leminal.space 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Hot. Also depends on the body shape, itโ€™s like a welcome sign down to a good time if heโ€™s cut nice. A happy trail (hair that leads from the bellybutton to ~~navel~~ pubic region.) on a dad bod also fits the aesthetic.

Correction provided by @Drusas@kbin.run

[-] Drusas@kbin.run 5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

hair that leads from the bellybutton to navel

Bellybutton and navel are the same thing. A happy trail leads from there to the pubic region.

[-] PopcornPrincess@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago
[-] Drusas@kbin.run 4 points 5 months ago

Hah, guess Google's autocorrect is a prude. Fixed.

[-] tyrant@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago

Do ladies think happy 8 lane highways are hot? If a trail is good, imagine the throughout of this chest!

[-] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 5 months ago

What about an "all over" trail where one is unfortunately covered in hair leading every direction?

[-] ShepherdPie@midwest.social 4 points 5 months ago

That's more like a treasure map where the creator didn't want you to find the treasure too easily.

[-] Audrey0nne@leminal.space 4 points 5 months ago

Mm-mm bears and otters. Delish.

[-] Eeyore_Syndrome@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 months ago

I'm meh on traditional jewelry.

Bring on the body jewelry ๐Ÿ‘ฟ๐Ÿ˜ˆ.

I suppose I identify as an old (38 lol) well fed otter.

SpoilerAt 6G, almost to 4.

[-] Audrey0nne@leminal.space 2 points 5 months ago

Body piercings and tattoos also H O T

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I'm more interested in the body itself than what you put on it, personally. However, what you wear usually shows some of your personality and in my experience guys who wear gold chains or necklaces are not my type. I'm more into guys that would wear collars or those surfer necklaces.

[-] iquanyin@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago
[-] FireTower@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

It's about the context in which you wear it.

[-] Drusas@kbin.run 3 points 5 months ago

Generally no, but I'm not going to be put off by it unless there's something particular to the necklace that I dislike.

[-] Bunnylux@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

Yes if it's thin and classy looking

[-] PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee 2 points 5 months ago

I know of at least one person who specifically has a big thing for gold necklaces

[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 2 points 5 months ago

Not particularly, I'm indifferent to necklaces. Can't really judge, I have both a church necklace and a waistlet.

Yea I think they look sexy

[-] LifeOfChance@lemmy.world 2 points 5 months ago

It's really dependable on the person. Like how some guys can pull off a hat and others can't. Everything from physical characteristics to confidence and maturity effect that. If you like how you look that's all that matters. Rock the pendant and give someone a reason to see the better view ๐Ÿ˜‰

[-] Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee 2 points 5 months ago

No, but I don't really care either. It's quite neutral. You do you.

[-] pelletbucket@lemm.ee 1 points 5 months ago
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