don't forget sexist too; my ex-maga father called me after the debate to complain about her being so "angry" and "aggressive" citing arguments that wouldn't have blinked an eye if kamala were a man.
i think, in the end, it's important to recognize that we all have internalized bigotry in one form or another and that it's our jobs as adults to keep de-weeding our mental gardens and accept that most people will never tend to their own gardens and that they're an overwhelming majority with the political power to force things upon everyone.