Not a common ability but some people have photographic memory.
I can't remember shit. Photographic memory would be life changing.
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As someone with ADHD. My brain remembering things would be a game changer.
To do things at the proper time, and not procrastinate.
I truly don't know how some people work if not in a manic state for 10 hrs straight because you have a bunch of stuff due at the same time
I guess I could spread out the work, but sometimes I'm passively thinking of the best way to tackle it and other times it's a task I don't like doing.
Pretending to give a shit when I don't
It's literally how I make all my money.
Teach me your secrets!
Which half are you having trouble with? The apathy, or the pretense?
The pretense. I do not have a good poker face.
You don't want a poker face! You want to be very expressive. But voice is even more important. Pitch voice soft and a little low, and always decreasing at the end of a sentence, the opposite of asking a question. Like a kind parent talking to a tired toddler or particularly stupid dog.
You're trying to slip information into the person at a subconscious level, and the information you want to slip in is that you, the speaker, are trustworthy and will take care of them. It's much easier to do this than to actually figure out and fix whatever bullshit problem they've created for themselves.
Note that this is not effective on people you see everyday, as they will eventually realize you didn't do anything to actually help them. But for one-offs, work associates-of-associates, clients you're not the sole contact for, and the more distant sort of relative, it works pretty well.
That's pretty hilarious and I don't doubt it's efficacy!
I'll admit my trouble with these situations is I can't help but care about people or fixing things, often to save them from themselves as if they're, like you said, toddlers.
I start to resent being taken advantage of though. It's tough. :(
So you're also struggling with the apathy part, huh? For me, waiting tables, I just don't think of the guests as fully human. They come in hungry and I make sure they leave happy. Giving them a sense of assurance is a part of that, but as soon as they're out the door they cease to exist.
As to resentment, you shouldn't be resentful of something you choose to do, or to put it another way, you shouldn't choose things to do that harm your own well-being.
Haha I used to wait tables long ago. I know exactly where you're coming from!
My most recent job nearly drove me mad. I worked for a public library computer lab. I got a chair, and could look busy scrolling reddit instead of hurredly rushing to the walk-in freezer to scream. Hooray!
But it actually made me miss the simplicity of taking and delivering orders and "flipping" tables. This was a job where I'm pretty sure I did some good sometimes, but you might know how dumb and angry people get with anything digital.
Explanation of what that entailed:
Everything was an end-of-the-world crisis for each unique individual that came in, everything required multiple steps, often stymied by the fact people thought they were being clever by having 13 email addresses and forgetting the passwords and not updating the phone number the recovery code was tied to. ("And I MUST print this thing for a job interview in like 1 hour! Oh computers are terrible I hate them you must be a genius, back in my day we just shook a hand and got a salary rabble rabble.")
It was an awkward position because you really couldn't just say "Wow, sucks to be u." If they were siphoning too much life force.
They would not leave until closing if you just left em' there. And the worst ones lived like down the street so they'd show up every day. And they piled up. And instead of a section of tables, it was ~20-30 computer seats I was in charge of.
I genuinely want to help people live better lives. And I seized the opportunity when I could, but man, people have bandwidth. Dropping the individual systemic issues of an entire society on singular "caring profession" workers is downright vile. I'm so thankful I escaped. I'm still mentally recovering.
But hey, making more then $2.14 an hour was nice. Lol
You shouldn't choose things to do that harm your own well-being.
Yeah, I agree. I hate that socioeconomics always seems to push us in that position. If it's not harmful, it seems to be relegated to the select few or outmoded as a job, it seems. (I'm trying REALLY hard to not be a doomer! Lol)
You're absolutely right though. I struggle to "not care". I think if everybody cared more about each other things would be better, but y'know, reality. Lol
I want to be social monke and love and help people, but everything must be some kind of infinite assembly line of the screaming masses. :(
I'm trying to finally be a digital artist and make games instead. It's definitely not the moneybags route, but I have a lot more energy to put towards the people who deserve it from me...
It takes too much energy to have a good poker face, I'd rather just stay grumpy.
Executive functioning.
Went here to say that. Imagine not having an absolute obsession, want to do the thing, but not thinking about it all day. You just... do it. Couldn't be me. I wish I could have little side projects instead of just... comtemplating the idea of doing it for fucking years.
Don't compare your blooper reel with other people's highlights.
Also, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie split up about twenty years ago and that relationship is still creating drama
Do you mean Pitt and Jennifer Aniston? The Brangelina split was in 2019.
My favorite Jolie story.
Lauren Ridloff is deaf. She was having problems with her cues in 'The Eternals.' Jolie told the director to use a laser pointer and then clean it up in post-production.
Also, they had to use her own kid in Maleficent because she was scaring all the other children.
I have ADHD. Anyone telling you it is a super power is either lying or has a drastically different experience with it than I do.
Its a super power in battle/reaction situations. In all aplicable areas of modern age, its a nightmare.
I wish I could form intimate relationships.
Sleep instantly and without interruption
What up insomnia gang? Coming to you love from the bed at 6 AM. Too late to fall back asleep, too early to get up.
To get what I want by just being cute. Like little kids or cute girls. Or to be automatically excluded from manual labor/heavy lifting for the same reason.
If you're a healthy boy, the moment you become a teenager is the moment you're just expected to be performing manual labor or other hot, sweaty activities. At least in the US ๐คท
To be consistent on a physical level.
I play guitar and games like rocket league, things that require excellent physical dexterity, and consistency is a big factor. I struggle to repeat physical actions the same way every time. I practice lots, and I'm reasonably good at both things (imho), but I know I screw up more than most people because I can't repeat things the same way every time.
Maintain eye contact.
Shit makes me so uncomfortable. Look at me all you want, that's fine. I'm going to look at that plant.
If you want to look at that plant, I'll look at you, but you can't have both.
Unless we both look at the plant. That's fine too.
I wish I could actually listen to what is being said to me for more than 5 minutes. Instead of having my attention drift off and me starting to daydream about something the other said.
The sort of natural looking and sincere charm that someone like Robert Downey Jr. can just turn on and work the whole room at once, not that fake or smarmy shit that has people commenting that it fake after the fact.
I've worked with accounts guys who can do it, I've watched them work close up, but I be damned if I cant just naturally do that.
To light things on fire with my mind.
You know someone who can light a fire with their mind?
Maybe. On a completely unrelated note, can you let me know the next time you'll be in public, preferably not standing within several feet of anyone else and anything flammable?
Having the ability to see images in my mind. Sounds like a cool ability, not sure if it would be a curse though.
Sounds like you have aphantasia. Wish more research was done on it, I only learned about it when I was randomly talking with my friends and one of them said they couldn't imagine an image.
I'm stuck with the ability to imagine complete scenes but not be able to draw what I imagine haha
I would love to be able to say the most ridiculous, warped, ignorant, crazy ass shit, and have everyone else believe me to the point they are willing to fight on my behalf.
Oh wait..
I wish I could have a baseline functional understanding of human interaction & relationships.
As someone who transitioned from a deeply introverted anxious young adult with a persistent stammer, to a relatively outgoing person who is capable of clear communication, the secret is caring less and forgetting that you exist.
There are steps though to get there:
This should hopefully get you along the way to forgetting that you exist in a conversation, and it should become second nature after a while.
I wish it didn't take me so long to understand things that other people seem to get easily.
People who are very good at instruments. I wish I just knew guitar to be able to shred on demand, but I just could not put in the time and effort to get there myself.
Not being anxious about almost everything.
Ability to feel slightly deeper while watching emotional films
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