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Being able to just simply move on from something as easily.

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[-] absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz 2 points 18 minutes ago

Having the ability to see images in my mind. Sounds like a cool ability, not sure if it would be a curse though.

[-] Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone 1 points 9 minutes ago

One time I did mushrooms and thought about an apple and I kinda saw it and was amazed. I've never been able to do it again though

[-] chottomatte@lemdro.id 1 points 1 hour ago

Ability to feel slightly deeper while watching emotional films

[-] Professorozone@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

I thought I had one but I read everyone else's first and after each one thought, yeah that would be good. Thank you for making me fully grasp just how inadequate I am. Just sign me up for any of these.

[-] Zozano@lemy.lol 5 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

Maintain eye contact.

Shit makes me so uncomfortable. Look at me all you want, that's fine. I'm going to look at that plant.

If you want to look at that plant, I'll look at you, but you can't have both.

Unless we both look at the plant. That's fine too.

[-] lowdude@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 57 minutes ago

Out of curiosity, how does it feel for you to look at someone’s nose while they are looking in your eyes?

[-] mitrosus@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 8 hours ago

I wish I could bang ass for longer than a minute :/

[-] JackbyDev@programming.dev 7 points 10 hours ago

I have ADHD. Anyone telling you it is a super power is either lying or has a drastically different experience with it than I do.

[-] Nexy@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 6 hours ago

Its a super power in battle/reaction situations. In all aplicable areas of modern age, its a nightmare.

[-] JackbyDev@programming.dev 2 points 6 hours ago

Nope. Absolutely not. That is your experience with it. Not mine. It's a disability. Please don't describe my experience with a disability as a super power.

[-] Nexy@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 5 hours ago

I say because I have ADHD too. My reaction are more thoughtful and cold in stress situations like theft assaults or accidents are way better that neurotypical ones (I'm from latinamerica so they are very common). But I have so much problems to do normal things daily and they are ruining my life.

[-] lowdude@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 56 minutes ago

Is that directly related to ADHD or just an independent character trait?

[-] sacredbirdman@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 minutes ago

I have ADHD too and in those few high stress / life or death situations I've been in, I suddenly felt super calm and focused while some other people were just screaming. I read somewhere that people with ADHD are overrepresented in first responders and similar jobs and I can believe that.

That being said, I very much agree with JackByDev. Yeah, ADHD is a disability. It has caused much pain and suffering for me and I wish I could get rid of it.

[-] Akasazh@feddit.nl 9 points 12 hours ago

Sleep instantly and without interruption

[-] JackbyDev@programming.dev 4 points 10 hours ago

What up insomnia gang? Coming to you love from the bed at 6 AM. Too late to fall back asleep, too early to get up.

[-] Murple_27@lemmy.ml 5 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

I wish I could have a baseline functional understanding of human interaction & relationships.

[-] tetris11@lemmy.ml 6 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

As someone who transitioned from a deeply introverted anxious young adult with a persistent stammer, to a relatively outgoing person who is capable of clear communication, the secret is caring less and forgetting that you exist.

There are steps though to get there:

  • Look at a person. De-age them back to when they were a shy or excited or inquisite toddler. That's their base model. Anything built on that is just extra wisdom or fluff or bluster.
  • Talk to people like you would an innocent child, just use more grownup words.
  • Cheat questions:
    • "How was your day today" "what did you get up to" "hows your upcoming week looking"
  • Cheat responses:
    • "nice!" "well done!" "oh damn"
  • Cheat moves:
    • Eye contact. Look at people in the eye, then look away when describing something, then look them in the eye again.
    • Nodding: Make nodding gestures as they respond to you
    • Hands: Gesture with your hands when you describe something.
    • Smile: You don't need to smile, but it helps. You can look away when you do it.
  • Listening helps but is top-tier and isn't a requirement
  • Learn to build connections through topics though. If they're talking about cats, remember your dog.
  • Signal it's your turn: I suck at this and wait for gaps, which usually means I forget what I wanted to say, but you can signal in other ways
    • Yes: Finger gun and a nod whilst inhaling
    • No: Polite laugh and a head shake whilst exhaling
    • Random: if someone won't stop, they need to be stopped. Just jump in with your crab story, who cares.

This should hopefully get you along the way to forgetting that you exist in a conversation, and it should become second nature after a while.

[-] thelsim@sh.itjust.works 8 points 15 hours ago

I wish I could actually listen to what is being said to me for more than 5 minutes. Instead of having my attention drift off and me starting to daydream about something the other said.

[-] TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works 2 points 12 hours ago

I wish I could just live in the present without having to completely fake a personality to hide the fact I don't have one.

I wish it didn't take me so long to understand things that other people seem to get easily.

[-] mub@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 day ago

To be consistent on a physical level.

I play guitar and games like rocket league, things that require excellent physical dexterity, and consistency is a big factor. I struggle to repeat physical actions the same way every time. I practice lots, and I'm reasonably good at both things (imho), but I know I screw up more than most people because I can't repeat things the same way every time.

[-] lowdude@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 39 minutes ago

That’s absolutely normal, especially as people tend to compare their general performance with their peak performance („I managed to play that without errors once, why am I not managing it every time?“).

You can do a number of things to improve your mental consistency within the limits of your current abilities by forming healthy habits around it, if it is very important. E.g. a balanced lifestyle of sorts and a good warmup routine when playing your instrument, but even then you will have off days.

If you want to nail that section consistently, you will have to increase your skill ceiling quite a bit, way beyond „nailing it once“. Usually you don’t notice that progress as much with instruments, because ideally the things you are working on are always challenging you at your current level, but try going back to something you played one or two years ago. You may have to refresh the piece until it sounds good again, but then you will probably be way more consistent about your performance than the first time around.

Rocket league is a completely different skill set, but the concepts apply in the same way. Structuring your life around being in ideal mental and physical condition to perform in a video game is probably a lot less useful for your life, but I’d bet every professional player does it.

Not a common ability but some people have photographic memory.

I can't remember shit. Photographic memory would be life changing.

[-] lowdude@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 29 minutes ago

Afaik no one has ever been proven to have photographic memory (e.g. being able to remember random dots on an image is used as a test, if memory serves right). So for the most part it is just a nice little character trait for movies and the likes.

I noticed that a lot of people I know are significantly better at remembering some things, in this case numbers, but worse at other parts (e.g. conversations). So oftentimes its also a matter of what exactly you are good and bad at remembering.

Depending on the context, it also comes with experience. Think of games like chess, poker, etc. Experienced players are often able to replay an entire match, which in large part comes from their experience and the context of the many games they’ve played. If you met the same people in their first few matches, that ability would probably have been a lot less developed (if that makes sense).

No scientific backing on these statements, it's just based on my personal experience and impressions.

[-] riskable@programming.dev 16 points 1 day ago

Your wish has been granted! You will now keenly remember old photographs 👍

[-] ChillPenguin@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

As someone with ADHD. My brain remembering things would be a game changer.

[-] Martineski@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 1 day ago

Executive functioning.

[-] SexualPolytope@lemmy.sdf.org 20 points 1 day ago

To do things at the proper time, and not procrastinate.

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[-] donuts@lemmy.world 20 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Pretending to give a shit when I don't

[-] Nemo@slrpnk.net 9 points 1 day ago

It's literally how I make all my money.

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[-] WhatsHerBucket@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

I would love to be able to say the most ridiculous, warped, ignorant, crazy ass shit, and have everyone else believe me to the point they are willing to fight on my behalf.

Oh wait..

[-] Dagwood222@lemm.ee 16 points 1 day ago

Don't compare your blooper reel with other people's highlights.

Also, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie split up about twenty years ago and that relationship is still creating drama

[-] darkdemize@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 day ago

Do you mean Pitt and Jennifer Aniston? The Brangelina split was in 2019.

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[-] jlow@beehaw.org 3 points 23 hours ago

Not being anxious about almost everything.

[-] Stovetop@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

People who are very good at instruments. I wish I just knew guitar to be able to shred on demand, but I just could not put in the time and effort to get there myself.

[-] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago

I wish I could form intimate relationships.

[-] riskable@programming.dev 9 points 1 day ago

To get what I want by just being cute. Like little kids or cute girls. Or to be automatically excluded from manual labor/heavy lifting for the same reason.

If you're a healthy boy, the moment you become a teenager is the moment you're just expected to be performing manual labor or other hot, sweaty activities. At least in the US 🤷

[-] JackbyDev@programming.dev 2 points 10 hours ago

Have you considered trying to dress cute or paint your nails?

[-] riskable@programming.dev 1 points 5 hours ago

It'd be ineffective and in fact, decrease the likelihood of obtaining that default assumption of innocence that cuteness provides. It'd be like tying a pink ribbon to the tail of a tiger. The ribbon itself would be cute but the tiger would still be viewed as a dangerous predator.

Might help with getting out of manual labor though 🤔 🤣

[-] tankplanker@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago

The sort of natural looking and sincere charm that someone like Robert Downey Jr. can just turn on and work the whole room at once, not that fake or smarmy shit that has people commenting that it fake after the fact.

I've worked with accounts guys who can do it, I've watched them work close up, but I be damned if I cant just naturally do that.

[-] WoodScientist@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

To light things on fire with my mind.

[-] andrewta@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

You know someone who can light a fire with their mind?

[-] WoodScientist@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Maybe. On a completely unrelated note, can you let me know the next time you'll be in public, preferably not standing within several feet of anyone else and anything flammable?

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