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[-] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 80 points 1 month ago

If you're a quiet dedicated employee your value will be recognized and rewarded.

[-] Usernameblankface@lemmy.world 25 points 1 month ago

Yeah, that doesn't work well anymore. Gotta be a noisy dedicated worker, and be willing to move jobs a few times to start seeing the rewards

[-] kreskin@lemmy.world 14 points 1 month ago

rewards mostly come from job hopping. Raises at every place I've worked arent callibrated to inflation, so your 4% raise that the boss thinks is so great is closer to 0-1%/

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[-] Araithya@lemmy.world 66 points 1 month ago

“If you love something set it free, if it comes back it’s meant to be.” Nearly cost me the best relationship of my life because I was a dumb, impressionable kid that believed in wise sounding words. If you love something, hold on to it. Work for it. Don’t let it go just to “see if it comes back”.

Same could probably be said for just about any seemingly wise sounding sayings.

[-] Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 15 points 1 month ago

I think it's more about control than sending what you love away.

"Set it free" means let your love interest choose to stay or leave on their own, don't try to keep them caged.

Depending on what you mean, it's possible that your love you regret letting go of wouldn't have lasted even if you had held it and fought.

Though if you mean you took that saying and thought it meant you needed to push your love away to see if they returned, then yeah, that's not a great strategy.

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[-] Rednax@lemmy.world 64 points 1 month ago

"Fully empty your battery before charging it up again, it increases the lifespan of the battery."

This was true before lithium-ion batteries became the norm. But for lithium-ion batteries, the opposite holds.

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[-] weeeeum@lemmy.world 62 points 1 month ago

My grandpa told me "always call your boss sir, and respond "yes sir", youll be promoted real quick."

First day at my first job my boss tells me "by the way you don't need to call me sir, just Brian"

Its actually insane that the world that boomers lived in was that simple.

[-] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 month ago

Dutch has a formal and informal 2nd person word (think "you" vs "thou").

I have an intern who will not stop using the formal version, and it feels super awkward. I keep telling her to stop it, but she said she always uses with older people...

She's 23, I'm mid 30s. Ouch.

[-] RamblingPanda@lemmynsfw.com 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

At least she doesn't help you cross the street. Yet.

"Is your lunch soft enough? Should I cut it up for you? We have a blender back in the kitchen if you want?"

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[-] DrDystopia@lemy.lol 18 points 1 month ago

Sir Brian of Work

[-] ThomasCrappersGhost@feddit.uk 16 points 1 month ago

“You need to keep phoning and sending letters to employers, they’ll give you a job eventually”.

[-] technomad@slrpnk.net 9 points 1 month ago

Lump that in with the 'apply in person' crowd too.

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[-] friendlymessage@feddit.org 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

That advice could also be harmful to your career. Being subservient like that will make sure that your boss will never see you as an equal as e.g. a potential successor

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[-] Lightor@lemmy.world 60 points 1 month ago

My parents separated when I was really young, roughly 5 yrs old. As I grew up and had visitation with my dad he always drilled into me "women just want a man who can provide for them, in the end they all just want money." Being young and obviously not knowing how crazy my dad was yet, I believed him for a long time.

Turns out when you treat people like they just want you for your money, that's the only kind of people who will put up with you. Kinda self fulfilling. Found a nice lady now, happily married and caring about each other, not just money.

[-] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 51 points 1 month ago

Working hard will get you far.

[-] ryathal@sh.itjust.works 22 points 1 month ago

This works as long as you apply some level of thought to it. Digging a ditch with a spoon is hard work, it's unlikely to help you get anywhere.

[-] weeeeum@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago

Depends. For someone else? Maybe not. On yourself? Definitely.

Work hard studying and exercising. Self improvement I'd important, and its not related to job opportunities, but rather mastering the art of living.

[-] Boozilla@lemmy.world 45 points 1 month ago

"Find a job doing what you love, and you'll never work a day in your life."

I used to love software. Then all the Lumberghs took over.

[-] Lauchs@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago

How're your TPS reports coming along?

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[-] Krudler@lemmy.world 42 points 1 month ago

Effectively ALL of what I was told about what makes a satisfying and successful life. I was told the right thing to do is work hard, go to school, get a good stable job, get married, settle down, have kids, buy a house, own several depreciating assets.

Life is about being happy. Nothing else. Do what makes you happy, because that car, vacation, or other piece of consumer shit won't. Nor will living by scripts somebody else wrote for you.

I had my house paid off at 30 and was traveling 5-6 times a year. High-level in the gaming, lottery and promotions industries. Misery. Now I have a humble life and I paint and craft things and I go dancing. And I'm happy. I could pick up the tools again and make a highly successful Steam game, but I won't. I already proved my point in my career and creative output, and I don't want to anymore.

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[-] Speculater@lemmy.world 39 points 1 month ago

Happy wife, happy life. Marriage is about compromise and sometimes I want to be happy too.

[-] MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca 24 points 1 month ago

Happy spouse happy house is a better version. Both people should be happy.

[-] kambusha@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 month ago

Happy mate. Happy estate.

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[-] bitcrafter@programming.dev 12 points 1 month ago

Sure, but in fairness I think that the intent of that saying is not to say that husbands should not be happy but to counterbalance the trend that used to be more historically prevalent in marriages for the wife to be treated as an appendage of the husband and taken for granted. If you view your partner as co-equal then arguably this saying simply does not apply to you at all.

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[-] nycki@lemmy.world 35 points 1 month ago

Don't believe anything you read on Wikipedia.

[-] portuga@lemmy.world 37 points 1 month ago

That infuriates me. “Oh but anyone can edit”. Yes, but see for how many seconds your stupid edit will last. It’s the single most rich and accurate encyclopedia humanity has seen, ffs.

[-] Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Teachers should be using Wikipedia as an opportunity to teach skepticism and following sources. I wouldn't allow Wikipedia to be used as a cited source, but as a starting point for finding other sources on a topic.

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[-] Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 29 points 1 month ago

~2004. My highschool civics teacher told the class that real estate was always a good investment because it only went up. I didn't really trust him at the time though.

[-] ryathal@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 month ago

Real estate can be a good investment, even pre 2008 crash. What can be dangerous is over leveraging. A primary residence isn't really an investment, still worth buying though.

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[-] Borovicka@lemm.ee 8 points 1 month ago

I mean, if you had money at the time and bought a house in one of the larger cities or their suburbs, you would probably be loaded by now, even though you would regret it for about 5 years after the crash

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[-] kreskin@lemmy.world 29 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

"When you first move into a house dont make any improvements for at least 6 months."

I now see that its Terrible advice.

[-] riquisimo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 28 points 1 month ago

Haha, no.

When you first move in you see all the flaws that the previous owners got used to living with. Fix them while you're still motivated to.

[-] Subtracty@lemmy.world 22 points 1 month ago

Don't make any improvements is a crazy proposition. But I agree with living in the place 6 months before doing anything drastic unless it is obvious. I live in a very old house. It took us a while to see the reasoning behind some of the features in our house. We were tempted to scrap anything that wasn't typical in new constructions, but that would have been a waste of money.

I was happy saving up for a few months and observing the house to see where my money was best spent.

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[-] sbv@sh.itjust.works 28 points 1 month ago

Find what you love, and then figure out how to make money on it.

It worked for me, but not my spouse. Sometimes you just need to find something you're happy enough doing to make the income.

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[-] mlg@lemmy.world 27 points 1 month ago

You can always find it cheaper on Ebay.

This is actually somewhat true again now that Amazon has gone full monopoly abuse, but for a while Ebay was nothing but 1:1 with Amazon sellers and a serious lack of auctions.

Although you can go much lower with Ali Express and Temu, albeit with risk invovled.

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[-] Kaiyoto@lemmy.world 22 points 1 month ago

Work hard and do your best at work and you'll go places.

Yeah I got moved around several times in the office. That's about it.

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[-] hperrin@lemmy.ca 17 points 1 month ago

Something along the lines of "don't ever go to bed angry at each other." Like, yeah, you should try to work it out, but if you fucked up real bad, don't push it. Sleep on the couch.

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[-] Vanth@reddthat.com 15 points 1 month ago

Ages like milk...

Drink a full glass of milk at every meal. Otherwise, your bones will turn to pudding and you'll get kidnapped at the mall because you'll be too soft to put up a fight. Or whatever scare scenarios Big Milk pushed in the US in the 80s and 90s.

Now everyone's drinking nut and oat milk because of health reasons and also drinking the milk of another mammal is kinda weird.

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[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 14 points 1 month ago

Go to a four year college so you can get the best jobs.

[-] exasperation@lemm.ee 15 points 1 month ago

Nah, that advice is still correct. The 4-year degree provides a huge benefit over not having it.

It's just that a lot of people don't realize just how much shittier not having a degree in 2024 is compared to not having a degree in 1974.

So while the baseline has gotten worse, and the actual benefit of college has shrunk, it's still easily worth the 4 year commitment and the tuition/opportunity cost.

[-] linux2647@lemmy.sdf.org 10 points 1 month ago

Counter-point: not everyone is cut out for a four-year degree*. Some people are better suited for trade schools. My wife worked at a university and saw a number of students that were attending just because family wanted them to, but their heart wasn’t in it. Often they’d drop out with student debt and no degree to show for it.

*or at least when they’re young

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[-] 1985MustangCobra@lemmy.ca 12 points 1 month ago

you wont be alone everyone finds a lifelong partner.

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[-] MattTheProgrammer@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago

Don't talk to strangers on the internet

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