So...you also want us to feel sorry for people who chose to sign up to be a soldier, knowing what that would entail? There are also women who died or were maimed or abused in war. Not as many, because not as many women chose that (or could choose that).

That's kind of the point, someone can make a bad choice because of poor education and prospects, but another person is given no choice. I'd argue the person with no choices is worse off. Men have historically denied women the right to choose and I see that attitude is on the rise. Its unhelpful to say 'what about men' when talking about the struggles of women and marginalised genders.

Not that male struggles aren't important, but its exactly the same as when a marginalised race says 'black lives matter' and a white person says 'all lives matter'. The latter is true, but doesn't need to be said - everyone already agrees. Noone is trying specifically to take rights away from men, and definitely not women. Its not just the patriarchy that fucks all people, but capitalism. Women's issues go beyond that because people also in a state of being fucked by patriarchy/capitalism are hurting them specifically because they're women.

I do think that if decent people can try to understand the different struggles and be allies for each other, that's how we all win. It's just that given the fact that when so many women are being harmed by men, is it surprising that a lot of women are untrusting and even hostile? Like the 4B movement. Its bad enough that there's still a gender pay gap, that CEOs are rarely women etc. They're seeing their hard won rights dwindle away in real time.