no i'm not seething right now. yes this will probably get deleted once i've gotten my rage out of my cage. why do men love to go 'yeah come over' and when i do come over tell me 'umm so actually my roommate is watching TV and we have an open door policy so...do you mind if we hang out outside i brought a shitty blanket'.
why was i so down bad upon first sight that i said sure despite everything being wet from the rain. why did we both actually have a good time. why did i tell him to give me a 'huge one' when he tried to give me a hickey. why did he listen. why did HE FUCKING BLOCK ME AHHHHHH.
As a leftist I wouldn't block anyone i had a literal 'we're doing the notebook except we met two days ago and instead of a rainy lake or whatever it is a rainy apartment complex and we're not fighting about your mother and also you're just railing me so not really the notebook at all' moment with even if they told me they ran the Ayn Rand fan club but apparently those who find me hot don't think the same way...
anyways please hope i feel better because if I get sicker I'm gonna keep posting since I cannot text them like 'i hate your guts you got me sick also would you like to hang out once i feel better'
In 13 year vet of Grindr, I consider myself a power user, more hookups, hang outs, and friends made than I can count.
You got have more discriminating taste number one. You gotta be mad when these guys reveal that they are losers. Open door policy and roommates watching TV? He's a bitch boy who isn't even in control of his own bedroom. You need to look on these people with disgust. Carplay is a similar red flag.
Once you figured out somebody is disingenuous, a loser, or otherwise skeevy you have to block them. Don't engage, call them names, try to talk them into something else, argue, anything, just block and move on.
Grindr is a fucked up meat market, you either fuck or get fucked, play or get played. If you're into hookups you gotta stay one step ahead of these fucks because they will take advantage of you and leave you feeling shitty. you gotta have strict boundaries and standards and you have to bounce people the second they don't live up to your expectations. Instead of feeling horrible about being mistreated you will have blocked the problematic people and you will have more time to pursue the ones who are actually worth it
There's plenty of great sex to be had on Grindr but you won't get to have any of it if you let losers fuck you over in the rain. Only you can make the determination that you deserve better than that
real but it isn't like this dude specifically was a loser (weird 'roommate' excuse & the outside location notwithstanding); just slight loser vibes lol. and what the hell carplay can be fine if they are up-front about it, have a car that isn't tiny, and have a spot in mind that won't have a cop shining a flashlight on the foggy window. Getting 3/3 is usually impossible though so fair enough but I will never insta block anyone who is like "i can't host but can do carplay" lmao because at least they are giving an alternative option.