At this point IDK if this is for it against and idc, just pointing it how it could be an issue for most men. I'm not really one for marriage and would rather be single. I myself don't want meaningless sex but to be exploratory(kinks, trauma, neuroses[basically amatuer sexual therapy and seeing what exactly makes me tick and what I actually like because I still don't really know]) and if I would marry them I probably would've been fwbs at first, because idk I'm not one to care about 'sanctity', and would like to know I'm physically / sexuality compatible along with everything else. I just don't see this as someone who's prioritizing ownership of a hole and more of a physical insecurity by mentally comparing themselves to people they've fucked or would've fucked previously.