I have to ask, what do you hope to accomplish with this line of discussion?

So far we have:

• Men have it worse? What about RAPE!?
• Ok maybe men get raped but it's by other men (...and therefore what?)
• Anyone who downvotes is a men's libber
• Ok rape is bad full stop regardless of gender but
• Saying men get raped more (who said this btw?) means they are trying to be victims when they don't belong as victims.

Let me tell you, as a man who struggles with mental health, there are a shit load of "men's help" content creators that bait the hook with showing empathy for men's issue and then sprinkle just enough mysogonisric bullshit in there to get people to start sliding down that slippery slope.

Talk like this is exactly what makes people think "you know what, maybe this misogynistic asshole had a point, I tried to say that maybe men shouldn't be mistreated then got told that because men rape people, we don't matter."

I know that's not your point or what you wanted to say, but just read back what your said and try to imagine you're reading it as someone struggling with mental health. Maybe even try reversing the genders and see if you're still ok with what you said.

Personally I think women in general have a harder time, but why does that matter here? There are plenty of issues unique to or especially bad for men, women, nb folks and we should be discussing issues with empathy for both sides and not falling down these extremist, side picking rabbit holes trying to play 'gotcha'. That just hurts everyone.

In terms of downvotes, I'd note that the person actually asking for the evidence that men are treated worse overall is (imo rightfully) upvoted at this time. So I'd challenge your assumption that everyone who downvoted you is a certain type of person.