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Is this romantic or a red flag?
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First, 100% a red flag. Even if they wanted to give some sort of "I trust you with my life" sort of video, there's a bunch of better ways to do it. Going for a racist rant makes me think that they're a racist.
Secondly, this is deeply submissive - they're giving you the power to ruin their life. If you want to do that sort of stuff as a couple you should really talk about it first and be on board with receiving that sort of power and responsibility. Entirely possible+reasonable for the receiver to find this shitty because they don't want to make a choice like this, especially if these are truly held beliefs.
The healthy response to this is to send them to a therapist. And definitely dump them if they're actually racist.
I don't see how someone could do a racist rant and not be racist. That it is a rant is an important word here.
Have you never heard of acting?
Where's the leverage if it's a performance?
I can (and have, many times) dropped a hard-r for comedic effect, even around my black friends, as they have the context to know that I'm not actually the kind of person to use that word normally
If I was recorded and shared to the internet doing so free of context, I would be labelled as a racist shithead immediately and forever
Is that the situation here? It is not.
Everyone wanting to give the benefit of the doubt here gives racists room to exist.
You asked, I answered
Don't like the answers, don't ask the questions
At least we've established that you enable racists.
That's how I read it, yes. But we obviously don't have enough context to say whether the GF is actually racist or just pretending to be as a crazy trust exercise. I'm taking it as a crazy trust exercise because that's the only way this could fit any definition of "romantic."
I bet if you tried hard enough you could come up with one
Ok. What's yours?
I think taking any random problem and putting blame on a group of people would be racist. I could spruce it up with the term “nipper” or “kike” and most people would find it racist
I suppose you just don’t find anything racist if you can’t come up with it
I am arguing the exact opposite.
You’re saying a non-racist person couldn’t say anything racist
The only way to argue that is if they don’t know what is racist
Not even if you were an actor?
Subby racist? She clearly wants the colored dick "forced" on her