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submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

I read a Reddit (through RDX mind you) post the other day that included the Who we serve page from the democrats' website. The user noted that men were not on that list and pointed it out as on of the reasons Kamala Harris had lost. Meaning the Democratic Party should pander to the white young men demographic as well. A link to the post (through RDX)

I keep seeing this sentiment over and over again on social media. And I can't help but make the analogy to the "All lives matter." as opposed to "Black Lives matter." Am I wrong to think this? I am not from the United States. Please don't bite my head off as this is no stupid questions.

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What is your motto? (lemmy.world)
submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

Doesn't have to be a life motto. Any motto, for any application.

Mine is: "Fear is shorter than regret."

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submitted 3 months ago by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

geteilt von: https://lemmy.world/post/18499026

https://www.mystateline.com/news/national/almost-half-of-young-men-have-never-approached-a-woman-romantically-study/

“In the entire dataset, 29% of men said they never approached a woman in person before. 27% said it had been more than one year. This was larger for men in the age 18-25 group: 45% had never approached a woman in person,” according to the study.

A majority of single males surveyed reported fear as the main reason they do not approach women for dates in person. Fear of rejection and fear of social consequences were the two most common responses.

The data highlights a growing concern in the United States and abroad — loneliness. A 2023 report from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services found that almost half of U.S. adults report “measurable levels of loneliness.”

It's interesting to say the least. It seems as though the social repercussions and rejection are the most profound reason. While the fear of rejection is easy enough to digest. But I think the fear or social consequences is a relatively new construct.

From what I understand it's the fear of being viewed as a creep to approach a woman out of the blue. Which to me, is reasonable enough. But I don't think I have ever heard my old man or anyone of his generation bringing this to the table.

Yet I do remember asking my friends about picking up hints and whether or not men are really that bad at it. And most them saying the just don't want to risk misinterpreting it.

Perhaps there is an argument to be made that approaching women like this, has fallen out of social fashion. What do you guys think?

p.s. I hope this is casual enough of a conversation. I kinda screwed up my last one, I admit.

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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemm.ee

https://www.mystateline.com/news/national/almost-half-of-young-men-have-never-approached-a-woman-romantically-study/

“In the entire dataset, 29% of men said they never approached a woman in person before. 27% said it had been more than one year. This was larger for men in the age 18-25 group: 45% had never approached a woman in person,” according to the study.

A majority of single males surveyed reported fear as the main reason they do not approach women for dates in person. Fear of rejection and fear of social consequences were the two most common responses.

The data highlights a growing concern in the United States and abroad — loneliness. A 2023 report from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services found that almost half of U.S. adults report “measurable levels of loneliness.”

It's interesting to say the least. It seems as though the social repercussions and rejection are the most profound reason. While the fear of rejection is easy enough to digest. But I think the fear or social consequences is a relatively new construct.

From what I understand it's the fear of being viewed as a creep to approach a woman out of the blue. Which to me, is reasonable enough. But I don't think I have ever heard my old man or anyone of his generation bringing this to the table.

Yet I do remember asking my friends about picking up hints and whether or not men are really that bad at it. And most them saying the just don't want to risk misinterpreting it.

Perhaps there is an argument to be made that approaching women like this, has fallen out of social fashion. What do you guys think?

p.s. I hope this is casual enough of a conversation. I kinda screwed up my last one, I admit.

Edit: Here is a more detailed paper on the survey for those that are interested

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submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemm.ee

Right out of the gate: I am a lonesome person. I try to remedy this by going out, doing activities and be amongst people. For instance I went to the city to watch the soccer game between England and The Netherlands. I had no one to watch it with, so I figured I may as well just head into town and watch it in a pub or something. Lo and behold, I run into a guy I know. We get to talk and he asks who I'm here with. So I say to him I'm by myself. "By yourself?" he replies, genuinely perplexed. And I'm here thinking: Well what do you want to me to say?

Bottom line: It's already hard enough to gather the motivation to do stuff on your own, without people feeling sorry for you.

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submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

When I get a match on a dating app, and it's going well, I often run into the problem of not knowing how to conclude texting for the day. My social battery runs out pretty quickly when texting. Especially when I just met the other person that day. I usually just tell a white lie.

So does anyone maybe have a good line on how to end things casually, for the day? Or is this something you should tell them beforehand? Or is telling a white lie the proper way to go in this scenario?

Please let me know your thoughts on the matter.

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submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

I saw an article about them attacking Lebanon now. So, where will it stop? Have the Israeli government ever spoken about this?

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submitted 5 months ago by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/videos@lemmy.world

Just a funny video I found ^^

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submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

When I was about 8/9 years old I was told by a friend of mine I couldn't play with them any more. Their mother didn't approve of it for some reason.

One year later I asked my mom if she ever knew why this was the case. She said that other mother thought I wasn't good enough for her child. But that after a while that mother said she may be okay with it now.

But my mother said she didn't like that idea. That this friendship would be all reliant on that mother's "generosity". And I didn't feel the need to object to that. My mom's reasoning made perfect sense to me, even on age 10. This was not the way you treat friendships fairly from a parents perspective, I realised. (There is a little more to this story though, but this is all I care to share.)

I still feel like that was a mature thing I did. Because I was not a child that took 'no' very well at that age. So what are your childhood experiences where, now upon looking back, you feel you handled it maturely?

[-] FatTony@lemmy.world 101 points 6 months ago

Unplug the virtual cable.

[-] FatTony@lemmy.world 95 points 6 months ago

To the other sideside.

[-] FatTony@lemmy.world 173 points 6 months ago

DuckDuckGo has changed its policy to DuckDuckStop. So now no one can use it anymore.

(I dunno DuckDuckGo is not working anymore. I think it has something to do with Microsofts servers)

[-] FatTony@lemmy.world 83 points 6 months ago

Only the groovy kids!

[-] FatTony@lemmy.world 265 points 6 months ago

🙂 🙃 🙂

[-] FatTony@lemmy.world 119 points 6 months ago
[-] FatTony@lemmy.world 185 points 6 months ago

I don't know who the backstreet boys are but here you go:

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submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

Edit: Due to popular demand FatTony Search servers are down for the time being. but has gone open source just in time (Yes that's how it works 😡) . You may now get responses from other users. Servers will be back up some time later.

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submitted 6 months ago by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/movies@lemmy.world

I got inspired to make this after watching 'The House That Jack Built' and 'Nymphomaniac'

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submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/movies@lemmy.world
[-] FatTony@lemmy.world 79 points 1 year ago

Man, techworkers are really into getting laid off huh?

Jokes aside, why is this happening so much recently?

[-] FatTony@lemmy.world 122 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I don't know. Selling out on the one thing that made you stand out as a company? Sounds like a smart business decision to me.

[-] FatTony@lemmy.world 87 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Damn, knowing this reboot was supposed to be the start of the new Saints Row franchise. It's depressing to just see it crumble down like this. I mean seriously in the broad scheme of things what happened here? It's like after SR4 they were all out of ideas.

Let's try recreating Saints Row 4 but with Johnny Gat as the protagonist ... and also he's now in hell.

Let's try being Overwatch!

Let's try starting from scratch!

Let's try permanently shutting down!

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