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Does anyone else... (lemmy.world)

submitted 12 hours ago by LadyButterfly@lemmy.world to c/adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com

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[-] resipsaloquitur@lemm.ee 3 points 1 hour ago

I should get that diagnosis. 😐

[-] LadyButterfly@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

I got diagnosed as neurodiverse and it changed my life I 100% recommend it

[-] Bruhh@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

The longer I spend on lemmy, the more I feel seen

[-] pHr34kY@lemmy.world 32 points 6 hours ago

A phone call at the wrong time will write off your entire day.

[-] jballs@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 hours ago

I got an unsolicited work call at 4:50 yesterday. It was too late to run the entire day, so I'm counting it for today and ain't doing shit.

[-] Nougat@fedia.io 21 points 6 hours ago

There is no right time for a phone call.

[-] knightly@pawb.social 2 points 4 hours ago

Meetings that could have been a pinned post in the group chat are way too common.

[-] bizzle@lemmy.world 17 points 7 hours ago

Human beings are endurance hunters and therefore should spend 90% of the time chilling.

[-] Lucien@mander.xyz 6 points 5 hours ago

EXACTLY. In the hunter-gatherer world, ADHD peeps were top performers.

[-] NABDad@lemmy.world 14 points 8 hours ago

In my case, that's not from having ADHD, it's from having coworkers.

After a brief period of work in the morning, it's nothing but meetings and calls until mid afternoon.

[-] red_bull_of_juarez@lemmy.dbzer0.com 33 points 12 hours ago

I read posts like this and I wonder if there are labels for my dysfunctions. I suspect I have ADD and am somewhere on the spectrum. But I've lived with it for so long, that I am very high functioning these days. A lot of the symptoms just got better over time.

[-] warbond@lemmy.world 8 points 7 hours ago

I tried to get tested, but when I took the initial questionnaire I felt like so many of my coping mechanisms were working that the questions didn't really apply. So I don't have ADHD, I'm just a lazy fuck, I guess.

[-] TheBluePillock@lemmy.world 5 points 3 hours ago

I pointed out to the doctor that tested me how I could answer many questions as a 1 or a 5 depending on how I interpreted it. For example, "have problems with being on time." I could say never or almost never, or I could say the overwhelming fear of losing track of time and being late ensures I'll do nothing beforehand and leave way too early out of boredom/anxiety.

In the end I put 5 because what they're looking for is if you've struggled with these problems for your whole life. Learning and implementing coping mechanisms isn't an argument against that struggle, it's evidence for it.

But for what it's worth, I answered 1 the first time I took one of those and went 12 more years without getting diagnosed. I think about that a lot.

[-] kameecoding@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

I have the same thing, anxiety about being late counteracts my minds want to wander and fuck off into the unknown.

[-] AppearanceBoring9229@sh.itjust.works 26 points 11 hours ago

Same here, everytime I see a post like this I think that I may be on the spectrum, but on the other hand I don't see any benefit on getting diagnosed now other than curiosity.

Also makes me wonder what else I've believed it's completely common, but it's not.

[-] Poppa_Mo@lemmy.world 32 points 10 hours ago

Ohhhhhh no. So... I'm a late diagnosed fuck head. I had that same train of thought. Here's what actually happens.

You get put on meds that make absolute, dead ass silence tolerable.

That in and of itself is surreal.

Then you explore more. Find these new limits without the constant distraction.

Immediately feel ripped off by life realizing how many more actual important things you could've stomped out in a day without a weeks worth of planning and monkey paw style wishes and false promises.

Pivot to hating everyone "normal" for "being lazy and not using this inherent super power". (This sounds familiar? Lazy. Just need discipline! Boot straps!)

Slowly realize now YOU have the actual super power.

Get used to the meds. Become reliant on them to even be half as functional as you were when they were new, though still significantly better than you were, it is never like that first month.

Queue exploring other medications with your doctor who assures you they care, but now you're suspect for asking instead of being offered.

These are controlled substances, after all. Maybe now you're not addicted to being normal and productive, and can actually function more than base survival.

Nope. This must be an addiction issue.

Rinse and repeat.

Welcome to the show.

This is still better than being ignored.

[-] Bosht@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago

Jesus fuck holy hell this was me down to the letter. Only difference was my meds worked for probably a year, which made the drop in productivity even more obvious. Like a 'why brain no worky' moment that just curved down over time. I had other shit going on though that I like to partially attribute, plus my med spiking up to 450 a month was enough for me to get off meds which was even more horrifyingly bad. Now 2 years later I'm back to being unproductive and kicking myself 10 times harder because I know what I'm capable of. Queue the endless anxiety / stress / guilt cycle. Now I have to go through finding another doc, then 6 months of scaling whatever med, that's if I ever remember after work that I need to do it to begin with. Only time I ever remember is laying in bed at night losing sleep because of the amount of anxiety I have from not performing.

[-] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 5 hours ago

I'm stealing this for the next psychologist and/or psychiatrist appointment; more or less sums up my goals and expectations for ADHD treatment (although I'm not especially interested in stimulant meds, pharmacy juggling to find meds in stock sounds like hell)