True, but it's also frustrating in reverse when you can't get anything out in a timely manner and the other party gets upset at you.
I've just started doing the circle finger thing Charlie does in the Dennis Reynolds looks like a sex offender episode.
It's probably considered rude but it works
I wish people had this
No way! (I go for the full 2 rather than mere 1.5 that the cursor is paused on here:-P)
Depends on the presenter. Some I have to go as low as 1.25 and others (thankfully rarely) 2 is not enough.
Let me tell you about Freetube, where it let's you have a custom max limit of playback speed. I find myself sticking to 5x for the past couple of weeks.
So does tubular, (fork of newpipe with sponsorblock) also idk what kind of voodoo the fucking genius devs are doing but they managed to add automated downloadable captions to even non-captioned videos.
Fuck. Yeah.
Oh I still have this, I'm just better at powering through now. My siblings had no issues. Shout to be heard type of household, and I cant shout very well.
Didnt help that my mother has a meandering way of talking and thinking:
e.g. "tetris, I want you to do something for me, remember that curtain rail that I got from Argos before it closed down, we went there with Henry's mum, the one who hurt her shoulder playing tennis, and now Henry's going to join the army, hopefully not helping the IDF, which by the way did you see the news...."
I now stop her at the first tangent, and kindly state to her "mum, finish your sentence" where she then realises that she's holding me hostage and then gets to the point
I see,
ADHD 2 ADHD communication
Absolutely….
When I’m tired, I sound just like their mom, haha. So does my husband.
We both have ADHD 🙃
Ah, this is my wife. She almost certainly has ADHD herself and hates being interrupted. I've been coaching her to begin with a thesis sentence before giving all the context, and it's soooo helpful when she remembers.
what's a thesis sentence?
So, when she wants me to pick up something from a neighbor, instead of: starting with the name of the neighbor, how she knows the neighbor, previous things we've picked up from the neighbor, previous things the neighbor has picked up from us, other reasons I might remember the neighbor; and then moving onto what she wants the item I'll be picking up for; and then asking me if I'll pick it up; and only at the very end telling me where I'll be picking it up from;
instead of all that, starting with: "Will you do a pick-up from ?" and then give all that context afterwards so I can properly sift the information with an endgoal in mind.
It's not that I want to skip the rest; I love her voice and hearing her talk, I just get anxious trying to remember everything. If I know in advance what's important I can focus on that and let the irrelevant slip away.
oh I see, yeah definitely just give me the summary and then let me tune out the other details haha
I have like....at least three people in my immediate family who are like "So I.....uh.....went.....to.....uh.....the.....uh......repair......uh......shop......uh....."
I don't wear a watch, but I look at my wrist now to simulate looking at one
My personal hell is wanting to read these super long replies on post in this community, to better understand my adhd, but I can't bring myself to finish reading them. Something else always snags my attention.
The ADHD tendency to hyperfocus and write super detailed descriptions.
vs.
The ADHD tendency to say: Nope! Too long, not reading that!
I'm 100% on the second one, I have even warned a friend many times "you've been typing for far too long, I'm not gonna read it"
When I'm typing I loose the same amount of time trying to be concise though.
You really have to learn to better contr....oh look, a meme, be right back!
It's torture for everyone involved. I had a speech impediment growing up, and getting interrupted became my biggest "immediately lose my cool" button.
So naturally my wife and kid have ADHD. Go figure lmao. We're all working on it.
then by the time they do i've used up my quota of social interaction for the day
Eight times worse for me is waiting for others to take their turn at a board game. Recently played Wyrmspan (Wingspan but with dragons). Nobody was even thinking about what they were doing next until their turn and somebody's spouse wanted to leave and kept asking if we were almost done. We only got to play 3 out of the 4 rounds.
This infuriated me when we last played Settlers of Catan with my friends
I've actually learned to recognize when people expect me to finish a sentence for them and then just wait for them to finish it themselves.
Them: "Hi, I'm looking for a Stephen King book, and I was wondering if you could..."
Me: "..."
Them: "..." [meaningful look]
Me: "..." [blank questioning stare]
Them: "...help me find it?"
Me: "Oh, of course! It's right this way."
It's a fun little game to play with conversational expectations.
The worst is when people clearly don't know how to order the information being presented.
I mean, I don’t know how to order the information being presented like maybe 50% of the time…😬
Yeah, but I've had problems where I ask a question to get to the point and get hold "hold on, I'll get there". It is frustrating to have people waste my time when they don't give me context when I ask for it because they internally rehearsed the wrong way to present something.
Yes… yes it is.
For real, for real.
The lighter side of ADHD
