How I see myself, in an image:
.... It's not pretty I'll say that much. It's pretty much a daily mantra of "you're worthless. You're pathetic. You're an idiot. You're living the life you deserve" deserve being: perpetually single, working in a factory, renting a garage "apartment."
Know your worth and you don't know what you got.
One person's trash is another's treasure, but sometimes fixing and cleaning up an item devalues it to the right person.
A misprint is the most valuable form of currency, but most see it as a fake or worthless.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and ugly is ironically chic when value is irrelevant.
Self depreciation is fair value in your economy.
Putting money in a car for personal aesthetic taste or greater performance doesn't add value if the engine is blown.
“It’s gonna be okay?”
“It’s gonna be okay.”
“It’s gonna be okay!”
“Of course it’s will be okay, I’m the one who’s going to fix it!”
I've always been confused by this whole concept of telling myself things about myself. I see it regularly in self-help things - "You just need to tell yourself 'I'm a good person'" or whatever - but it doesn't even begin to make sense to me.
I don't understand how it's supposed to work. I'm not two different people, so I can't tell myself something that I don't already know. If it's true and I can say it to myself, that's necessarily because I already know it. And it's not as if I can bullshit myself without knowing that that's what I'm doing.
Sorry - probably not the sort of response you were hoping for.
I thought that I was the same as you, but actually I realise I 'tell myself' things all the time.
Mostly it feels like I'm bullshitting myself with things I 'know to be true' to drown out irrational things I feel.
Do you never have irrational monkeybrain chatter? Like, "I don't feel like I'm ever going to be good at X"; only to reassure yourself that you'll get better as you practice? If I ever feel disheartened, I often 'tell myself' that I'm not special enough to be uniquely incapable of learning whatever it is.
I put 'tell myself' in quotes because none of this actually happens in slow full language sentences in my head. It can, but bothering to sound out the whole thought seems silly and inefficient somehow. Mostly it happens in fragmented feelings and flashes of remembered sensations.
Similar to people telling me that I need to talk about things. It’s not like I can’t analyze things in my mind. I guess everyone has different brains.
I remind myself of.. Fuck I forgot.
Nah for real though, occasionally I remind myself to not take bullshit or threats from others.
Shit, even if I post some off-the-wall words occasionally, maybe I just had a bad day, ignore my dumb shit and downvote me into oblivion.
At heart I'm actually a genuinely caring person, but sometimes we all have bad days.
I want to be a better man, not a bitter man.
The most dangerous lies you will ever hear are the ones we tell ourselves.
I tell myself that if the material world is all there is, then we live in a horror show
I'm not supposed to be here, but I am, so let's bring some happiness to others.
Genius. You are an amazing person. Reminds me of a Kurt Vonnugut quote....
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind."
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