For context: One of the rules in that community is that you aren't allowed to post anything related to suicide. In a mental health community.
I guess we really are trying to recreate everything about reddit here.
If you’d told me the most upvoted comment on my profile would be about inserting my lebanese blind vegan hamster in my urethra while playing Country Roads on the kazoo with a sombrero, I wouldn’t have believed it!!!
Next up on the list of bringing over shitty Reddit concepts:
Telling every single person to break up who needs relationship advice.
I know this is an unpopular opinion, but that's because a good amount of the time it's true...
Relationships are a lot of work, but shouldn't be hard. If your relationship is getting so difficult that you feel the need to post your issues on the Internet to get advice from strangers, your relationship is more or less done and haven't really noticed it yet.
If it's a one off issue that you need some outside help to see another perspective, than breaking up is probably not the solution; however, if it's habitual then yeah breaking up is probably for the best.
We tend to have loss aversion and get trapped in the sunken cost fallacy with relationships and can't see that it needs to end.
That said, giving advice for a bad relationship is like seeing a person who has an addiction problem. That person needs to realize what it is, and no amount of advice can help.
I remember someone posting a asklemmy question about the "benefits of smoking" 🤦♂️
I feel bad for the person
Edit: I found the post, original post has been removed, but here's my instance's version that didn't receive the deletion request: https://reddthat.com/post/822703
Benefits of smoking...well, it's good for the environment, I suppose
But seriously, you have to! He's testing the grounds. Get out now or submit!
Don't you see all the red flags??? You should totally leave him.
That’s really not a Reddit exclusive thing. It’s more of an entire internet thing.
Are… are you okay?
Man, I don't even know anymore... Covid, War in Ukraine, Climate change, Upcoming 2024 Election, feels like too much has been going on. 2024 could mean the end of everything. (I'm a non-white immigrant so I'll be the first ones to be targeted if the election doesn't go well).
Hey, dude, I feel I somewhat understand you, because I was the same, and am the same. But here's something I learned a while ago that helped (obviously didn't kill it). It's by now a cliche and is totally commercialized, but hey, if it works.
Habit 1: Be Proactive: Focus and act on what you can control and influence instead of what you can’t.
There are a lot of things you can't control/have causal effects in life. You will kill yourself worrying about them. Drop the bad news you can't change. If you already know who you are going to vote for, just don't read the political news. Do you parts for the climate change and forget the rest. etc.
Live long and prosper.
Damn… Yeah, it‘s rough. Life is never all butterflies and rainbows, but it‘s also easy to forget that there is also much potential for good things to happen as well: Indulging in new and old hobbies, the next night out with friends, some really good food, a weekend trip to somewhere interesting and so much more. It‘s important to shift perspective from time to time. Keeping a journal for what you‘re grateful for/happy about is one technique to iron out that negativity bias a bit. Note that this is not the be all and end all solution for keeping all depressing thoughts at bay. If it‘s still a problem, please seek professional help.
Can't really say it's not that bad so I'll just say that I hope that your tomorrow is slightly better than your today. Also there are a lot of people that value you as a human and want you in their community. Fascists are just louder (and more dangerous). Sending you love.
Take heart. America, like all developed nations, can’t live without immigrants to counteract its declining birth rate. If you live in fear that all immigrants will be expunged, you can relax.
Meanwhile women have already been targeted and shot at and hit because one of the last elections didn’t go well. Gay and trans people are being erased from places like a Florida and Texas right now.
Turn that anxiety into volunteer hours registering voters, or helping women access critical healthcare.
I spoke about suicide in the venting sub and got permabanned from all of reddit for "advocating violence" Yeah.
Re-write, please let me know if I misunderstood:
I spoke about suicide in the venting sub and got permabanned from all of reddit for "advocating violence".
I feel like this needs context.
The rule is probably in place so other people don‘t get triggered to contemplate suicide as well.
But there’s research to prove that’s not a thing. Copy-catting maybe, but you’ll never “give them the idea”. If they’re in that bad of a spot, they’re there already -source: suicide prevention trainer, but not mental health professional
Could you provide a source for that research? I swear I'm not being combative, just genuinely interested.
Not OP but here you go. I work with young people and have had suicide prevention training multiple times, this is a recurring mantra that not asking about it is much worse than asking.
Not the original commenter, but I know it's included in the yearly training for Army civilians and soldiers. We have to take suicide prevention training every year. I don't think the training itself sources the info though. Also I don't know if you can access the training without a CAC. In any case, they say that it is just a myth. You don't have to tiptoe around the idea of suicide. It's better to ask someone if they're thinking about it if you're truly worried that they are.
It's much more dangerous not to ask about suicide than to ask about it. The myth you're spreading is ridiculously dangerous and you should really stop. Just simply stating it as a matter of fact like you did is enough to keep perpetuating it. It's harmful and you should stop. You should even modify the comment as people are upvoting it and clearly believe it.
Back on reddit I was active in a psychology sub with a "no self help questions" rule. This was in place because the mods said we have no way of any kind of quality control relating the answers you might get. This is the internet, and some jerk will probably feel empowered giving harmful advice or straight up advocating pro suicide to be extra edgy. There was, however, an automod providing actual self help hotlines and websites from basically all around the world. While I tend to agree that Lemmy wouldn't be my platform of choice when it comes to actual mortal danger (like in the case of severe suicidal ideation) I feel like we could benefit from something like that over here.
Very cringe of them
In a way it's understandable, people who are drawn to this community might be quite vulnerable to mention of suicide. Then again, some of them may need a space to discuss their suicidal thoughts. There's no easy answer to this problem. Blurr suicide related posts in feeds maybe? Not ideal still.
I agree, and while I'm not in a position to run a community myself, it would be really great to have spaces here like r/PsychotherapyLeftists and r/MutualSupport where there is a supportive community with an understanding of how oppression and the world becoming more dystopic every day impacts our mental health
Meanwhile, and I hate to link to reddit (plus the site crashes every time I open it) but these resources might be helpful:
https://www.reddit.com/r/PsychotherapyLeftists/comments/ix7zuh/how_do_i_find_a_leftist_therapist/
https://www.reddit.com/r/MutualSupport/comments/bw6mcu/very_important_resources_and_information_for/
"We’re always here for you"
Well, they’re not wrong, they just do they best to make the "always" part very short.
Isn't Lemmy supposed to be better than Reddit? Or we just going to start figuring out the actual issue with Reddit was the retarded moderators?
I mean, Lemmy has the exact same potential for issues with admins and mods - the key difference being that if those issues happen you can just up and off to another instance without having to abandon Lemmy altogether.
More importantly, you could have an instance that's specifically tailored to a purpose. Like a mental health non profit could create an instance with expert guidance and instance wide rules for mental health communities.
retarded moderators
Yeah let's not pretend it's just the mods.
Mods will be mods.