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[-] spujb@lemmy.cafe 75 points 5 months ago
[-] gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 5 months ago

highly interesting. I assume it is the abstract thinking process, combined with dissociation from yourself?

Then maybe, any puzzle computer game might provide similar effects.

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[-] GrymEdm@lemmy.world 51 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Serious answer: I remind myself it's normal to be shocked by some stuff people do/create. I check the content against my ethics, and try to decide if I'm being uptight or if it really is messed up. If it's something that isn't unethical/harmful but I just don't like, then I remind myself that not everyone needs to share my tastes.

If it's genuinely terrible I allow myself to feel the anger/sorrow for a bit, try not to let it become excessive, and congratulate myself on having limits that fit my ethics. I remind myself that good people exist and they are the ones I want to support, emulate, and engage with. As others have mentioned, distraction can also help. Video games, music, socializing - whatever will move your train of thought along.

[-] jimmydoreisalefty@lemmy.world 12 points 5 months ago

What a great way to word it!

Thank you for taking the time to explain your way of handling tha reality of being exposed to the internet!

[-] shit_of_ass@sh.itjust.works 39 points 5 months ago

I became desensitized thanks to copious gore at 13 😂

[-] Stern@lemmy.world 13 points 5 months ago

Goatse, 1man1jar, 2girls1cup, Mr. Hands, BME Pain Olympics, and unhealthy amounts of 4chan means the horrors of today slide off me like water off a ducks back.

[-] Whitebrow@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago

Add tubgirl, 3 guys 1 hammer, kids in a sandbox, Mr hands, blue waffle and a whole lotta other stuff that shouldn’t have been as unfiltered and uncategorized as it was at the time.

[-] Hahah_Montana@lemmy.wtf 3 points 5 months ago

Pain Olympics... shivers

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[-] victorz@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

Same. Although I had a couple of re-sensitizing events when each of my children were born. But sometimes the allure gets to me...

[-] Agent641@lemmy.world 2 points 5 months ago

So many chechen beheading videos. They pair well with the HD drone grenade kills coming out of Ukraine

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[-] jordanlund@lemmy.world 34 points 5 months ago
[-] safesyrup@lemmy.hogru.ch 3 points 5 months ago
[-] jordanlund@lemmy.world 10 points 5 months ago

Yup! Willow, our latest. 2 months old.

Going to the vet:

Coming home from the vet:

[-] safesyrup@lemmy.hogru.ch 5 points 5 months ago

Ohh thats him! Didn‘t recignise him curled up like that. Very handsome catto :)

[-] Kage@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 5 months ago

He craves violence

[-] mom@nom.mom 4 points 5 months ago

I always feel bitey after my visits to the vet, too.
(ノಠ益ಠ)ノ rrraaaaarrrh!

[-] CaptainKickass@lemmy.world 26 points 5 months ago

Oh man I remember rotten.com

Nothing is shocking anymore

[-] spookex@lemmy.world 11 points 5 months ago

I still remember browsing WPD, pretty sure the part of me that gets shocked on the internet died a long time ago

[-] TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 5 points 5 months ago

I desensitized myself years ago by looking at the worst I could find. It was bad for my mental health so I stopped. Now I'm no longer desensitized and a lot of things affect me again.

I prefer it this way.

[-] dogsnest@lemmy.world 5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

And its bro', bangedup.com....(nsfw, nudes, but very tame vs 20 years ago...)

[-] bamfic@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago
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[-] tpihkal@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

...populationpaste, efukt...

[-] uebquauntbez@lemmy.world 18 points 5 months ago

Gardening, Hiking, Watching nature's beauty without humans.

[-] AgentGrimstone@lemmy.world 15 points 5 months ago

Time. But even then, it will pop into your head to say hi every now and then.

[-] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 12 points 5 months ago
  1. back button
  2. use the mantra "I clicked on this, I chose this, I clicked on this, I chose this" a bit.
  3. you receive +1 to personal responsibility
[-] Nemo@midwest.social 12 points 5 months ago

I saw my first truly horrible Internet thing two decades ago, and it hasn't gone away. Sorry.

[-] NorthWestWind@lemmy.world 10 points 5 months ago

Keep thinking about it until it's not weird anymore

[-] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 9 points 5 months ago

I got exposed to CSAM on Twitter over a decade ago. I'm still haunted by it, and anyone who does that deserves the worst things.

[-] ParabolicMotion@lemmy.world 9 points 5 months ago

I once saw a car accident on a freeway that involved burning bodies within the cab of the vehicle. Nothing I’ve seen online compares to that. Maybe I’ve just avoided the worst of the worst online, but nothing has been that graphic.

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 9 points 5 months ago

Make a joke in the comments.

[-] General_Shenanigans@lemmy.world 9 points 5 months ago

This is a good question, though. Seeing horrible things on the internet can affect you. Anywhere from getting wigged out to full out trauma is possible.

Personally, if I come across something like that, it’s a good cue to take a quick break from screens. Go for a walk. Eat if you’re hungry. Drink if you’re thirsty. Spend quality time with your pets or plants if you have any. Pay attention to how you’re feeling and do what might be necessary to make you feel good and healthy. In that state, it’s easier to bring yourself back to the here and now. Look around you and appreciate your life. Seeing how real and raw those things are can give a person perspective, but if you overexpose yourself or ruminate on them, it can fuck you up a little bit. Even if you’re “desensitized.”

If you’re lucky enough where things like that aren’t a regular part of your life (as it is for most of us here), use it as a lesson in not just taking care of yourself, but also of others and society as a whole. There are fucked up people in the world, yes. Sometimes the bad guys win and terrible or disturbing things happen, yes. It’s best to maintain pride in knowing you’re not trying to contribute to that problem, in whatever little way you can.

And if you can’t seem to shake it, get some therapy. Not just for that one thing, but, it may be likely you’re slipping into rumination or worldviews that make it difficult to handle depression. Therapy is great, for real. Shop around and find a therapist you like.

[-] Interstellar_1@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 5 months ago

Playing guitar, or doing something else where I can't be thinking about it in the background such as Tetris as the other person mentioned, or reading a book

[-] Resol@lemmy.world 7 points 5 months ago

See something else not awful on the internet to forget about that awful thing.

[-] nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 6 points 5 months ago

If genuinely disturbing, therapy can help.

[-] Num10ck@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago
[-] Magister@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago

Watch something worst

[-] p5yk0t1km1r4ge@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago

I whip it out

[-] treadful@lemmy.zip 5 points 5 months ago

Just don't dwell on it. But you'll probably think of it from time to time.

So it goes.

[-] viking@infosec.pub 4 points 5 months ago

Ignorance is a bliss.

[-] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago

I once worked in a questionable industry, where there was no such thing as NSFW (nor NSFL). My coworkers and I would have competitions to see who could freak each other out the most; this was back in the goatsie, 2g1c, and bme pain olympics days. 🤮

It’s not my thing, but at the same time it doesn’t affect me much anymore. Though, as all things evolve over time, things probably have only gotten worse.

[-] hanrahan@slrpnk.net 4 points 5 months ago

I have never seen something awful, aside from.perhaps a Trump speech.

Bearing witness to human atrocity is a duty IMO. If thats what you mean?

[-] robdor@lemmynsfw.com 4 points 5 months ago

Bob Ross videos are on youtube

[-] lay@lemmy.zip 3 points 5 months ago
[-] technomad@slrpnk.net 3 points 5 months ago
[-] sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I go with Fancy Fox Gaming's chill game music compilations on YT.

Its calm music from various rpgs and farming sim kind of games. SNES era sounds, roughly.

[-] dumbass@leminal.space 2 points 5 months ago
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