Well, we're all afraid of your government, and we don't even live there.
Most people worry the US will ruin their lives. Completely normal.
Define constantly, define afraid.
If you continually maintain readiness for government violation of your rights, no problem. If your heart rate is elevated and you’re sweating in fear, that’s a pretty serious problem.
As Bruce Lee said, “Do not be tense, but ready”.
Yeah the government is a monster and it might come get you. That’s true. But the likelihood it’s coming to get you right now is very low and being in constant fear is no way to live. And the government isn’t the only monster.
Buuuuut, if you think your houseplant is an undercover CIA agent or your entire family including your dog has been replaced with hyper realistic govt robots, you need to seek medical attention immediately.
If they replaced your family they definitely replaced your psychiatrist too.
And the government isn’t the only monster.
Very important. Otherwise you become a Libertarian or a Theocrat.
One thing to consider when you constantly feel something is “why?”
Why are you constantly afraid of the government?
Fear is our response to danger, it motivates us to take actions to protect ourselves. Fear in the presence of danger is normal, fear in the absence of danger is not a tremendously helpful emotion. The hard part now is really truly identifying why you fear the government.
Your first reaction might be to start listing grievances, the direct reason you fear the government. This could range from reasonable concerns, “they have a monopoly on the legitimate use of violence and use that monopoly to attack me physically,” to less reasonable concerns like “they are lizard people.”
I’d invite you though to try to not stop at the list of grievances and interrogate “why” you believe that grievance is real.
Consider these two examples.
I fear the government because the police beat me up. I fear being beaten up because physical violence is painful and living without physical safety is truly dangerous. My fear is likely a reasonable response.
I fear the government because they are going to join in a new world order where the satanists and the the blue-eyed people are plotting to turn us all into Babylon 5 fans by putting sriracha in the public water supply. I fear this because I’ve watched several thousand hours of YouTube videos be people that have convinced me of this plot. The people making these videos are trustworthy because… hmm… they say they are. The people making the videos make money by me watching their videos and buying their merchandise because I believe in them. I believe in them because they claim to have the only way to keep me safe from this danger I’m very afraid of. Uh oh, this fear is irrational and being fed by people that profit off me always being afraid.
I fear the government because of events since the 2016 election. Because of the January 6th pro-administration insurrection/auto-coup attempt.
I’d consider your fear to be rational, although others might disagree.
Governments, by their nature, hold a monopoly on the “legitimate use of violence.” That’s a pretty terrible power to abuse and the best systems we have for holding power in check is to diffuse it into many people and set those people somewhat at odds with each other, aka, checks and balances.
I would consider J6 to be a failed coup, and coups are often about consolidating power into fewer and fewer hands, purging groups at odds with a strong man leader, which is fertile ground for abuse of power.
Now though you have to decide what to do with that fear. You have to decide how you want that fear to be a part of your life. Fear exists to tell us of danger, it’s our limbic system telling us to pay attention. You get to decide now if this danger is real and if living in fear is appropriate.
There are many reactions to fear, but I’ve found that positive action and mental health support are good responses to fear.
As an example, I struggle with anxiety, and it sucks because when you are anxious about something it’s common to avoid it and then you never fix it so it makes you more anxious and then you avoid it more, repeat. It took mental health support in the form of therapy and anti anxiety medicine to give me the tools I needed to start taking positive action that started tackling the things causing me anxiety. Now though, much less anxiety, the things that made me anxious weren’t helpful, it wasn’t helpful to my life to be constantly worrying about things I could address once I wasn’t constantly worrying.
Fear is a difficult emotion to live with day in and day out. Perhaps there are positive actions you can take to help address these fears, run for office, vote, volunteer for candidates you believe in. I know that therapy was helpful for me in understanding why I feel what I feel and how to make healthy choices around those feelings.
I hope you find some measure of peace though, you aren’t alone. I share your concerns, and many other people do, and I’ve decided to work my hardest to prevent it since that’s all I can do. History is full of assholes trying to fuck shit up for their own benefit and decent people unfucking that shit up.
Found the lizard person.
It's not normal to be constantly afraid of anything. That's not healthy.
It's normal and advisable not to completely trust the government, but being constantly afraid is paranoid.
For Context: I live in the United States of America.
It's so cool that you say that! Most Americans just assume they are the default and don't have to say where they are from.
For Context: I live in Europe
How constantly are we talking? I think some degree of fear is completely reasonable. If the government wants to, they could ruin your life in countless ways. They can often detain, injure, or kill you legally, and even if it's not legally, there's a good chance that nothing will happen to them. They can pass laws that will make your life harder, very possibly to the point of pushing you out or not wanting to continue living.
I'm not sure which type of fear you have or where you're located, so I'm not gonna try to downplay your fear. There's absolutely some places where you should be afraid of what the government might do at any moment. eg, Russians have a lot more to be afraid of from their government than someone from, say, Canada. Similarly, LGBT folks have a lot to be afraid of from quite a scary number of governments around the world, as well as even some regional governments (such as Florida). But in some places, your fear may be taking it too far, particularly if it's impacting your life too much, since frankly there is no place in the world where governments aren't scary if they wanted to fuck with you.
EDIT: I see another comment of yours mentioning US things. Perhaps the best thing of note for the US is that your state is very influential. The difference between California vs Florida is like night and day. If you're not already in a state that is moving in the right direction, you may feel safer in such a state. Obviously there's still federal government power and even progressive states abuse their powers, but there's no shortage of examples of progressive states standing up against tyrany from the federal government and going out of their way to protect people that other states are actively persecuting.
Don't give the government any more information than you have to.
Don't stand out.
Be smart about the laws you break.
If you do all that and your fear of government is greater than the fear of a car accident, then you're not being rational.
Don’t give the government any more information than you have to
vs
Don’t stand out
Well which is it? I guarantee “totally mysterious, private type who shares nothing ” is one of the things the government pays attention to.
There's your problem. It should be set to Freedom, not Theocracy.
I’m from the states and I’m always a little afraid they will find some strange reason and then put me in jail.
Like, in 2005 you downloaded a movie… jail!
Or
You made a mistake on your taxes 4 years ago… jail!
Obey every law perfectly? Believe it or not, also jail. America is so great because of jail.
/s
People that overcook chicken should go to jail /s
Undercook fish, Jail.
Well, are you a capitalist? Then no. If you aren't, you definitely do. Here is the thing, we, workers, are stronger together.
Living in the u.s.? Sounds about right.
No lol wtf is wrong with you all. Americans have accepted their corporate sefdom as normal?
I'm gonna be real with you, chief: I think Western Europe and maybe East Asia are the only regions where it's not normal to be afraid of government
When I was a regular user of illegal drugs, I was always afraid of police.
Absolute power corrupts absolutely. Governments are scary. Only organization that has a monopoly on force and will never face consequences.
I live in germany, and i am not afraid of my government. They have ups and downs but overall its okay, i would say.
I would leave if i were CONSTANTLY afraid.
Live in the UK, and I feel the same. Being afraid of the government seems a very US specific thing (at least in first world countries). But having visited the US, they're generally living in fear more than Europe. Bars on everyone's houses (or gates on communities). Constant worry about home invasion. Its another level compared to here.
I'm in Canada and I work for the government lol
Are you afraid of yourself? Half of your brain might be trying to oppress the other half.
I'm afraid sometimes that a new government will get elected and ruin my job. I see lots of this happening in provincial governments where a new conservative government comes in and immediately starts gutting government operations. I work in a science area and the last time the conservatives ran the country they gutted science funding in a way that we're still recovering from.
I'm also in the US and the only thing I fear about the government is that they will continue to fail to put our best interests over corporate greed. It's a given at this point, but still disappointing.
No, but it should be.
Contemptuous is the right word for me
Depends on what you mean by "normal". It's "normal" in the sense that most people probably are more or less afraid of their government. That's not what it should be like, if anything, it should be the other way around.
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