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Hexday 2024, Happy 4th year anniversary nerds!!! - New General Megathread for the 24th-26th of July 2024 (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by thelastaxolotl@hexbear.net to c/chapotraphouse@hexbear.net

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On this day, 4 years ago the site was first launched (then a day later the first post made), Formed from chapotraphouse remnants, the old admins decided to make a site using Lemmy as its base. Originally called chapo.chat, Hexbear has grown into one of the biggest instances in the lemmyverse.

Despite various sitewide struggle sessions, wrecker incursions from other forums and federation drama, Hexbear has keep growing strong in its 4th year, now with 4 megathreads, over 4 million comments, 300k posts and much more.

Its being great running the general megathread for a bit over 3 years, since i took over i have tried to get it mostly in time and just one unlike during the old times, i like to think i have done a decent job, plus i have also added a bit of reading material to them so you nerds can learn from them and i like to think you have been reading them garcia-cock-shotty , its also nice to see the new megathreads how they have slowing grown up to the size to the old general mega in the time of the old admins.

dont have much else to say so have a good day nerd. also

Whats has been your favorite post/event from last year (july 2023-july 2024)?

I wont lie, all the fedidrama has been fun to read, especially when libs wander here

Megathreads and spaces to hang out:

📀 Come listen to music and Watch movies with your fellow Hexbears nerd, in Cy.tube
🔥 Read and talk about a current topics in the News Megathread
⚔ Come talk in the New Weekly PoC thread
✨ Talk with fellow Trans comrades in the New Weekly Trans thread

reminders:

💚 You nerds can join specific comms to see posts about all sorts of topics
💙 Hexbear’s algorithm prioritizes comments over upbears
💜 Sorting by new you nerd
🌈 If you ever want to make your own megathread, you can reserve a spot here nerd
🐶 Join the unofficial Hexbear-adjacent Mastodon instance toots.matapacos.dog

Links To Resources (Aid and Theory):

Aid:

Theory:

❤️Foundations of Leninism
❤️Anarchism and Other Essays

Also 24 hours after this is posted the admins are closing the site for a day, sorry

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[-] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Neuro-linguist Programming is such a goofy theory. It's like the woo people just threw a bunch of sciency words together to make it look smart. If it was made today, it'll be called non fungible language model therapy, or something.

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[-] ashinadash@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

Every time I remember that the 1981 ultraclassic Joysticks actually exists, it gives me moderate to severe psychic damage in a way that "meatspace" or Michelle Tea do not.

[-] Black_Mald_Futures@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

I think i could win a cooking competition but i don't want to have to do some bullshit like every competition i've ever seen has some fucked up game show bullshit added on and i don't want none of that. I just wanna cook the same dish as another person and be told how much better mine is

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[-] Kestrel@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

Libs in my circle getting more and more maybe-later-honey maybe-later-kiddo to me the closer we get to the election

I can't wait for them to get back to brunch

[-] hexaflexagonbear@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

I swear we had like a cat looks inside meme emoji already, or did I make that up.

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[-] WhyEssEff@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

taking a break today on posting sketching today since I sketched my dad for his birthday and that's very much PII lol

[-] sewer_rat_420@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Anyone with experience with Lexapro and SSRIs specifically long term and apathy?

CW medical gaslighting, depression

spoiler

I started Lexapro about 5 years ago. I wanted to, I was a bit unsure but my psych ensured it would help me and it did for a time. It took the edge off my depression, and lessened the suicidal ideations I was having.

What I didn't know at the time was that I have ADHD which wasn't being treated, and which was the root cause of a lot of my problems at that time. Actually, my psychiatrist doubted I had ADHD for a year until I basically got the diagnosis myself. Now I take Concerta which helps a lot and anyone who has or thinks you have ADHD consider trying a stimulant for it if you can.

Over time, I have had sometimes debilitating loss of motivation. This has made finishing my PhD quite difficult. It has also affected a lot else in my life.

Relationship problems have also arisen that are quite related to what I now know is common in SSRIs known as "emotional blunting". More or less, it has been very hard to be emotionally available to my partner and is something I have had to work on very hard despite no major problems in our relationships.

I had no idea until just yesterday these two things can be related and caused by long term use of SSRIs. I have had the idea of getting off Lexapro for a while, mostly based on vibes and the fact that I actually treat my ADHD now (and know I have it)

Any time I bring up motivation issues to my shrink, he usually blames it on cannabis and says to really pay attention to how cannabis affects my motivation. I am a daily user, and have agonized quite a lot over how I might be sabotaging my entire life. I don't necessarily want to stop using it though, and I don't usually use it during working hours. Also, it has almost entirely replaced alcohol for me, and it is essential to treat my partner's chronic pain.

After already having him doubt my ADHD (despite me describing ADHD symptoms to him for years) he never considered doing something to help me outside of increasing SSRI dose. Now I have found out there is actual research about SSRI apathy and emotional blunting that are really similar to things I experience and this motherfucker never bothered to bring it up. I don't want to get into to many details but I really hate my shrink sometimes, I usually leave there angry and it's also far away since I moved across town. I just haven't found a new one yet and need to go every month to get my meds (especially concerta as it's a controlled substance)

I'm already going to ask him about dropping my dose of Lexapro. I take 15 mg right now, 10 mg is usually the "starter dose" so it shouldn't be a big issue to just drop it down a bit and see if it helps. Are there any online spaces or communities where people have shared similar experiences? Or anyone else here experienced these symptoms and stopped taking an SSRI?

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[-] hexaflexagonbear@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Among the many reasons I work better from home is I swear like a sailor when my code doesn't work.

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[-] GVAGUY3@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

TikTok algorithm is better today. Getting more pushback against the vote scolds

[-] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

absolutely terrible idea that won't leave my head: watch every episode of mr. birchum and them do a write up of every last thought i have about each episode and post it to !effort@hexbear.net

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[-] WhyEssEff@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

day 5 of sketching 1 hour a day to grind from practically-zero drawing/visual art priors: tale of two ryabs:

bumped my schedule block up to an hour, we'll see how long that lasts, might bump it back down as school winds up in a month or so. Anyways, yesterday and the day before I practiced heads with hairlines. today is bald boy summer nl-what

traced took 40ish min, untraced took 20ish. facial hair is hard madeline-sadeline

[-] RION@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

okay, okay, let's sketch this guy, let's sketch this guy with styli okay-okay

[-] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

Phrase I'm really enjoying putting between my loud mouthed blythe theses and examples to show that I'm right is 'history has shown this to be a demonstrated fact'. Feels nice.

[-] HarryLime@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

Red Sox beat the Yankees quokka-smile

[-] DengistDonnieDarko@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

"ijbol" makes me so unreasonably angry every time I see it. worst acronym to pop up on the internet in a very long time. it sucks so much.

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[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

I really hate that my special interests are in shit people don't care about or worse, actively hate. Really makes it hard to engage with people and talk about them. There's so few of them too cri

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[-] miz@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

recently on chapo they mentioned something about the conservatives being idiots with something about Kamala and throat goat. what the fuck is the deal with the allusions to Kamala and oral sex? is it related to this Hawk Tua thing?

I tried to search for anti-Kamala stuff with "Kamala sucks" and that was a mistake

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[-] plinky@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

idk has a certain je ne sais quoi

[-] take_five_seconds@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

love 2 buy a new juicedrink at the store without checking the ingredients to see it's like 80% apple juice pain

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[-] Dingus_Khan@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago

How tf are you even supposed to successfully trim your own mustache? Regardless of the time and care I put into it, I can never do it right and have to redo it the next time I get a chance. It is absolutely maddening

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[-] SoylentSnake@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago

how the fuck am i supposed to keep a regular creative writing practice working a fulltime onsite job goddam

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[-] Grace@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago

four years of this shit? jeez

[-] ComradePlatypus@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I think I accidentally made Fallout 4's story better (admittedly not hard) with my alternative start. I did an escaped Synth. I made them the default looking female character and called them Nora. That said I have changed my hair, tattoos, scars etc during the game.

When I eventually got around the main quest, I find the body of Nora with the same recorded voice and features as my character dead in Vault 111. Kellog mistakes me for the dead Nora. I see her alive in his memories. Codsworth thinks I'm the old Nora. There's obviously cracks in the mod and dialogue where things become janky.

But the whole thing has become murky and ambiguous. Is my character a Synth? Does my character know that? Does the Institute Know this? Does Shaun know I'm the original or a Synth copy?

Given I'm Railroad and I'm infiltrating the Institue our dialogue suddenly becomes a game of intrigue. I'm trying to butter him up so I can work to sabotage them. Is he observing me as an experiment in turn or is it a weird dying man's attempt to resurrect his mother?

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