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I stopped expecting to need to fight every time I have to pass someone on the street, or every time someone approaches me.
I stopped pulling over to pull useful items out of other people's trash.
I still look, but I haven't yanked a chair or TV in years.
When I was a kid, my city had an annual trash week where people would put their large items on the curb for pickup. We used to drive around looking for TVs and anything else that could be valuable, and then pawn them or sell them to other people.
hard for me, neighbor likes to throw away computer cases when he upgrades, got a nice mechanical steel series keyboard too. my son and I cleaned it up, filled it with parts and now he has a decent computer. saved me $300 retail and he learned how to test things to make sure they worked, like io cables and whatnot. win win.
Damn, I can't imagine throwing that stuff away instead of donating it. If it's just a common item I'll drop it off at the thrift store, and if it's something really good I'll put it on Craigslist for free. If it's really good then I'll sell it.
i can only imagine he thought it was broken, he left
this case - Corsair 4000D - https://amzn.to/40uje6R
this keyboard - Steelseries Apex Pro - https://amzn.to/48zfXVP
and a week later, this case - Thermaltake Core V2 - https://amzn.to/48BL96M
the thermaltake case i had just bought one a month prior to setup as a backup Truenas server, they Corsair case and keyboard went to my kid's rig after we cleaned it. haven't found any major issues, every once in awhile the lights ont he keyboard go wonky, so we just unplug it, wait 10 seconds, and plug it back in. all keys work perfectly find.
Ha! Thay first case is the exact case I have for my main gaming desktop. I almost bought the second case last month when building a HTPC and the only reason I didn't is because it was a couple inches too big to fit into my home entertainment center. That's a damned nice keyboard too!
Aww, damn... I'm busted!
I forgot I have fished a few computers & cable boxes out of the trash... Got a 1TB HD out of a trashed cable box, planning on getting home assistant & jellyfin running soon, so a little extra storage always helps!
yoooo, my first adult bed, furniture set, and laptop were from the trash. rich kids in college towns throw out the best stuff. it was a Compaq, and the only problem was overheating because it needed that heat sink lube.
Yeah, I found a lot of the furniture for my first apartment in an alley.
heatsink lube
thermal paste? lol
lol yeah, the grey sticky stuff 😋
Haha. That's hilarious.
I'm really good at surviving with a very small amount of money. For a while I also would steal food from wherever I could get it, I thankfully don't have to do that anymore but the skills are there.
I used to live off of the leftover food of people who didn't finish their plate at a restaurant.
me being autistic at the same time not knowing that was looked down upon: you gonna finish your fries??
how to avoid appearing like you just escaped the lower classes:
- stop keeping everything, just in case you might need it
- stop buying random crap without seeing how it can justify your space/money/time.
- stop eating garbage. eat consciously, expect you will need to feel great instead of stopping hunger.
- stop keeping in touch with toxic people just because you might need them someday.
- stop seeking attention with the way you dress and talk, etc. don't appear needy. aim for tasteful.
- preventative maintenance. fix things that are wonky before they fail at a bad time.
- appear competent and secure, give eye contact, listen.
- stop keeping in touch with toxic people just because you might need them someday.
This one is big.
Had a talk with a guy recently. He's always putting other people ahead of him to give his life meaning. And yet it also stresses him out, doesn't get anything in return, and is only doing it because of a hypothetical "they'd do the same". But they don't?
Why'd you have to call me out like that with those first three?
(Seriously, not keeping stuff is so difficult. It's a strain on my marriage and I wish I could just flip a switch and not feel that instinct)
Yooooo, I needed to hear a few of those. Thank you very much!
Ditto, this post was quite helpful!
glad to hear it.. try them for a month and report back what you experienced
you got it, dude 👶👍
"the sticks" doesn't mean poor, it just means in the countryside (at least in the UK). On the estate(s) would be correct for us.
I didn't grow up particularly poor, but became poor upon moving out of the family home. This led to making do with very limited ingredients, finding bargains, and that has stuck with me ever since. I've saved a lot of money down the years, can live very frugally for a period of time when I really need to, and as such became a homeowner because I knew how to knuckle down and avoid unnecessary expenditure, perhaps to the detriment of my health at times.
In the US, "estates" sounds vaguely wealthy. For example, a fancy garage sale is an Estate Sale (which kinda implies a rich person died and this is their estate being liquidated.)
It's not implied, that's what an estate sale is, regardless of how fancy it is.
It's short for council estate. We also have the same connotation if you own an estate, a large parcel of land with a big house or whatever.
I think your "council estate" is our "section 08," govt provided shitty housing projects?
“the sticks” doesn’t mean poor
Is there an informal term that would describe poor rural neighborhoods similar to ghetto/barrio?
Trailer park :/
My friend grew up in the type of neighborhood you're describing and he calls them "backwoods communities"
thx! updated the title 🌳🌳🌳
I used to keep EVERYTHING under lock and key, or under my direct supervision. I have been robbed multiple times. Turns out, not everyone is a shitty person. TBH I kinda still do it. Not to the extremes I used to though.
There are a lot of shitty people in all socio-economic classes. They're just not desperate once you get out of poverty, so they're not going to steal everything that isn't nailed down.
Casual racism that only intensified the inequity. Realize it's the billionaire class that's benefiting from the in fighting.
I've CPTSD
A big thing is thinking about finances constantly and asking those kinds of questions in social settings. It's more of a common thing to do when you're in a poorer environment.
Everyone talks about finances... but upper class has different "struggles"
Poor people more often have the kind of reaction of "Oh, that must have cost a lot." whereas richer people will simply say "Yeah that's good for you, it's important to get the good stuff".
Or, it's knowing how fancy something is and then having to one up people. Money is involved but perhaps not explicitly mentioned, depends on the purpose though.
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