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submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by Artemis_Mystique@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Just a thought I had, like what can a ten year old do(besides mass murder & accidents) that messes up their life so badly that it is unrecoverable?

It has to be something that is self inflicted and not something that is the cause of others around them.

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[-] PolandIsAStateOfMind@lemmy.ml 7 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

The most formatting event in everyone life nowadays, and the one most negatively impactful is being born poor, that is age zero.

[-] wuphysics87@lemmy.ml 1 points 14 hours ago

Young enough to sleep with your teacher

[-] Alice@beehaw.org 14 points 1 day ago

I grew up in a hoarder house and I'm pretty sure I ruined my life by teaching myself to do the dishes as a kid. I was expected to keep the place clean for the rest of my childhood, and that turned into me being the only one to do chores of any kind. I was actually guilt tripped into skipping college so I'd be available to drive my sister to classes.

So yeah forget all the drugs and murder and shit. The real worst thing a child can do is wash a dish.

[-] squid_slime@lemm.ee 7 points 1 day ago

Growing up in a house with sa at any age. For me I raw dogged life for my adult years blocking it out but stuff catches up and can be catastrophic.

[-] secret300@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 day ago

I feel that. I'm about to be 23 and now it's on my mind again for some reason and idk what to do.

[-] Prime@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 23 hours ago
[-] squid_slime@lemm.ee 1 points 23 hours ago

trigger warning


sexual abuse


[-] bstix@feddit.dk 10 points 1 day ago

Having success in sports, entertainment or anything that pays out real money. There's not a lot of happy stories about child stars.

[-] Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de 71 points 2 days ago

If, when you're born, you don't choose to be rich, that messes you up forever.

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[-] BCsven@lemmy.ca 46 points 2 days ago

I was watching a Netflix documtary about killers, the guy said he was on drugs by age 9...so pretty sure that messed up his life before the murder. It is debatable on if surroundings or self choices are why you try drugs I guess.

[-] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 18 points 2 days ago

It takes a certain kind of environment to enable that.

[-] 13esq@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Right, "should I do drugs?" is not a typical choice for a 9 year old to have to make, they should be protected from that. I have heard stories of particularly shitty parents giving drugs to their own young children.

[-] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 days ago

Agreed. Also Nancy Reagan told me not to, and I was not in a position to argue.

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[-] Sanctus@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago

You're never too young to die, so the saying goes.

[-] otp@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 day ago

Being conceived by shitty people is more than enough to have a life arguably ruined permanently before it even began.

So much can happen to ruin a person's life at any stage, even pre-conception.

[-] 13esq@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

OP is asking about wrong/bad/poor choices etc, the last sentence of their post specifically says it's not about situations that are inflicted upon them.

[-] otp@sh.itjust.works 2 points 22 hours ago

You're right; those were poor choices by the parents.

Really, the question is more about "When do we stop attributing bad choices to the parent and start attributing them to the child?"

Because babies and toddlers can make lots of stupid decisions.

[-] 13esq@lemmy.world 2 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

I would argue that babies and toddlers wouldn't be held accountable for their bad choices, even though they could foreseeably be life changing for the worst, if they stuck their hand in a blender for example. Although you could argue that in this case a parent/carer should not leave a young child near a dangerous object.

Most people would agree that a person that is fully accountable when they are considered an adult, we usually apply the arbitrary age of 18, although I do find it strange that a person that is 17 years, 364 days, 23 hours, 59 minutes and 59 seconds old is a child and one second later they're magically an adult.

There is definitely a grey area in the early teens or possibly even younger where you can definitely make a decision that ruins your life. An example that comes to mind is when two ten year old boys stole a toddler, then tortured, sexually assaulted and murdered him. They were judged as having the ability to act with criminal intent, found guilty and sentenced to prison.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_James_Bulger?wprov=sfla1

[-] Carrolade@lemmy.world 37 points 2 days ago

Any significant injury that results in paralysis would be a potential candidate. These become possible as soon as you become old enough to climb things like trees.

[-] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 14 hours ago

I can do you one better: decide to explore near that baby gate that got left open.

[-] iii@mander.xyz 15 points 2 days ago

Diving head first into shallow water comes to mind

[-] pastermil@sh.itjust.works 10 points 2 days ago

Also: eating random slug you find on the street.

[-] meco03211@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago

Nah. You could still be nominated for director of HHS.

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[-] Haus@kbin.earth 13 points 2 days ago

A kid in my class put his arm inside a... I don't remember if it was a lion or tiger cage back on the 70s before safety was a thing. Being armless isn't the end, but I bet he regretted that decision.

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[-] Death_Equity@lemmy.world 27 points 2 days ago

Playing with fireworks, firearms, or chemicals can be a solid way for anyone of any age to ruin their life.

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[-] Pointtwogo@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 day ago
[-] 13esq@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

To be fair, OP is asking about bad/poor/wrong decisions, the last sentence of their post specifically says it's not about situations that are inflicted upon them. No one gets to choose where they are born.

[-] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 day ago

Drugs at any age. Sure you can get clean but it takes a very pacific type of person to do that and there are more people who have failed then ones who have succeeded. I made the mistake of using drugs at a young age and it has destroyed my life beyond repair. If there are any young people reading this just remember it's not worth it. Trust me nobody hates drugs more then drugheads.

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[-] Retro_unlimited@lemmy.world 15 points 2 days ago

I remember as a kid, I met these other kids that would drink from the side of the street. That sewer water was full of nasty including gas and oil runoff from the roads and who knows what else.

I also had an ex that would drink the chemicals under the sink as a tiny kid.

[-] Letsdothis@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

That's crazy... where did you grow up?

[-] Retro_unlimited@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago
[-] Letsdothis@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

Oh, yall need to clean up over there... what do the politicians in LA keep doing with all the money meant for the homeless issues?

[-] Retro_unlimited@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

I moved out of that mess. lol just bought land in another state.

[-] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 days ago

Be born a woman in Afghanistan... come out the womb to "And that's when she knew she had fucked up."

I'm not certain if this is in the spirit of your question but even a murderer in the US has privileges denied to a lot of other people.

[-] Ziggurat@sh.itjust.works 14 points 2 days ago

Actually, the younger you fuck up, the worse are the consequences. A 13 year old go in a school fight, he is kicked out of school, has to go in another school further away, sleep less, see his grade fall down, and next year he'll be pushed to start an apprenticeship rather than high school.

A 31 one year old (otherwise a good citizen) does the same. He'll spend a night in police custody and at worst pays a fine (with a high probability that change are dropped because judges and prosecutor are busy)

[-] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

That's a very unusual example. If you're prepubescent you can get away with straight up murder in a lot of jurisdictions and basically go back to your life after a few years, of lots of therapy, and legal supervision.

[-] Artemis_Mystique@lemmy.ml 11 points 2 days ago

I agree with your general point but I don't agree with your example because apprenticeship can still lead to stable employment and a fulfilling life

[-] frauddogg@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago

Depends on what color you were born and what side of the world you were born on. Michael Render put it best, in the west? "Even if you make seven figures, you still..."

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