Questions like “When you’re sexing some sexy sex, how many sex do you sex?”
Let’s keep the immature high school/sad old desperate man horniness out of here.
Adding to this, I'd love to never see the phrase "Sexy Time" ever again
Ugh there are so many phrases I cannot stand from reddit. "thanks for the gold kind stranger" makes me want to throw my computer out of the window.
Jesus, yes. I can't tell you how many subreddits got swamped with high-school leveled questions about sex.
Especially in TooAfraidToAsk, which is supposed to be about questions that'd normally be about trying to ask taboo things to get a discussion. But no, you'll come across questions like "if there is no porn to look at, what do you look at instead while jerking off in the shower?". Like, besides trolls, who the hell comes up with some questions like that? Let's not forget the abundance of people, showcasing the lack of sexual education, asking if they'd get HPV by doing this or HIV by doing that.
I feel bad because clearly these poorly educated teenagers need answers to these questions. But it really drags down the level of discourse.
And not just regarding sex, but any other "oh you're obviously 14" takes.
Probably the biggest one would be needlessly hostile or mocking responses.
Wow, this was my first thought as well. I wonder if it would help to have an etiquette manual with examples of how to disagree respectfully.
Yep. Just blocked someone for that. I will not put up with that behavior here.
Shutting down questions with any variation "just Google it" It always irks me when someone goes "bro you know Google exists right" like if I wanted to Google it I wouldn't be asking it here
Sometimes the question isn't about the answer but about the interaction.
Going to a sub of strictly like minded people and posting popular opinions for karma.
"Thanks for the gold" and other "Edit: this blew up" type bullshit.
Any time someone says "obligatory [anything]" I want to scream.
Unpopular opinion: [incredibly popular opinion]
+67,000 upvotes
Edit: added a word and comma.
Edit 1: wow guys thank you so much.
Edit 2: Rip my inbox.
Edit 3: Ok guys Im going to sleep.
Pointless comment trying to be a contrarian to just add /s at the end.
Shut the fuck up
I appreciate a little footnote to explain what was edited, but yes to all the rest
The SFW porn network needs not to be called the SFW porn network. No communities named CarPorn or UniformPorn or, worse, AbandonedPorn or AnimalPorn.
[BLANKS] of Lemmy: "what's the sexiest sex you've ever sexed?"
How's about they stop trying to migrate Reddit subs over to Lemmy as communities? That would be nice. I don't want a Reddit substitute. I want a new thing that puts Reddit entirely in the past. I want a fresh start, not a Reddit clone. Reddit sucked for a lot of reasons. I could go on and on. Stop replying to comments with "this" as well. But, mostly, I'd like to see people from Reddit moving over to here with zero Reddit nostalgia. Say goodbye to your favorite Reddit subs, stop trying to re-create them over here in the Fediverse. Instead, have some imagination and create new, original communities and kick the whole Reddit vibe to the curb for once and for all.
Disagree — while the larger communities tended to get kind of lame, Reddit’s smaller communities were quite worthwhile. I want that to continue, just not on Reddit.
Probably the weirdos that drown in an ocean of their own cum whenever a woman is mentioned.
That's just teenagers. They will arrive eventually if Lemmy gets more popular.
This. So much this.
Centralization of anything. Powermods shouldn't be a thing, and major central instances are a bit sketchy too. No offense to ruud et al.
The problem with power mods is that it's a thankless job that people do for free. You're not exactly getting a line of people out the door willing to take up the mantle, so a small group of power users end up taking on more and more.
/r/EnoughXSpam
What is the point of a community about hating seeing spam of a certain topic if all the community does is spam about the topic?
It's amazing for how much this place is supposed to be decentralized and open, hours much you all want to control messaging, themes, and already are having fight over fight on who to defederate from.
Twice now I've seen claims of "This instance just exists to support ! Defederate them!"
Meanwhile I'm subscribed to what appear to be completely normal, reasonable communities on those instances that seem to have nothing to do with the bad thing. Think topics like computer networking and home improvement, stuff like that.
Can we go easy on jumping to the "This instance" claims? Yes, some unsavory communities have been started on various instances. Those instances have, in general, addressed the issues when they were brought to their attention... Can we reserve the nuclear defederation option for repeat offenders or technical issues?
I would say circlejerking. The Bean meme was very Reddit like, but maybe it is necessary to build an online community to have posts like that?
"You win the internet!" Anything "sir" or "gentlesir" leave that shit in the 2010s
"Kind stranger", "Came here to say this" (no one cares)
Unfunny puns.
I actually liked those, probably because I also do a lot of dad jokes irl. I didn't know so many people were annoyed by them.
Cynicism and despair. There are no better words to describe reddit today than these two. Why do they argue endlessly over nothing? Because to them, nothing matters.
You can see that sentiment start popping up in the comments with the newest influx, but I hope sincerity will win out in the end this time.
Although I'm sure this is highly optimistic, I'd love to avoid the toxic behaviors that were free to grow on Reddit. The most hateful words I've ever read were on Reddit; I'm already seeing it happen here. It would be wonderful if discourse was welcomed here and promoted without all of the toxic back and forth. What was more harmful was a large amount of one-sided bans dealt out by mods of a certain variety. As long as the mods agreed with someone's stance it didn't matter how obscene a comment made, was. Let's try and be better than Reddit in more than one way.
These just sound like the behaviours of your average pudding brain internet user. I don't think it's a Reddit thing, and it will 100% continue in Lemmy.
What I will miss from Reddit:
What I will not miss from Reddit:
needlessly hostile "gotcha" type responses that dont take into consideration the end users needs, use cases, or goals.
Asking why they're being downvoted when they clearly have more upvotes. Also, starting a comment with "I'm going to get downvoted for this but".
The arrogance. Already see a lot of it here, unfortunately.
Exactly. As someone who is modest I hate this. Prolly the most modest. More modest than 99% of the people here.
Reposting.
There's two kinds of resposting:
"honest" resposting that happens when the OP hasn't seen his submission previously posted.
karma-whore resposting that happens when someone wants to get those sweet internet points.
Without karma the second one may not be a problem at all ¯\(ツ)/¯
I dont think redundant questions are the problem. But people's historically short responses on reddit definitely were. Responses like "have you tried googling it" or "the question has already been answered, try searching before you post" do nothing but ostracize the person asking and make communities unwelcoming. I would like to see Lemmy more understanding, as to encourage and attract novice individuals in communities they are interested in
Please don't post about US Politics. If you need to do this, try !politicaldiscussion@lemmy.world
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