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It can be low effort, passive-aggressive, insulting or derogatory towards your convictions.

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[-] pearsaltchocolatebar@discuss.online 47 points 13 hours ago

At the call center I worked at, our Christmas bonus was a dress shirt with the company logo on it.

My wife wears it when she dyes her hair.

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[-] Hellnikko@lemmy.ml 33 points 13 hours ago

I was given 30 quarters that had letters and numbers on each one in a black velvet pouch. If you put them in a certain order, it had a message. The quarters went in year order. The message was a Bible passage according to Matthew. It was when Judas was given 30 silver for betraying Jesus.

The context, I told one of our friends that the gifter was trying to get with his wife while he was deployed. He denied and then made me feel like shit to insinuate such a thing. Turns out, it was true.

I still have the quarters so I could give them back some day.

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[-] POTOOOOOOOO@reddthat.com 70 points 14 hours ago

People keep giving me steak house gift cards.

I'm a vegetarian. I can only eat a roll there.

[-] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 14 points 12 hours ago

I’m vegan and the number of people who can’t figure out “no animal products” is astounding. I’m so tired of “no eggs? No dairy?” like yes bitch, I don’t fuck with animals.

People act like it’s rocket science.

[-] IMongoose@lemmy.world 14 points 11 hours ago

What? Fish is an animal?? /s

[-] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 9 points 10 hours ago

How could I forget? It always blows people’s minds that I don’t eat fish, but before I was vegan I never liked fish anyway but no one had a problem with it until I went vegan.

[-] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 11 hours ago

To be fair, the person you're responded to said "vegetarian" not "vegan." But yes, otherwise, it isn't rocket science. My vegan boys are big fans of seitan.

[-] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 5 points 10 hours ago

Right. I guess people mix up the two a lot so for me it’s just easier to say “no animal products” plainly.

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[-] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 10 hours ago

I'm vegan, and my agency gave me a gift card to Zaxby's, and it wasn't even loaded

[-] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 14 hours ago

Are you full vegan or just vegetarian?

If it's for Ouback Steakhouse, you could always have a Bloomin Onion if you're okay with eggs and milk.

But otherwise, yeah, not much else on the menu for ya.

[-] Addv4@lemmy.world 20 points 13 hours ago

Don't forget salad. Outback is largely one of the worst if you're vegetarian unfortunately. Most steakhouses at least have a few vegetable sides and can make a meal out of them.

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[-] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 13 hours ago

Perhaps that's why, to annoy you.

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[-] JudahBenHur@lemm.ee 28 points 12 hours ago

My mother-in-law gave me a booked called The Etiquette Edge which essentially explained how to be polite

[-] Arality@lemmy.world 8 points 12 hours ago

This is so funny to me! My wife recently got mad at me for comments I made on our anniversary. When I explained what I meant, she was totally fine. Communication is hard sometimes.

[-] JudahBenHur@lemm.ee 7 points 12 hours ago

Yeah I'd agree with that, but this is different. She was trying to help with what she saw as my ignorance about how much more positively people respond when you follow certain social rules.

She's a northern German woman who used to run a car dealership. I listen to punk rock. We get along but the things we value in life are pretty disparate.

[-] meekah@lemmy.world 16 points 12 hours ago

My Dad once gifted me a bazinga shirt. I don't watch the big bang theory.

[-] ghost_towels@sh.itjust.works 13 points 11 hours ago

Years ago my father in law gave me a Costco sized flat of Nanaimo bars. Like just wrapped it and that was that. I was so bummed as I thought it was a big coffee table book. I ended up cutting them all in half and freezing them, so we had treats through the year. My husband and I still joke about it. As we passed them in Costco last week he suggested I return the favour.

[-] EllE@lemmy.world 40 points 14 hours ago

I once got a picture of a really cool present from my dad, which he said was in the mail. Never got the present.

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[-] BigBananaDealer@lemm.ee 5 points 9 hours ago

one of my buddies got a mtn dew. thats it

another got a playstation gift card, which would have been good but he didnt have a playstation

[-] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 20 points 13 hours ago

Not the gift itself, but the response.

First of all, even before Christmas I said I'd prefer NO GIFTS at all. Regardless, my dad got me some inkjet HP printer. I thanked him for it, but asked him that we'd return it. I tried to be respectful, but regardless, he got mad at me and didn't talk with me for like 2 days.

Later he sent me the money for it and asked me to buy something for it and show him what it was. I do not know why I couldn't just keep it as extra money, but oh well, it had to be spent on something.
I got a refurbished ThinkPad for that. Pretty good device, by far beating value of HP inkjet. I even got it with a 2 year warranty (without extended) like with a new device, while only 1 year is required.

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[-] DJDarren@thelemmy.club 29 points 14 hours ago

My gran once gave me a toilet brush. The base had penguins floating in blue liquid, but it was ultimately just a cheap toilet brush.

I gave her a beautiful marble maze.

I didn’t bother after that.

[-] anarchoilluminati@hexbear.net 3 points 8 hours ago

Sounds really fucked up of me, but I once had a girlfriend gift me a painting she made for me. I could tell she really tried, took her time, spent money on it, and she chose a subject matter I really liked, but it was absolutely terrible. One of the worst paintings I've ever seen.

It put me in such a dilemma because she even framed it and was expecting me to hang it up at my place but I couldn't bear to hang it and see it 'decorating' my place. I thanked her a lot when she gave it to me but I would've preferred she had gotten me nothing instead.

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[-] Noel_Skum@sh.itjust.works 38 points 14 hours ago

My mate’s little sister was sad and bemused one Christmas when their parents bought her a (single) Pom-pom. Why would you not buy a pair?

[-] ByteMe@lemmy.world 38 points 14 hours ago
[-] Noel_Skum@sh.itjust.works 12 points 14 hours ago

Yeah - I’d always thought it would be called a Pom but just before posting I checked Wikipedia and apparently we’re both wrong. I know what you mean, though.

[-] darklamer@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 14 hours ago

Why would you not buy a pair?

How rich are you!?

[-] Noel_Skum@sh.itjust.works 6 points 14 hours ago

Fair point.

[-] FellowEnt@sh.itjust.works 15 points 12 hours ago

Top three would be my weird Christmas 'bonuses' from a previous employer. In order of weirdness: some fake notes (representing the companies record profits that year), a single bike pedal, and finally a spanner which had been spray painted orange.

[-] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 12 hours ago

So I’m a trans guy and as a kid I was very obviously masculine, stereotypical tomboy. One of my aunts that married into the family gave me, maybe around age 5-7, a toy makeup kit. To this day I don’t know wtf she was thinking, because it wasn’t like she never met or saw me. Was it thoughtless or passive aggressive? Who can say ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[-] CileTheSane@lemmy.ca 9 points 11 hours ago

I've always been a computer/theatre nerd. When I was a teen my parents bought me a bike. I did not express nor have any interest in a bike, but I'm sure my mom felt I needed to go outside more and spend less time on the computer. A week or two later while upset at me about something else she complained that I haven't even used my new bike yet.

[-] Danitos@reddthat.com 7 points 9 hours ago

That sounds a bit petty from you, at least from my POV.

No matter how nerdy you are, going outside is healtht, both physically and mentally. They got you a nice gift, IMO.

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[-] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

My sister wanted me to be the Godfather to her children. She considered it a "gift."

I'm an atheist. I told her explicitly "Hey, you remember I'm an atheist, right?" Part of this whole Godfather business is making a promise to raise them religiously if their parent dies. I thought I was being considerate and kind by being honest that I did not want to be a Godfather because I could not in good conscience make such a promise.

Nope, I'm the bad guy, not the person who knew I was atheist and decided to not respect that at all anyway by asking me to be a Godfather to begin with.

[-] phoneymouse@lemmy.world 37 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

God parents are supposed to care for the children, if the parents die. I think you shouldn’t overthink it. If you’re willing to fill that role, then raise the kids however you think is best. Accept the role gracefully as it is an honor and your sister is showing she loves and trusts you. Leave it at that.

As atheists, we have to acknowledge that most of the world isn’t yet on our level of thinking, but also that we don’t really have similar “concepts” for religious traditions that serve certain societal needs. God parents do serve a societal function. As an atheist, I can acknowledge that, accept that role, and play the part for those I love.

[-] tallricefarmer@sopuli.xyz 15 points 13 hours ago

Yeah my siblings and friends also know i am an atheist, but that hasn't stopped us from naming each other godparents. It is just a promise to look after the child if something happens to the parents. I also try to make some monetary investment for the children

[-] FellowEnt@sh.itjust.works 13 points 12 hours ago

We solved this by having oddparents instead of godparents.

[-] bobs_monkey@lemm.ee 9 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

Only if oddparents is prepended by fairly

E: spelling is hard

[-] meekah@lemmy.world 5 points 12 hours ago
[-] faltryka@lemmy.world 26 points 14 hours ago

Was that their expectation of you, or just a common religious interpretation?

I know plenty of people who use the term and have no care for the religious history of it.

[-] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 14 hours ago

She's religious, that was the expectation.

[-] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 11 points 13 hours ago

Even that aside, what kind of gift is "You'll have to take care of my kids if I die."?

[-] bradorsomething@ttrpg.network 7 points 12 hours ago

You could just call yourself a Sparent.

[-] murmelade@lemmy.ml 11 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

My mother got me Rogaine for my birthday last year. Pretty rude and uncalled for I felt but now I've stopped cutting it and have the longest hair I've ever had so I guess she hit a nerve with that one

[-] CorrodedCranium@leminal.space 10 points 13 hours ago

XXL pajamas. I'm a medium bordering on small so I was swimming in them.

I think I also got a video game for a console I didn't have but the gesture was nice.

[-] Elextra@literature.cafe 7 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

In middle school, there was this one super unpopular girl that gifted me acne medication for Christmas.... Unprompted. We weren't even friends and yes, I had acne problems like most teens did.

I never bullied anyone in my life before and since, but I did that year.... This was why she was so unpopular. The year after, she called 1 of the 2 only black kids the N word, got her ass kicked and either removed or expelled from school.

I have no idea why anyone would go around picking fights, especially with no friends to begin with. Before anyone asks, no, no mental health issues.

Edit: I also wasnt "popular" and had very little friends too. I mean, it wasnt right either way to turn bully either but I was young

[-] bobs_monkey@lemm.ee 8 points 10 hours ago

Even negative attention is better than no attention for some. Good chance she had a pretty bad home life, poor girl.

[-] Elextra@literature.cafe 5 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

Maybe but none of us saw it, even my friend who eventually became her friend later on and into adulthood.... I met her mom at least twice and she was always nice and seemed very attentive, concerned about her daughter.

We also grew up very affluent. They were too.

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[-] iii@mander.xyz 4 points 14 hours ago

I think I only ever received one good present.

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