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submitted 5 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) by imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works to c/main@sh.itjust.works

Hello all, it is with a heavy heart that I must admit that I have become the drama that I always sought to avoid for this server. In this case, I could easily let sleeping dogs lie, but I'm somewhat exhausted and I don't really see the point of continuing here if there isn't some semblance of justice or rational thought to be found. More to the point, if Lemmy continues to display outright hostility and toxicity towards Americans at every turn, there is virtually no chance that this platform will ever develop beyond its current fringe status.

Although this server is based in Canada, I think we probably have a good number of Americans, and also despite recent events I think Canadians and Americans are fairly similar and have historically gotten along quite well with one another. I'm curious if a more diverse array of people will find any value in my actions, or if I'm truly just shouting into the wind. Strap in, because this is gonna be a long one.

This all started yesterday when @DankOfAmerica@reddthat.com made a post to AskLemmy. The original post read as follows.

I responded here. I had indeed noticed the constant derisive comments regarding Americans, although I didn't agree with the assumption that such comments were made by Russian/Chinese agents, and stated as much.

In my view, the responses to both OP and myself in that thread constitute clear evidence that at least one of our assumptions was true. In response to being called out on their hateful behavior, a number of users proceeded to double down, attempting to gaslight myself and OP and even suggesting that we were actually the Russian spies 🕵️‍♂️

Several hours later, one of our users decided to make a post "exposing" my behavior on !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com. Despite the fact that I hadn't utilized any moderator powers during this saga, he found my words to be offensive enough to post on said community. The post was eventually removed because it was unsuitable for the community, but not before I had replied in defense of myself. This was unfortunate, although understandable, because I felt that my response was something that Lemmy users could benefit from hearing.

I made this post because I want my fellow sh.itjust.works users to judge whether my actions and thoughts were reasonable, and I also want to expose this individual for what they are. My first option was !fediverselore@lemmy.ca, but it's not allowed to post drama that you're involved in. Also, I'm not really looking for the opinions of people who subscribe to drama communities on Lemmy, but rather the opinions of the average sh.itjust.works user. So here's the screenshot of the removed post.

Here's my reply.

It'll probably be easier reading if you go to my profile and/or his profile. Although the post was deleted, the comments should still appear in our profiles.

To summarize, this user bullied a brand new user into deleting their account, responding to an innocent, highly upvoted meme with this comment

He let’s me freely hang out at his nice place full of amenities so I can’t badmouth him

Lmfao, no, you can, you just like the taste of boot, and the benefits he gives you (that he only has because he exploits people like you) too much to.

Also, those last two points in the meme, as well as this being your only post on a new account strongly suggest that this is a troll, or at the very least, a really sad LARP, rather than observations made by someone who has ever spent any time at all with any actual rich people.

Two days later, he decided to call me out for mod abuse, despite the fact that I hadn't removed a single comment of his. Now he's decided to move over to lemmy.dbzer0.com, thank goodness.

But overall, aside from the specifics of this drama, I also want y'all to render judgment on whether or not Lemmy tends to exhibit a toxic attitude towards Americans. Notice that I said Americans, not America. I don't give a shit if people criticize and blatantly shit on America for the decisions that our government makes. But it's far too often that Lemmy users go beyond that line and decide to hurl personal insults towards Americans, often in completely non-political communities. I've always had thick skin and an open mind, so if I'm getting annoyed by it, my assumption is that most other Americans will find it intolerable. And although we don't need to be a majority American site by any means, the sheer numbers dictate that if Americans find this site intolerable, it will never achieve mainstream success.

And if I hear one more fucking person say that America only joined World War 2 after it was already over, or that we were cowards for not joining sooner, I swear to God I'ma start criticizing the metric system again 😂

EDIT:

Thanks for the replies, I'll try to be less of an arrogant prick going forward and in return I'd like people to reflect on my words from time to time. My primary motivation is making Lemmy better and having more diverse viewpoints, I wouldn't have called anyone out if I didn't feel that some of you are creating an environment that is self-destructive towards our goals in that regard. But maybe I'm overreacting, I would just ask you to put yourself in other people's shoes before making comments, and remember that we're all on the same team here, even the North American Scum

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[-] stormdelay@sh.itjust.works 99 points 5 days ago

While you are probably correct that criticism of the USA (and of its citizens) pops up too often in unrelated topics, I think that you are basically just discovering what it is to not be the ultra dominant demographics on a platform. It doesn't mean it's right or anything, everyone should strive to make Lemmy a welcoming place, but it's certainly going to take work on both sides. That said, I would like you to re-read some of what you wrote:

and their obvious jealousy and insecurity regarding Americans

For one thing, my command of the English language rules that out, which isn't something I can say about many of you.

America controls the world, and Europeans are salty about it. I didn’t even realize how salty until I started using Lemmy

I swear to God I'ma start criticizing the metric system again

The amount of condescension dripping from your comments is frankly off the chart, and you should maybe take a minute to ponder whether you are actually behaving as you preach, rather than just being in your own American circlejerk, as you might have called it had the shoe been on the other foot.

In any way, being an admin/mod is a thankless task, so I for one appreciate you for doing that, and maybe everyone can learn a bit from sharing a community.

[-] mjhelto@lemm.ee 28 points 5 days ago

You might be on to something with the demographic make-up of the platform. There are a lot of users from countries outside the US and for Americans used to seeing the opinions, primarily, of other Americans being the norm, it can seem like an attack on the country and their colossal fuck-ups recently are an attack on Americans, themselves.

It seems similar to the backlash felt by a lot of minorities when given rights closer to, or equal of, whites in this country. I don't have a pony in this race, but it seems this is just human nature. We just don't like competition and American exceptionalism is ingrained in almost every school book we are presented with.

That being said, I think you could point to some people being assholes to others. Just as I don't blame all citizens of Jerusalem for the genocide in Gaza, nor all Russians for the invasion of Ukraine, nor all Americans for tRump, I think some people equate the citizen with the government like some sort of sports rivalry or deeply ingrained tribalism.

This is, however, just the opinion of an American who took off their rose-colored, exceptionalism glasses a long time ago.

[-] samus12345@lemm.ee 26 points 5 days ago

"When you're accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression."

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[-] cows_are_underrated@feddit.org 14 points 4 days ago

I don't think its Europeans being jealous but instead that Lemmy attracts the kind of Users who are more anti western/capitalistic (and the US is literally the definition of capitalism) and also users being dickheads about it. Just because Americans have to live and participate in a system that's quite shit, that doesn't mean that they are directly responsible for it and I think that this is something a lot of people forget.

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[-] Quacksalber@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 days ago

Overall, I think that any mod or admin should use another account to post personal takes. Use the moderator account only for meration and post any personal takes on a personal account.

[-] imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 days ago

In general, I agree, but I'm concerned with the prevalence of vote manipulation and shithousing on this site, and I feel like my past track record on this account is one of the only ways for me to protect myself from the constant baseless accusations of being a Russian shill, being a right winger, etc.

I feel that someone needs to be able to counter the increasing tendency towards absolute ideological purity that is strangling this platform, and if people don't know me from a hole in the wall, it'll be that much easier to discredit me when I try to criticize the circlejerking that goes on here.

In other words, I'm a human being, and I have opinions, and I'm flawed. But that doesn't mean I can't or don't try my best to act objectively and in the best interests of the server when I'm performing my admin duties. That's reality, and hiding behind alt accounts just to pretend that I'm a pure paragon of justice on my admin account isn't really my style, and I don't really see how it would benefit anyone.

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[-] eggymachus@sh.itjust.works 43 points 5 days ago

I have to say, the first paragraph of your reply does not give the impression that you want to argue in good faith…

I agree wholeheartedly. My assumption was that such behavior was simply a symptom of the relatively larger proportion of Europeans on this site, and their obvious jealousy and insecurity regarding Americans. I still believe that is the most likely explanation.

That sounds like you think all Europeans are jealous of Americans, and that they have good reason to. It comes off as troll-ish at the very least.

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[-] RedstoneValley@sh.itjust.works 42 points 5 days ago

So, you want the opinion of an average sh.itjustworks user? Well, here it comes.

First and foremost, I think you should let it go and calm down. I know from personal experience, arguing with strangers on the internet can be exhausting and it can rile you up. It's not worth it.

And I've noticed an increase in inciteful troll posts on Lemmy in the past few days. The goal of those is to destroy the community by sowing division and hatred and these posts seem to come from both sides of the political spectrum. It doesn't really matter what political flavor the content seems to be because the purpose is simply to break things. Those are troll posts and the content is designed to provoke anger and hatred. We should be careful not to fall into this trap, as an international community.

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[-] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 21 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

That's a shame, OP, you always seem like a pretty collected and calm voice, it's disappointing to hear you're a dang dirty fed/commie/fascist/Russian/Chinese/Soros/Thiel agent.

[-] verity_kindle@sh.itjust.works 10 points 4 days ago

Neighbor: "He seemed so normal..." Background is full of barbie dolls hanging from the porch, the azaleas....

[-] MargotRobbie@lemm.ee 10 points 4 days ago

Nooo, not the Barbies 🥺

[-] imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works 7 points 4 days ago

Oh, look who's back! I thought you had left for good, that might have been part of why I've been so depressive lately 😅

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[-] iii@mander.xyz 30 points 5 days ago

I find people who's personality is "anti-X" or "fuck-Y" are usually not enjoyable to be around.

There's plenty of those on Lemmy, yes. But thankfully just a loud minority. Banning them (as a user), made Lemmy much more enjoyable.

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[-] spinne@sh.itjust.works 17 points 4 days ago

I'm an American. I'm not one of the "good" Americans, though, since I'm disabled, not Christian, not capitalist, and not white. I've spent my whole life getting shit on as a third-class citizen by Americans steeped in American culture and public school education that has, at every turn, preached American exceptionalism and pulling oneself up by their bootstraps while totally ignoring every benefit offered to them and withheld from people like me.

I think that you've been lucky so far, but now that you're being asked to sit the fuck down and listen while other people talk, you're taking it badly. After a lifetime of privilege, it's really easy to mistake being brought into line with everybody else's equality for oppression; please don't do that. It's a bad look and sets you up to feel bad unnecessarily.

There are like 8 billion people on this planet and you're one of about 330 million Americans. It's pretty reasonable that your perspective isn't the majority opinion, and that other people from other countries may also think their home is the best possible place to live and everyone else is an unlucky chump. Instead of dismissing all the critical comments as the kvetching of the jealous, unwashed masses outside your borders, it may help to look at them as nothing more than other people sharing their own viewpoints. Also, reading about events like Juneteenth, the MOVE bombing, the Kent State massacre, the Jackson State killings, and the Tulsa massacre may help you better understand why people from other places side eye Americans.

And seriously, the metric system is based on the physical properties of Earth and base 10 counting, not dead oppressors.

[-] Zagorath@aussie.zone 5 points 4 days ago

the metric system is based on the physical properties of Earth

Not really. Official units are defined in that kind of way (a metre used to be a certain fraction of the circumference of the Earth, though it's now a certain amount of time travelled at light speed), but the definitions are arbitrary and used to justify defining the base unit how we want it. Metric's superiority has nothing to do with metres being better than yards or kilogrammes being better than pounds. It's this part:

and base 10 counting

As well as the fact that derived units all fit together nicely.

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[-] 1984@lemmy.today 19 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

I just see memes, no drama. Guess it depends on what you watch.

America is fun to make fun of, having hardly any vacations even, and thinking public Healthcare is communism. :) But I prefer them very much to Russia or China, that's for damn sure. They may love their money but they are usually not kidnapping and killing their own people.

If they want to work all their life for their money, ok. :) I dream of getting out of the hamster wheel, personally.

[-] otp@sh.itjust.works 17 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

I don't really care about this kind of drama here. I think people are allowed to have opinions. Attacks on people based on -isms are not cool, but let's be real... aren't jokes that target Americans punching up in some of the contexts you're referring to? And that's usually fair game.

As for jealousy towards Americans, I truly don't believe that's the case.

If there were underlying jealousy, it'd be more towards the country being relatively safe during WW2, having not been bombed or invaded the way Europe was, and having that massive advantage as it grew as a nation.

The success of the USA is generally because of its geographical location and the unfortunate economic conditions that hit Europe due to WW2. I don't think it's really because of anything special about American people or American culture.

I think people can be upset with Americans the way that people can be upset with trust fund kids who tell less fortunate people to pick themselves up by the bootstraps.

With that said... can't you make comments without revealing yourself as an admin? I feel like that's just going to trigger some people, lol

[-] imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

With that said… can’t you make comments without revealing yourself as an admin? I feel like that’s just going to trigger some people, lol

I dunno, there's an option to "speak as moderator" but I literally never turn it on. But I figured if people click on my profile they can probably see.

It adds that little shield thing but as I said, I never use it.

I think jealousy was the wrong word to use, but saltiness feels more appropriate. It's precisely because of the fact that America is only in its current position due to a series of recent historical events that makes it more frustrating for non-Americans. They seem to feel that we are undeserving of our wealth and power, and that they would do a better job if they were running this country.

I get the trust fund analogy, but what about the trust fund kid who donates a lot of money to charity and gets a medical degree and serves underprivileged communities in developing countries? It seems to me that many lemmings would still shit on that person just because of their birth, regardless of the fact that they're trying to do the right thing.

That's what I find frustrating, because it's so counterproductive. If you still get shit on just for being American even when you're actively trying to escape the corporate machine that controls every aspect of our lives and to connect with alternative viewpoints via Lemmy, you start to wonder why you should even bother.

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[-] MutilationWave@lemmy.world 8 points 4 days ago

The success of the USA is generally because of its geographical location and the unfortunate economic conditions that hit Europe due to WW2.

Do not forget slavery. This is huge to the success of the US.

[-] allo@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 days ago

Can we have new drama please?

[-] imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 days ago

I might post about the hexbear reaction to this post later. It was amusing to say the least. But I would post that to !meanwhileongrad, this has already been plenty of drama for the main community.

[-] WhatSay@slrpnk.net 16 points 5 days ago

Drama is inevitable when you connect enough people.

As an American, that has endless criticism for the countless wrongs in America, I haven't noticed much issue. I suppose if I was a patriot or maga fan, maybe I'd be more uncomfortable here.

I had seen a wave of divisive Russian posters in Reddit 6-7 years ago, usually with trump memes. I haven't noticed that here, probably because trolls get fed better elsewhere.

Thanks for what you do, often no good deeds happen without criticism.

[-] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Not from sh.itjust.works

But I think that user (@DankOfAmerica@reddthat.com) just saw a bunch of posts from lemmygrad or hexbear and concluded that "Lemmy is Anti-American", which is not true at all. Lemmy users criticize the US, but (other than the aforementioned tankies) aren't hating on Americans. (At least, that's my experience.)

[-] TORFdot0@lemmy.world 15 points 5 days ago

My advice is that we don’t always have to engage with with every opinion on the internet.

I especially consider this advice when an .ml or other far-left instance user posts tankie propaganda, rather than engage with it or make a meta post about it, just ignore it. Block the user and move on.

There are many many inherently negative and unhappy people online, not just here. These kind of people aren’t going to be swayed by random comments, they will just trap you in their negativity.

Everyone should empower themselves and use their individual moderation tools like block or mute, they may find they have a better experience. Not that we should block any one who disagrees with us, but there’s no reason to be brought down by someone who finds it their life mission to harass or bring down an entire group of people.

[-] archomrade@midwest.social 5 points 4 days ago

I can't think of anything more american than complaining about anti-american bias while accusing everyone else of just being jealous

[-] imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works 12 points 4 days ago

Thank God, they bought it - Russian agent imaqtpie

[-] dragonfucker@lemmy.nz 12 points 5 days ago

America isn't a true democracy. There's gerrymandering, and electoral college, and first past the post. But it used to have one little bit of democracy left at the federal level. And then America voted for Trump.

Kamala didn't even get the popular vote. Because Americans didn't think it was worth trying to win that like they did in 2016. The popular vote is the bragging rights to say the government doesn't represent the people, and Americans didn't want it.

So, Americans chose to be thought of by the world as fascists. Not all of them, but most of them didn't get up and choose otherwise. Few enough said no, that more were able to say yes. The default American image is a fascist. Nobody should be beholden to a default image, but that is the starting point. The mode average.

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[-] SoftTeeth@lemmy.world 10 points 4 days ago

I'm American, we are rapidly turning into this century's Nazi Germany.

This is not a drill, pay attention to reality

[-] Nougat@fedia.io 16 points 5 days ago

I'm somewhat on the outside of this, am aware of a bit but not following super close.

But the moment I read

Hello all, it is with a heavy heart that I must admit that I have become the drama that I always sought to avoid for this server.

-- Yeah, you're fine.

Simply being in a position of authority, even if you are not using that authority, will make you a target for rabble-rousers. On internet forums, the Venn diagram between "people who need to be moderated" and "people who will raise hell about mod actions" has a huge amount of overlap. There's kind of no avoiding catching hell as a forum mod.

[-] JohnDClay@sh.itjust.works 14 points 5 days ago

My impression is that Lemmy has a sizable demographic of people whose communities have been banned from Reddit. I'm thinking hexbear especially, but a lot of .ml and others too. Several violently pro communism anti west groups. (I have a theory that they've been defusing to other instances too, but idk.) I think that's part of the reason why you get so much America bad rhetoric.

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