We're giving them cluster bombs and mines to defend their country with, not amputate children.

You're missing the point here though. It is an objective fact that mines and unexploded cluster munitions keep maiming and killing people long after whatever conflict they were intended for has ended, and the victims are usually disproportionally children. The stated intent of these weapons does not change that.

War is a shitty situation for all involved

Do you include your own country in the "all involved" here?