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[-] carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone 82 points 1 day ago

ngl men dating people their age would be a nice change

cause the situation now is really hammering home that if men could go lower, they would. 20 was the minimum age in that study.
Picture of a graph titled "Ages of Partners Men & Women Find Most Attractive". The data for women shows they tend to find people their age (or a bit younger) most attractive, while the data for men shows that no matter their age, they all tend to find partners around 20 most attractive.

[-] jmill@lemmy.zip 25 points 13 hours ago

That chart isn't of "how low" the men in the study would go, it the age of the women ranked most attractive by the men in the study. Still isn't great, agreed, but it is talking purely about physical attractiveness.

Here is the chart from the same study about what age ranges the men in the study said they would find acceptable to date. By 28 years old, 20 is no longer within the field.

[-] arrow74@lemmy.zip 62 points 21 hours ago

You just made a lot of assumptions not supported by the science.

All this shows is physical attraction. When shown pictures of random women to then rate the physical attractiveness of.

That's it. Nothing about who these men actually wanted to date. Someone can be very physically attractive to you and you can simultaneously not want to date them.

[-] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 4 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

Someone can be very physically attractive to you and you can simultaneously not want to date them.

Yep, talk to a 10/10, then opens her mouth saying she wants to vote for Trump and completely flaccid. I suspect the reverse also happens.

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today -3 points 16 hours ago

If I see "College" or "18" in a certain place, I swipe, I don't even look.

[-] degen@midwest.social 1 points 15 minutes ago

Not saying which way is pretty dumb, bravo

[-] DireTech@sh.itjust.works 39 points 22 hours ago

Attractive or actually want to date? I’m guessing porn stars are all around that age, but I have trouble believing the average 40 year old guy wants to date a 20 year old. Or maybe they only quizzed the older guys who like to hang out in bars?

I’m over 40 and imagine even 10 years younger would be hard to deal with.

[-] Pat_Riot@lemmy.today 4 points 10 hours ago

I'm 48 and my wife is 10 years younger. We have been together for 10 years. We are happy together and have enough in common to really enjoy each other's company. We also have enough not in common to be able to give each other space. Milage varies for everyone, for sure, but at least in our case the age difference has meant nothing.

[-] Asidonhopo@lemmy.world 1 points 9 hours ago

This is ageism. As an also over 40 if you're not making friends and considering romantic partners outside of Gen X you are denying the world and steadily losing touch with society. Enjoy senility if you keep on this bigoted path!

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 points 16 hours ago

Wait, you would not date me? Really? What do they got, that I don't?!?

(I don't actually want to date a guy, just jealous)

[-] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 6 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

men and women can date whomever they want at any age of an adult. its actually sexist to men says they cant.

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 4 points 17 hours ago

Eww, I really don't want someone fresh out of high school. What are they going to do with some school girl?

[-] RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 9 points 13 hours ago

Have sex with them, you dork

[-] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 41 points 1 day ago

Oof.

I (a man who doesn't date me) personally feel like past five or so years in either direction it tends to rapidly fall off. Look weird and hard to relate to.

[-] RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 2 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

I've notived that Yanks are really into this, a meme circulating was that anyone with their age starting with 2 has no business dating anyone with their age starting with 1. Lmao

[-] musubibreakfast@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago

So you're saying a 200 year old can't date a 100 year old?

[-] RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 3 points 8 hours ago

Half your age +7 ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

[-] musubibreakfast@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago

So a 200 year old person can't date a 100 year old person. But it would be fine if a 200 year old person dated a 107 year old person.

[-] atro_city@fedia.io 3 points 16 hours ago
[-] CheesyFox@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 1 hour ago

tell that to my hairline :(

[-] musubibreakfast@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago

No, most of us eventually turn into vinaigrette. Just toss me into some twenty year old girl's salad when it's my time.

[-] Dagnet@lemmy.world 31 points 1 day ago

I dated a girl much younger than me and it was ass. Literally couldn't talk about anything interesting (to me). Dated a way older girl and it was so chill, also best sex I've had. Though if I were to choose (let's be honest, I don't get much choice) I would pick 1 or 2 years younger than me at most

[-] DaTingGoBrrr@lemmy.world 4 points 17 hours ago

Same! When I was 27 I saw a girl that was 22. After seeing her for two days I just couldn't take it anymore. She was way too immature for me. It felt like I was dating a kid...

To be fair I was also very immature at the age of 22. But I really don't get men who date much younger women.

[-] shalafi@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago

I've had sex with women half my age, or less, but for a partner I've always loved women my own age, give or take a few years.

Of course it's all on a sliding scale. 50 dating 40, meh, close enough. 18 dating 12, aw hell no.

And then you have Filipinas. Lord. Went to my wife's friend's birthday party last summer. She was turning 30. He was about to turn 70. :) We're the only white/Asian couple of the same age, and my wife is really insecure about it.

[-] baines@piefed.social 4 points 22 hours ago

classmate was 15 his dad was 71 lol

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Article referencing data source

To make these charts, Rudder looked at the preferences of OkCupid users. As you can see, a woman's taste in men typically evolves as she ages, while a man's taste in women stays the same no matter how old he gets.

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today -1 points 16 hours ago

Think that's because we don't really get much of a choice, as the women tend to marry early, and not fuck around too much, leaving us only with the women who...aren't into anything, or are much younger.

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