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have they never seen a biracial person on tv? like? poor kid, when I was 16 i got black box braids and I felt great until my boss started calling me the predator and tried to make all of my coworkers call me the predator instead of my name.
they don't watch that woke crap
this is why i kept a picture of melanasains my phone as a teen
lying to white people was one of my fav things for a bit.
"How many times do I need to tell you? Don't even DREAM of telling white people the truth! Shit. Making white people riot. I'm going to go find a white man and lie to him right now."
Yeah at ex model c all girls high schools in South Africa there were major issues around black girls hair. Even led to full on protests because of how racist these schools were. I remember meeting someone at university detail how they were forced to put chemicals in their hair to straighten it while at one of these schools. But I think the protests led to a change in hair and uniform policy, so at least something happened.
so nice that the girls changed things. sadly hair is extremely politicized everywhere. and just 15 year ago relaxed hair (chemically straighten) was the norm. but than the natural hair movement happened and now its a huge generational divide. I will always be against relaxers because they double your risk of certain types of cancer. My first major act of teen rebellion was cutting off my relaxed hair with kitchen scissors when i was 15. I used to have constant oozing sores on my head from the relaxer. my mother was so pissed she called every family member to tell them i looked homeless. I told her I "was no longer conforming to the eurocentric patriarchy beauty standards" and she said "I dont know what that means, you look ridiculous". I have a 10000 hair stories, people coming up to me and petting me without saying a word, a BLACK boss making me cover my natural hair because i was trying to start locs, so much so that some of my Muslim customers assumed I was Muslim but I never denied it because that was too awkward, like 5 diffrent white toddlers have pointed to my hair and asked "whats that" back in my babysitting for rich people days.
I'm so sorry that you had to experience all that. Hopefully you're in a better situation now
i mean in in America so ya know... but yeah I love my natural hair, it took many years to learn how to take care of especially when I had no money and no coping mechanisms for burnout. but its now down to my collar bone! and best of all I have a partner how has learned to do my hair so im always looking cute! and i now wear lots of mens styles which are way cheaper to get done professionally. life is good. also natural hair is weirdly common with black professors ive had. so thats nice whenever go to grad school. Ive heard south africa is having its own natural hair movement. I wish I lived somewhere like cuba where the government was invested in promoting black natural hair.
Yeah natural hair on the rise. It's becoming much more common, along with braids + extensions. Especially amongst young people, a lot of people don't straighten or relax anymore.
love to see it!
I was even sad when my friend buzzed their's off, but apparently they got tired of all the conditioning and how expensive a hair conditioner that worked for them was. Still supported their choice anyways
yeah ive been there, its so expensive to have natural hair. all products that actually work are expensive as hell. its a shame because if we in a less capitalist hellhole we would all do each others hair for free, i like looking at precolonial black hair styles so and unique and beautiful and varied. good on you for supporting your friend. you know youre my favorite white south african? (the bar is in hell, but youve cleared it lol)
The bar might as well be on the floor lol. How do you know some others, guessing immigrants to the US? In general the worst of us are among the immigrat/expat community.
ive worked a a cafe in a tourist traps so ive met rich assholes from all over the world. scandanavians (i cant tell them apart) are the fucking worst, they keep saying im "too friendly" and trying to touch my hair and flirt with me. than australians than south africans. rich Chinese people dont make small talk with me almost at all but im gonna chalk that up to a cultural thing. australians suck so hard they always come in and say "i would order a flat white but you couldnt make it right" and im like yes i can ive practiced for you fuckers and they go "no you wouldnt make it right ill take a frap" and than i scream. honestly the south african adults are just awkward its the CHILDREN that are little racist freaks, i have never in my life have seen worse behaved more entitled children. Its the most humiliating thing to be berated by a CHILD and forced to make their drink 3 times while the mother encourages them to call me stupid.
The children probably learn from how our society is structured here. It's common for upper/middle class families to have a maid/domestic worker (who is in 99% of cases a black woman) clean their entire house for minimum wage. And pretty much everyone working in low paid service jobs, from cashiers to petrol pump attendants and waiters/waitresses, are black. So the children learn from that blatant racial inequality and act like that and become spoilt racist brats. I just hope they grow out of it when they get older.
would you say most of the adults are still pretty racist? like is it hard to find non racist white people to be friends with?
Among older people yes most people are still very racist, but the situation is better among younger people. Still a lot of racism though, the amount of young people that have felt comfortable using the k word around me is way too high. But the situation is still much better than before among young folks, though I tend to avoid the crazies so yeah.
well i learned a new slur today. I do love hearing your perspective on things, I feel like ive learned so much from having you on here.
I just hope what I'm saying is helpful and accurate, I just talk about what I see here.
Sorry about that.
no no im never gonna get called that here, dont apologize. its good to know things things too.
the pain, burning, cost and increased chances of breast and uterine cancer are soOooOOo relaxing. yeah even the name is fucked up.
yeah I think natural hair (whether people like it or not) says a lot about you. it usually says your cool! so cool to meet the one who marched with mlk!! angela davis was my nickname in college for a bit, due to my large afro and you know being a communist lol.
What the fuck
oh yeah he sucked. he was the head manager and his dad was the owner. I think he was attracted to me because all my male coworkers kept saying he was, but he was so mean all the time to me in particular so idk. don't worry I no one besides him called me that, but it was super damaging to my young self esteem. I felt better by calling him a virgin and all my coworkers went "ooooooohhh" fun times (problematic to make fun of someone for being a virgin in retrospect I know). would you believe i left that workplace because he wouldn't do anything when a coworker was sexually harassing me?
oh ive been there once. great spring weather. didn't talk to the locals much but everyone felt rude.
Well maybe you shouldn't have been ripping all their spines out and screaming in triumph.
Or maybe you should have started, they sound like they deserved it