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Kinda just hoping they love me for who I am and not some forced version of myself that makes me feel like a complete ass.

[-] Kolanaki@pawb.social 4 points 2 weeks ago

We would share comfortable silences and not feel the need to talk at all.

[-] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 2 weeks ago

I hate talking small. I'm not good at it. It's one of the reasons I have a limited number of profound friendships rather than being liked by everybody. I'm an introvert. I'm ok with that. My partner can chat when we see each other after work because when we're talking about the kitties doing something cute or what we wanna have for dinner that's not small talk. That's talking about things with very low impact or consequences.

[-] qarbone@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

when we're talking about the kitties doing something cute or what we wanna have for dinner that's not small talk.

What else do you imagine is part of "small talk"?

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I think the point is more to filter out people quickly who you couldn't be in a sustainable relationship with anyways.

I don't mind it as much as i used to anymore. But ten years ago, i consistently associated "small-talk" people with people who were superficial and wouldn't comprehend important issues should they ever come up anyways.

Also i'm not sure how right i was about that.

[-] Soleos@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago

You need a bit balance of everything. I used to be snooty about small-talk. Eventually I started noticing that the most personable people, who make someone new feel welcome, included, and who make you feel like you're noticed and worth remembering through recalling basic personal details--these people have excellent small-talk skills.

I think part of why small-talk often feels pointless is because people don't enter into it intentionally, with purpose. If you go into it with purpose, like creating a good social experience for others, or building/maintaining 2nd/3rd order social connections in a humanizing way, it feels a lot different. Like anything, it's still exhausting after a certain amount.

[-] akakevbot@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I absolutely love questions like this! My wife absolutely hates them. She often gets irritated when people ask questions about what you think.

Like when our therapist asked her "How do you think your actions contribute to your own unhappiness?"

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[-] Plebcouncilman@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 weeks ago
[-] obvs@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

I don't think it matters.

I honestly don't think it's a meaningful question.

[-] DamienGramatacus@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

Asking someone you love "How was your day?" is a meaningful question. Small talk is bullshit time wasting between randos or acquaintances.

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[-] Sibshops@lemm.ee 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Legally, yes. Deterministicly, maybe.

Free will is just the total sum of available options an actor can take, assuming another actor can be put into the same position.

[-] solsangraal@lemmy.zip 2 points 2 weeks ago

"i just don't think this relationship is going to work. i need more small talk."

"...the fuck? ok, bye"

[-] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

We gossip about our coworkers/classmates /people we know in common or talk about shared hobbies and upcoming plans together.

[-] BackgrndNoize@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

As someone who's not been in an real relationship this is my fear as well, even if I find someone how will I keep them engaged enough for a lifetime. I rarely even text the women I get digits from, I'm just very comfortable being alone and now it's getting problematic

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[-] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 points 2 weeks ago

No, we just stfu when we don't have anything interesting to talk about. It's not complicated.

[-] SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

What about how the left and right brain can operate independently when split?

[-] Gutek8134@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

That's the casual conversations of my DnD party

[-] FelixCress@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

More like "hi honey, I'm home, would you fancy a quick fuck?"

[-] vane@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago
  • Nope.
  • Why ?
  • Because I said so. Go to your room and do your homework.
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