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i've seen so many iterations of this on tiktok. people saying "this tweet motivates me to get out of bed"

how?

"omg you people cant do anything"

i mean... yeah? that's kinda how executive dysfunction rolls?

is the tweet supposed to be insulting? and that motivates people to do shit out of spite? if that's so, i wish my adhd was so weak i was able to prove her wrong out of spite

is it something else? please explain, thank you

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[-] bort@hexbear.net 34 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

"omg you people cant do anything"

To be honest I can't take posts like that seriously either. There's a weird online tendency to self-infantalize and blow problems out of proportion, and frankly imo it detracts from real problems we face.

Like what discussion actually needs to be had about "the stress of choosing a halloween costume"?

[-] AcidLeaves@hexbear.net 24 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Yea at that point it's definitely learned helplessness or having so strongly identified with your disability that you've completely stopped trying

Nobody talks about the stressors of picking a Halloween costume probably because it's completely optional, self inflicted, and of such low importance. Of all the issues that ADHD would give somebody why would anybody complain about this particular issue

[-] bort@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago

learned helplessness

Ah that's a good phrase! I really don't want to be 'bootstrappy' but there is a sensible line surely?

[-] AntiOutsideAktion@hexbear.net 21 points 3 days ago

Learned helplessness is an actual concept in clinical psychology

[-] RedWizard@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago

Huh the more you know!

[-] bunitor@lemmy.eco.br 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

the op is kinda silly, but i am strongly suspicious of anyone who complains about people that supposedly "blame everything on their diagnosis". more often than not it's just a neurotypical that hates us and thinks adhd is an excuse for laziness, which i believe is 100% the case for the rt. adhders who don't take responsibility for their problems do exist, but i'd rather err to the side of not harming us any more than the neurotypicals already do

and it's super weird to me that someone would be motivated by someone who thinks your diagnosis is fake

[-] ephemeral@hexbear.net 9 points 3 days ago

I really don't think the tweet was meant to be taken seriously

[-] TommyBeans@hexbear.net 10 points 3 days ago

Same, I think they were just introducing something they wanted to discuss but in that hyperbolic irony poisoned twitter fashion.

[-] ephemeral@hexbear.net 15 points 3 days ago

yeah the phrase "we don't talk enough about" is often used in an intentionally hyperbolic or sarcastic way. probably this person was just stressing out about finding a costume at the last minute and made a lighthearted remark blaming their lack of foresight on their ADHD. I'd give it a 0.1% chance that they were actually suggesting there should be a serious discussion about this topic

[-] RION@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago

Reminds me of the classic Joyce Carol Oates tweet about how skeleton decorations on halloween are actually inconsiderate to grieving people

[-] Erika3sis@hexbear.net 25 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

is the tweet supposed to be insulting? and that motivates people to do shit out of spite? if that's so, i wish my adhd was so weak i was able to prove her wrong out of spite

I can't really read it any other way, and looking at the comments under an Instagram repost of this, yeah, it seems like that sort of "bootstraps mentality" is more or less the intended meaning as it's taken by the people who share this picture. It's just gross, I can't stand that people like stuff like this.

[-] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 33 points 3 days ago

I am mostly disgusted by someone having a printed out tweet hung on their wall. Like that is some real bateman-business-card shit

[-] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 22 points 3 days ago

there are dril tweets i would consider

[-] Lyudmila@hexbear.net 12 points 3 days ago

Dril tweet cross-stitch to go with my framed 9/11 fireball poster

[-] Erika3sis@hexbear.net 9 points 3 days ago

Yeah, and it's not even paper!

[-] fakeplastic@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 3 days ago

What's gross about one person finding motivation this way? Sometimes a kick in the ass gets me going, sometimes it doesn't. We're diverse people and find motivation in different ways. And the same person has a diversity of behaviors at different times.

I'm sure some of the commenters were assholes, but it's valuable to some people to be reminded that we can get so used to our feelings that we fall into the pattern of assuming they're insurmountable when that's not always true. It's not a failing if someone can't find motivation with a change of thinking, but it's wrong to deny that it can sometimes happen. The problem is thinking this is a magic fix for everyone.

[-] bunitor@lemmy.eco.br 2 points 2 days ago

I'm sure some of the commenters were assholes

most of them, including the original rt

i see your point (i don't relate at all, but i see it). it's just that, to me, it's just repeating something i know already, heavily implying i'm just faking it

[-] ephemeral@hexbear.net 17 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I think the original tweet was just a lighthearted self-deprecating joke and the retweeter took it way too seriously. it seems the meme is saying that this Very Online interaction has motivated them to touch grass, but I find it ironic because hanging a tweet on your wall is pretty antithetical to touching grass imo shrug-outta-hecks

[-] PapaEmeritusIII@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

My two cents is that I have ADHD and I have no idea why I’m apparently supposed to be stressed out by Halloween costumes. I love halloween

[-] propter_hog@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago

Halloween is the bees knees. I get to wear my special interest and I get rewarded with candy for it? Sign me the fuck up.

[-] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago

Ive got a count orlock looking coat and just go out looking like a spooky guy

[-] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago

I just wear my cowboy outfit and paint a skull on my face.

[-] spectre@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago

Sounds like you pretty much have it.

  • original tweet is opening a conversation about how halloween costumes affect people with ADHD

  • The quote tweet is insulting the original tweet.

  • the tiktok poster, presumably someone with ADHD, who presumably has some agreement with the quote tweet, has put the banner on their wall so that it will "motivate them to get out of bed in the morning" lest they get (figuratively) insulted by the quote-tweeter (who they agree with).

[-] OthelloII@hexbear.net 11 points 3 days ago

I have literally used this tweet to get out of bed and do party work/ apply to jobs/ hang out with friends/ follow through on commitments to my partner. i don't see "you people" as being all people with adhd, but a particular type of person with adhd whom i work hard not to be like. people who infantilize themselves into nothing, and are awful to be around, usually white people who actively make being around them difficult.

and like im someone who has a breakdown a few times a month because i hate my brain, and i have to wake up 2-3 hours early for everything so i can leave the house in time.

[-] thethirdgracchi@hexbear.net 12 points 3 days ago

"There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn"

[-] gaycomputeruser@hexbear.net 13 points 3 days ago

I think it's supposed to be interpreted as upsetting, so you do stuff out of spite. As you said.

[-] 7bicycles@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago

In this scenario I don't think it's spite as much as a sort of modern rendition of "this too shall pass". Like a reminder to not overthink it

[-] KnilAdlez@hexbear.net 11 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I think it's important to note that is is a twitter interaction, so both parties are most likely the worst people alive (even before Elon). The original poster seems to want to start a discussion about an entirely optional activity (wearing a costume on halloween), the retweeter has lumped all people with ADHD together and suggesting they are all complaining about what the retweeter sees as a completely non-issue. Suggesting that the retweeter thinks that ADHD people are paralyzed by absolutely anything. People saying it's their motivation are motivated by not wanting to be one of those ND people.

[-] bunitor@lemmy.eco.br 2 points 2 days ago

the retweeter thinks that ADHD people are paralyzed by absolutely anything. People saying it's their motivation are motivated by not wanting to be one of those ND people.

makes sense

but it's kinda out of our control, though, isn't it? we can try our best to do shit, but sometimes we can't do shit, and that will be it. beating ourselves up over it does nothing to help. in my case, simply accepting that sometimes i won't be able to do shit is actually what helped me the most

[-] KnilAdlez@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago

Absolutely. Far be it from me to tell someone how to motivate themselves, but the whole thing is really toxic.

[-] Owl@hexbear.net 10 points 3 days ago

I think the first person actually wanted to say something like "my ADHD is making it so hard to pick a Halloween costume this year," but they're so twitter-poisoned that they have to turn it into a universal experience, assume the existence of an existing discourse around that experience, and imply a societal failing.

[-] KnilAdlez@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago

Yes, this too. The whole interaction is broken from top to bottom.

[-] PKMKII@hexbear.net 11 points 3 days ago

What is the issue for ADHD people and Halloween costumes? Is it figuring out what to wear? The actual wearing? Seeing everyone in the costumes walking around?

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[-] S_H_K@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 3 days ago

As a neurodivergent I learnt to not give a fuck an do the shit. But decide clearly what is the shit I want to do. I understand the voices bashing you for failure are still there but you have to do it. The anxiety of not meeting the expectations are always there but still I do the shit. If you give in you're going nowhere. If it's too crippling you need medication or a change in it. I'm not saying I don't have my low days but if you give in is only low days for sure. Fuck is tiring but still... Now I should be cleaning the kitchen instead of being here you see...

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