Well, at least the wife thinks highly of you.

wife in a healthy relationship, looking at her sweatpantsed husband: heavy breathing Oh my!

About 16% in men have a fat fetish compared to <1% of women. Also about 36% of women prefer a partner heavier than them. Also, 97% want a man who’s taller than them while about 2 % of women want a man smaller than them.

Of all the people currently alive, about 7% are women aged 25-35. of those 1% like fat men, of those 2% want the man to be smaller. So you have 0.0014% of any given population who is female 25-35 and likes small fat men. About half of them are single, you you have 0.0007% of any population who will find you attractive.

In a city of 400,000 people that’s 3

Me: "I'll do my best but you know how hard it is to resist this." Gestures at dad bod

Wife: "Oh, I'm well aware."

Me: 😘

Wife: 😏... 🍆👉👌

fat

Not a deal breaker. The dad bod is in. I suspect other dad qualities are also in. Like sweatpants and socks with sandals.

In a sense of understanding the wife's perspective, proximity is just as important as the other major factors that affect how likely a relationship is to begin. There was a cool study of college students who lived in an apartment style building that showed you were most likely to begin a relationship with the person who had a door immediately next to yours. The only exception to that was for the person who had a door immediately next to the mailboxes. Proximity matters because it lets another person see you enough to form opinions based on a lot of interactions, and we all know someone who 'shines' despite their physical looks.

Plot twist: new neighbor was wearing a shirt that read, "I <3 dad bods," and was already flirting (asking for help moving boxes /eyeroll) with the guy in sweatpants.

That's what I'd be telling my fiancee as a joke because I know she's a chubby chaser (in her own words).

My brother in Christ, you do not realize how down bad the 20-something girls with daddy issues are.

My best friend hooked an old guy without custody of his kids. They're moving in together next week.

Edit: My point is that people like her exist and have their own preferences. Unfortunately the vast majority of men she goes out with are creeps. I'm going to support my friend, but I'm also doing a very in depth background check as soon as I learn his last name. The overwhelming majority of men interested in much younger women are creeps.

Hey sweatpants can do some work. Are they grey?

Also 40s can be good-looking

And "fat" is pretty subjective; people with average bodytypes can be very successful with confidence

We usually say to each other....don't bring home nasty STDs. Even though we both know....way to busy to fuck someone else.