Because often that type of relationship is highly abusive and the power structure is horribly lopsided. Inherently there is nothing wrong with money being a priority in a relationship, but in my experience the people who set out with that goal often end up very unhappy because a relationship based on money becomes transactional in its every nature.

The "good" partners wont be interested in a partner who is just there for money, so they wont be interested in you.

You do you, but i dont know any happy gold diggers, or people with a sugar partner with the exception of a single couple, and in that case the husband had a high paying job but his wife's income was 10x his so he was not working because they needed the money so they decided he should be a state at home parent. He sees his job as being eye candy for her, he takes care of all kid related things, cleans the house every day, and then spends 2-4hr a day at the gym so he is in peak physical form for her.

When you're a purchase and not a partner you will be treated like one.

I'm just saying, rich men can pick and choose from gorgeous women. Being physically attractive isn't enough, those dynamics stop working when serious money and/or status is involved. They will choose women who have more going on for them than that, provided they are even okay with a transactional relationship. Rich marries rich.

And then, if you get "in" so to say, you definitely should expect to be reduced to the transactional nature of the relationship. He pays for everything, so you are expected to fulfill the role of a fuckmaid. Once you are no longer as attractive as the other 20somethings looking to land a rich husband he will likely cheat on you and/or just divorce you. With a prenup.

What’s wrong with getting married for money? As long as your upfront about it and the other person is ok with it then what’s the problem?

If both people are onboard, its okay I guess. However, I imagine someone that is rich and okay taking on a partner with no love in relationship is going to have a lot of choices of people to pick from for the position of "stay at home partner". I'm guessing that you'd have to bring a lot to the table to win out over your competition. If I were not the rich one, I'd also be worried about the end-game. A soon as whatever got me the rich partner fades, what would prevent my rich partner from dumping me and trading up to someone that has what I had years prior? You can bet anyone rich will make you sign a prenup, so you won't be walking away with very much when it ends.

The deep loving relationship is what keeps partners together long after looks, charisma, and cognition fade with the passing years and advanced aging. Getting old sucks for everyone and there's nothing we can do to escape it. Getting old alone without my loving partner sounds like hell.

There's nothing wrong with it if two people go clear eyed about it. But relationships always have layers of hidden expectations. Mutual love and respect can navigate those rocky times.

I don't have much going for me

Since this relationship is purely transactional, what do you have to offer? What do you have to offer that they can't just buy without the long term liability?

Nothing, as long as everyone involved is aware and agrees.

Negotiate everything ahead of time, be prepared to also have to enforce the agreements periodically since anyone making that kind of transactional merger of lives is going to be prone to wanting to renegotiate when life throws the unexpected at the couple.

Just be aware that marrying into wealth means you're going to have to bring more to the table than just being a stay at home wife. Even upper middle class folks that are willing to take a trophy wife damn well expect them to be a trophy, not just a random asshole off the street. The higher the income bracket, the more you'll need to offer for a transactional relationship.

Think about it. With enough money, a random woman or man can adopt on their own, so they don't need a spouse for kids. They can hire a surrogate as far as that goes if it just has to be bio kids; then hire nannies. They can throw money around for sex, for housekeeping, even conversation. So you'd have to be damn good at a lot of things to make it more beneficial than just spending directly.

If someone has the kind of income to fully support a partner, and it isn't a love match, they're going to expect you to hold up your end of the bargain. If that's head twice a day every day, and you have allergies that make it impossible during the summer, shit ain't gonna go well. And there is almost certainly going to be a minimum amount of sexual activity expected. Might not be much, but unless your rich partner is asexual, or otherwise eschews sex, it's going to be part of the transaction, and it's just a fact that customers expect prostitutes to perform for the money.

You gotta work that out, what happens if one or both of you get sick, become disabled, change significantly on a physical level, etc. Hammer that shit out before there's a legal binding.

You seem to be a diagnosed narcissist, which might explain your perspective on this.

I mean if you want to sell yourself to someone as a house pet, who am I to say you can't?

Nothing's wrong with it if you're both in on the agreement and happy with it.

As for "not having much going for you"--you have some kind of device to access the internet. If you ignore the 98% of the internet that is dystopian cesspool, there are lots of great learning resources out there. You can compose a message with good grammar and convey your thoughts. You probably have more going for you than you think compared to the average person out of the 8 billion others out there.

Because most people want to marry someone who they think likes them for them. I wouldn’t marry someone who told me they want to marry me for money, because like… I’m not just a wallet with balls and I wouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t like me and just sees me as a means to an end. I’d be offended if I found out my wife did that.

If you marry for money you will earn every cent.

I think it's like you said, if everyone involved is on the same page then who's to say you're wrong? Especially if you're both happy with the situation.

It won't last, and the kids will be worse off for it.

I mean arranged marriages are a thing and often times the family is picking someone with good income potential and its been done for that reason for a long time. I personally don't see doing it for that reason but I tell you relationships are that much tougher if money is tight. 90% of marital problems in my experience are money related.

If your only other option is to work at a fast food place forever you're unlikely to meet someone wealthy to marry. Society is segregated by class.

Well first, this is not as achievable as you think.

Marrying into money means meeting a partner with money which means spending money. You think they're gonna hang out at the local bowling alley? Like genuinely, just use this motivation to network and look for a job without linked in. That would at least allow you to make gains of either gender.

At the very least, you should multi-task. Makes you look less like a gold digger too.

Second even if you find a perfect partner. Unless they are rich rich, if anything happens you become a widow with no job history. You think a 21 year old with no job experience sucks? Try a 48 year old with no job history. That partner is going to be a single point of failure and even if you love eachother deeply, they will die someday, and it's not guaranteed to be when you're 90.

Also others have hit on this but you are betting on a partner. You have two competing interests, you don't want a monster, but you also want to be taken care of. Be... be very aware that the people you would be most worried about, are looking for someone with your goals, persuading someone to have your goals, and are gonna try to raise your need for safety, and lower your expectations.

In some ways... being honest with your goal can almost be ringing the dinner bell to a monster.

that is definition of a goldigger, they marry for the money, luxury, lavious life style, and not having to work for a living. dont really care about the personality, or that he is ugly.

if not rich, its usually attractiveness and high income but still super vain for some people.

Also dont be surprised that the rich/wealthy guy goes for a younger hotter goldigger/or model than you are, and he might have prenup written up so you cant get money from him, or very little.

In principle, I also don’t have an issue with marriages of convenience as long as everyone involved is upfront about their intentions. I just don’t think it’s wise to be financially dependent on another person if it can be avoided, for your own security. You need to think about what will happen if your partner starts imposing conditions on you that you don’t like, becomes abusive, cheats, wants to divorce you. I am not saying this is guaranteed to happen to you, but that it’s good to be prepared for any outcome. No one thinks it will happen to them until it does. The longer you stay out of the workplace, the harder it will be to find work if your marriage doesn’t go as planned - both because of age and lack of experience.

As someone who actually is a stay at home housewife. You don’t have to find a rich man to achieve that goal, just someone who wants a traditional wife.

Now if you have certain lifestyle expectations that would require a rich husband to make them happen; realistically you will be competing against women who will not expect any commitment and are willing to do just about anything to get that man.

Grabs popcorn.

You might enjoy /r/SeriousGynarchy .

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