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submitted 2 months ago by Monster96@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

Be it your best friend, your dog, cat, boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, husband, and all that exists in between. How did you meet them?

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[-] Broadfern@lemmy.world 9 points 2 months ago

My cats walked up on my front porch and decided they were mine.

Pretty much the same for my SO lmao

[-] Asafum@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago

I met my cat in a shelter. She was already an adult cat and very anxious/skiddish around people. When I said I wanted her I literally got looks from the staff that practically screamed "Her!? Really??"

Took well over a year, but eventually she became a silly mush that loves to be near me. Now its been over 10 years with her. She's all I have as far as a companion goes and probably all I'll ever have, but she's the best!

[-] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago

At a sex positive meeting 11 years ago. She was there with her fiance and I was there with my fiance. We both thought each other were cute at the time, but we were busy with other partners. A few years later, she randomly messaged me on fetlife asking me out on a date. We've been together ever since. We just got married a few months ago.

[-] Libb@piefed.social 5 points 2 months ago

We met online some 25+ years ago. We met by accident, while we were discussing with other people about some topic. We then started chatting just the two of us, through email and phone and after a (short) while we decided to meet and have diner. We met and that went quite well. So, we met a few more times and one day, rather quickly to be honest, we decided it would be a lot simpler for both of us if we just started living together not planning on anything special or anything long-term commitment... 25+ years later, we still live together ;)

[-] thisbenzingring@lemmy.today 5 points 2 months ago

I met my wife at a video game arcade in a dirt mall. I worked there and her friends were regulars

I remember the moment I first saw her, in 1995

we started dating in 1998 and have been together ever since

[-] FistingEnthusiast@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago

I sent her a dick pic

!There's a lot more to the story, but that's the essence of it. I do not recommend it to anyone unless you were in the same circumstances as we were!<

[-] MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca 10 points 2 months ago
[-] roofuskit@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

Certainly a tricky situation.

[-] Lumidaub@feddit.org 5 points 2 months ago

A Sailor Moon fan forum in the very late 90s. We were long distance for five years while we both finished school, then moved in together for uni. Very simple, really :)

(He recently surprise bought me the most gorgeous Eternal Sailor Moon figurine ❤️)

[-] Rhoeri@piefed.social 5 points 2 months ago

Friend of a friend. I ordered her a scotch. She downed it like it was a shot, then was so adorably embarrassed when I told her it wasn’t a shot- hung out the rest of the night laughing about that among other things…

That was over 18 years ago. ❤️

[-] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

They were in my highschool english class. They sat next to me during a socratic seminar and was reading a very thick book about medieval torture methods. It was also halloween and they were wearing scary clown makeup. I had already been crushing on them since the school year had started but this was the cherry on top. We've been together 6 years now.

Our beloved cat was found as a kitten with a broken leg in a grocery store parking lot. My partner's sister found her but couldn't keep her because she already had quite a few cats. She knew we were already considering getting a cat so she brought her over to meet us. Genuinely love at first sight. Her name is Bean and she is the most precious little baby.

[-] poccalyps@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 months ago
[-] HubertManne@piefed.social 4 points 2 months ago

At a laid back con which was known for klingons and furries. Her friend kinda dragged her along and im a big nerd.

[-] three@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 months ago
[-] Nemo@slrpnk.net 3 points 2 months ago

I was trying to bum a square at a concert.

[-] Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 months ago

Tinder. We've been happily married for a few years!

[-] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

One summer my buddy and I were at his place and he was frequently looking at his phone and typing texts looking annoyed. He said "look, take this number. Get this chick off my back". In a nutshell... I took my new mission to heart

[-] roofuskit@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

A mutual acquaintance had a board game night at his house. My partner knew him a long time through his former girlfriend and I knew his wife better through close friends. We hit it off right away.

[-] 18107@aussie.zone 1 points 2 months ago

I took a bus for 3 hours to visit a friend, they drove 9 hours to visit the same friend. I thought it was unfair for them to drive back on their own so I offered to share the drive.

I still don't know why they accepted. I also didn't have a plan to get home from their house. I guess it didn't matter because we're married now.

[-] Witchfire@lemmy.world 0 points 2 months ago

Did you ever make it back?

[-] 18107@aussie.zone 1 points 2 months ago

I stayed a week to get the cheapest flights available.

Upon returning, I realised I'd made a mistake. The last week had been the happiest week of my life, and I didn't want to leave them.

Just after returning home, my state closed all borders to incoming travelers. If I were to go back, it would be a one way trip.

I found a hire car, packed all my belongings in it, said goodbye to my family, and started the long drive to move in.

6 months later, I was trying to decide if I wanted to get married or not. I tried to compare the two options as extremes: living with them every day for the rest of my life with no breaks, or never speaking to them again. I couldn't find the slightest issue with the former, and the latter terrified me.

I proposed. They were very surprised. After several minutes of me confirming that this was not a joke, they got excited and said yes.

Neither of us wanted a big wedding. With family scattered over 1000km, Covid restrictions provided a good excuse. We got married with just the celebrant and 2 witnesses.

My mother correctly understood the scale of the wedding when preparing the wedding cake, and made us a 2-tiered wedding muffin.

2 tiny muffins stacked with 3 toothpicks

[-] FRYD@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I met my partner in a queer bar for a kink event. We made eye contact a few times and when I approached them, we started complaining about our chronic pain and fucked up bodies.

[-] CADmonkey@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

we started complaining about our chronic pain and fucked up bodies

100% couple stuff.

[-] Overspark@piefed.social 1 points 2 months ago

I met my wife on IRC. She was attracted to the fact that I could spell. That was 25 years ago.

[-] warbond@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

The standards were different back then

[-] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

My ex-wife said she knew she could trust me because I used :) after a message.

:)

[-] Witchfire@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

OkCupid back when it was good. I'd been on dating apps for years at that point, I was her second match. It's been 6yrs across two countries

[-] rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 months ago

My partner and I technically met through tinder. We went on a walk through a park the first time we met, but just didn't stay in touch. Several months later in December, they randomly added me on Snapchat and we started talking as casual friends. We started dating at the beginning of the month

[-] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 1 points 2 months ago

Tinder back before it was shit. Really funny though, she was my number neighbor! Like when you have a phone number digit that is one sequence before the other.

I think that means that we had gotten our phone numbers in the same store or at least at the same time years before. It's our favorite joke

She moved in next door. We were both recently divorced. Been 6 years since and I do not know what I'd do without her.

[-] Mikina@programming.dev 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

She lived in an entirely different city across the country (Europe, so like two hours of train ride).

She saw me on Facebook, based on photos from a goth festival in our city, so I got a message on Messanger from a profile without a profile picture and no mutual friends. We talked for a bit, I was single at the time, and we eventually decided to meet. I had no idea how she looks like, and I kind of found this idea of a blind date funny - either it works, or I'll get a good story out of it.

We decided to meet and go to a local goth scene hangout, and not only she was really pretty, she also brought two bottles of mead. We managed to drink both of them before even getting to the hangout, where it turned out that she was actually not only a classmate of my best friend (a long time ago), but also used to be part of the scene around 5 years ago (before I joined it), before she went no-contact and changed her nickname due to a relationship (that eventually turned out really terrible). So, she knew most of my friends.

That was 7 years ago. At the time she was living in a small flat, after just getting out of a 7 y.o terrible relationship that she couldn't leave due to having a mortgage, but she managed to save enough on a minimal wage to leave when she found out he was cheating. Her grandma was living with her in her small flat, and she was really a terrible person, even had her aunt with the most entitled child move in, and they were even worse. Always arguing, screaming, being rude, and just acting like dicks. She let them live with her, just because they had nowhere to go, even though she was earning a minimal wage. Them saying that "If we don't like it, we should move out", or that "I shouldn't argue, because I don't live here", while I was actually helping her with rent they weren't doing anything for was insane.

I kept visiting her almost daily, spending time in the one small 5x5m room she had for herself, even though it was two hour train ride. During covid, I was mostly staying at her place, and since she loved animals (her mother worked at a zoo, before cancer got her), we discussed what we want to get, and pet racoon was high on the list. And when she said that we will get a racoon once we live together, I immediately found a flat in my city, and we moved in together around 5 years ago. We stole the ashes of her mother and went no-contact with the people living at her old flat. They can burn in hell.

Unfortunately, racoons are not easily legal to own, but we got a lot of different animals instead. She also helped me with starting to make our own goth events, DJ, and help local promoters, and now we're responsible for more than half of goth events that happen in our city. She's now earning more that I do (and I work in IT), and I'm really happy how did everything turned out. We have no idea how did the rest of her familly end up, but we don't really care.

We are kind of planning a wedding, with only witnesses, but so far what's stopping is that I can't find my birth certificate, and that it looks like it's not possible for both of us to have both surnames (the options are one of us keeps theirs, and the other get's both, or we choose one only, and we both want to have both), so we kind of didn't want to bother with it for a while.

[-] Hazor@lemmy.world 0 points 2 months ago

Why would you not both be able to take both names? Is there some archaic, patriarchal law getting in the way?

[-] Mikina@programming.dev 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

When I was looking through the official marriage papers you submit when oficially requesting marriage, to see what I need to do if we would want to get married, that option simply wasn't there in the checkboxes. And I asked for clarification, and apparently our laws don't allow that combination, at least not as a part of the marriage process.

I haven't really looked into it more, and a friend told me it's very probable that we could just choose one of the available options and then submit a separate request to change my surename to add the missing one. It was also more than a year ago, and someone also told me that our marriage laws did go through a revision recently and it might be actually possible to choose both for both now. I'll have to re-check again, but I'm certain that at least last year, it wasn't possible.

Oh, one option I found a funny loophole was that we could marry, she'd take both, then divorce while keeping our new surenames (so she still has both), then marry again and I'd take both. I would end up with three surenames, mine twice (since she already has both, and I'm keeping mine and taking her current at the point of second marriage), but while that would be pretty funny, realistically it's easier to just file for a surename change after wedding :D

As for the reason, who knows? But an ancient patriarchic custom is probably the reason, I'd guess that especially historically it's not really common for a man to take his wife surename in general, and usually it's just the bride either taking the man's or keeping both.

this post was submitted on 26 Feb 2026
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