Becoming a father has challenged my sleep schedule to change. I'm still naturally a night owl, but now I have more respect for my need to sleep early.

I’ve always been a night owl, and getting into my 30s I had to adjust for an earlier schedule. But it usually takes about 3 days of no strict schedule where I’m back to going to bed late—but I never wake up past like 8/8:30. Usually putting me between 6-8hrs of sleep. But no matter what time I wake up, I’m always of the “it’s only 10:30” camp. Because I like my mornings slow, and when I have an early call time, 10:30 is still mid morning. So, I’m at work at 5? It’s almost lunch at 10, but it’s still only 10.

My wife falls asleep at 10pm, wakes up at 8am (10 hours sleep). I fall asleep at 2am and get up at 9am (7 hours sleep) and she says "must be nice". 🙄

God I’m so thankful that my SO shares in all of the responsibilities almost perfectly. Sure, there’s a bit that she does more of and a bit that I do more of, but I don’t feel like I’m shouldering it all.

My ex on the other hand, we were just bad for each other all the way around. I worked 60+ hours a week and she straight up just wouldn’t clean. If I didn’t do it, it piled up so bad it was unreal. Dishes, clothes, toys. It was insane.

Living with someone who takes the time to think about what I’m dealing with has totally flipped my life. My ex would wake up and scream about everything. Didn’t matter that I was asleep, didn’t matter how long. The woman I’m with now rarely wakes up before me, but if she does she tiptoes and closes cabinets softly.

She randomly says things like, “you’re the best. Thank you so much for doing the dishes and cleaning the bathtub today.” I feel seen, heard, acknowledged.

It’s wonderful.

I believe that almost any two people can get there with effort and communication. Some people just won’t do that, but if you can change that it changes everything.

Sometimes I’ll get upset because of something my SO does, I tell her about it, if she can stop it she does. Sometimes she gets upset about something I’m doing or not doing. She doesn’t sit and growl about it, she tells me. Bam! Problem solved.

I would rather drop dead right here than live on a world where communication doesn’t happen and my needs aren’t considered.

In defense of my ex, she was way better with the guy she ended up with after me. They got along, kept a neat place, and considered and cared for each other. Unfortunately, some people have to learn the hard way.

Same

I am an extreme introvert and I desperately need time alone. Fortunately Sundays are very slow where I work. I use that time to recharge my battery. Isn’t always enough, but with small children I don’t have opportunities at home. I’d feel guilty sitting in a room alone while she deals with all that chaos.

Haha I just sleep at 3am and wake up at 8am. I'm slowly dying send help

Same here, but I hate it. My body clearly fights against me and when I take time off I naturally drift towards my preferred sleeping schedule.

I wish I had the option to adjust my work schedule, but I don't. (Inb4 "get a new job" without any consideration for why I might not be able to do that or why that might not get me the result I want.)