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[-] RegalPotoo@lemmy.world 239 points 8 months ago

Unpopular (?) opinion - text/IM systems are asynchronous messaging systems, and in most cases it's totally reasonable to not immediately jump on your phone and answer a message as soon as you get the notification.

One of my friends is the sort of person who will stop mid sentence when their phone pings so they can answer whatever they've been sent and it drives me nuts

[-] Dasnap@lemmy.world 75 points 8 months ago

Can't remember the last time I had my phone off silent.

[-] Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone 52 points 8 months ago

Yeah my phone gets attention when i want, not when it wants.

I have all notifications off for all apps too, i don't need an app saying hey we haven't fed you crap for an hour come look

[-] fubbernuckin@lemmy.world 13 points 8 months ago

My phone used to be on vibrate until i accidentally cut the motor during a repair. My phone suddenly became a healthier part of my life where i look at it when i feel like. I also miss every urgent message from everyone.

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[-] Gerudo@lemm.ee 49 points 8 months ago

My wife is like that, and it kills me. I might leave your text unread for hours because if it was important, you'd call. I have priorities! Like the next round of Helldivers.

[-] tja@sh.itjust.works 17 points 8 months ago

I'll never call. But I also understand that not everyone looks at their phone at all times.

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[-] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 127 points 8 months ago

Orrrrrr he has social anxiety and has difficulty replying.

Sincerely, somebody with social anxiety

[-] Empricorn@feddit.nl 19 points 8 months ago

It could be both... PvP me!

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[-] Asafum@feddit.nl 14 points 8 months ago

This is me too. That and there is this stupid goddamn idea of "caring too much." Like responding quickly is a bad thing because it makes you seem desperate... Ffs I wouldn't be messaging you if I wasn't interested, but now I need to wait and play a stupid mind game so I don't lose the persons interest because they might assume that stupid thing about quick replies being a bad thing...

I hate mental games so freaking much...

[-] Randomgal@lemmy.ca 12 points 8 months ago

If the other person cares about silly games like this, they might not be that interested in taking to you.

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[-] Lemonparty@lemm.ee 87 points 8 months ago

If it's recently, its probably helldiver's 2 in which case wait your fucking turn lady! He's risking his life to spread liberty and force democracy on godless bugs and soulless robots. THESE ARE IMPORTANT THINGS

[-] derpgon@programming.dev 16 points 8 months ago

Rock and stone for me. Also has bugs nad robots, but more capitalist ⛏️

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[-] The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world 8 points 8 months ago

Thank you for your service, helldiver!

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[-] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 57 points 8 months ago

At one point in college some friends and i made up a system for just explicitly state what sort of response you needed. Ok, "made up a system" is a little over stating it. Basically it was "Hey this is important can I have your undivided attention?" through the lens of stupid nerd jokes. Like, "setPriority(10) i'm locked out of my apartment do you have a spare key?" vs "setPriority(0) i am so mad that fallout3 requires GFWL"

Now i'd probably just say "hey this is important do you have a few minutes?" in normal words.

[-] GiveOver@feddit.uk 28 points 8 months ago

Thinking about it, I think I have 4 priorities as things stand: 4 - Message in the group chat 3 - Message in the group chat with @ 2 - Direct message 1 - Phone call

[-] blanketswithsmallpox@lemmy.world 12 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Priority 00 - A regular text message and two phone calls back to back.

[-] MeDuViNoX@sh.itjust.works 11 points 8 months ago

Priority -1 - I'm showing up at your door.

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[-] dreugeworst@lemmy.ml 13 points 8 months ago

If you used setPriority, does that mean all subsequent messages have the same priority? Or is this a dsl that implicitly takes the message as the second parameter?

[-] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 19 points 8 months ago

The priority would stay as set until explicitly changed, or it was set back to the default after a period of inactivity.

[-] JungleJim@sh.itjust.works 10 points 8 months ago

Pretty good protocol. I like it.

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[-] Outsider9042@aussie.zone 47 points 8 months ago

You have my undivided attention… while I queue for the next game.

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[-] PatMustard@feddit.uk 42 points 8 months ago

Yes I will have one round of video games please

[-] Oiconomia@feddit.de 11 points 8 months ago

25 Minute Civilization rounds are a thing. Just one more round bro

[-] Ummdustry@sh.itjust.works 10 points 8 months ago

You can tell this if your man starts replying in one minuite, but gets progressively slower and slower until it's one hour each by the end.

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[-] wellee@lemmy.world 31 points 8 months ago

Wait.. some people immediately text back, over and over? Huh.

[-] drathvedro@lemm.ee 31 points 8 months ago

But what do women do when they respond somewhere in between 4 hours to 30 days?

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[-] NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone 28 points 8 months ago

I’m actually thinking about the Roman Empire when this happens.

[-] PatMustard@feddit.uk 8 points 8 months ago

Me too, but that's because I'm playing Crusader Kings

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[-] Splatterphace@lemm.ee 22 points 8 months ago

Sounds like Battlefield, COD or any battle royale game. 25-35 minute average on all those

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 16 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

1 turn in Civilization (it's late game and there are 15 other players).

[-] Gandarf@startrek.website 8 points 8 months ago

And Ghandi got his nukes. So time is very limited before world destruction begins.

[-] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 21 points 8 months ago

So what's her excuse when it's the other way around?

[-] scrion@lemmy.world 23 points 8 months ago

Why wouldn't it be video games?

[-] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 16 points 8 months ago

Because women don't play video games, silly!

[-] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 9 points 8 months ago

Because the text makes it sound like the person disapproves of the delay being caused by video games.

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[-] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 19 points 8 months ago

My wife plays way too many video games at work apparently. Or is this just a guy thing?

[-] theneverfox@pawb.social 19 points 8 months ago

My priority list goes:

People in front of me What I'm doing now Thoughts in my head Digital communication

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[-] echodot@feddit.uk 14 points 8 months ago

Oh I'm busy doing some other aspect of my life. Might possibly be that I'm working, at my job, which by the way was one of your requirements on the dating profile.

Not absolutely everything in my life is about video games.

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[-] AgentGrimstone@lemmy.world 13 points 8 months ago

If you want immediate responses, CALL THEM.

[-] slingstone@lemmy.world 13 points 8 months ago

Yeah, it's weird that we've relegated this amazing technology that lets you communicate by voice (and now video) to the back burner in favor of a far more cumbersome one that removes so much context in terms of tone.

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[-] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 11 points 8 months ago

Ew. Call? Like on a phone?

[-] ICastFist@programming.dev 12 points 8 months ago

Whenever someone sends me an important message and I don't read/respond in time, they call to get my attention so I can do so. My ex used to get mad at me for "ignoring" her for 2h or more and would call. I was just busy doing whatever and ignoring the phone as usual.

[-] Dnn@lemmy.world 13 points 8 months ago

I hate that. Also in a business setting. By definition a message (be it text, email, whatever) is not urgent. They might be important and of course you shouldn't leave them unread for days, but for urgency there's calls.

[-] Halosheep@lemm.ee 9 points 8 months ago

I always perceive an IM as high but not immediate importance, an email as "get to it when you can", and phone call as immediate.

The older people I work with tend to call for email level things.

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