Yeah, that seems to align nicely with the instincts I outlined in my comment. No need to apologize. Thanks!

From what I googled, it's especially bad when you pair "man" and "female" together, which makes sense to me.

I know, use the worst of all options, "lawyeress." /s

There are obviously still contacts where the distinction is important.

"70% of lawyers suffer discrimination in the workplace but only 30% of lawyers face discrimination."

And from friends personal experiences. Your back and knees die in the service.

After having been in the military, it's weird to hear people talk about the military who have never served.

Obeying authority? Sure, until ranking up and becoming the authority.

Pushing down emotions? More like learning to have control over our emotions, where those emotions do not control us.

Never be a soldier, but a fighter if needed?

That's basically what I did. Most military jobs are non-combat that are trained to fight if needed but if they are needed than we've got way bigger problens than just fighting.

It will kill your soul? I for one certainly have regrets, but my soul feels intact.

Not everyone should join the military, it's certainly not for everyone. Some people who thought it was all they ever wanted to do find out quickly that it's not for them and leave. Others who thought they'd just join for 4 years for the college money and bail end up making a career of it and retire after 20 years.

I'm indifferent, I just did my 4 years and got out.

I don’t disagree with you that society does think that way, but I disagree with the sentiment so much.

I’m 33 and afab. I accepted being called a “girl” until I was about 23 (probably not a coincidence that that was the age at which I graduated college), but it started chafing at like 16, even though I didn’t have a good alternative at the time (because I agree that “female” as a noun feels gross). If someone called me a girl now I would correct them without hesitation in basically every scenario outside of a eulogy or wedding speech.

I really wish there was a better option. I don’t really like “woman,” but it’s better than gal, lady, dudette, chick, or girl imo. I’m perfectly fine with guy or dude, especially in plural, but I’m probably an egg, so that colors my perspective for the singular use a little.

Same as the other reply, I don't disagree. Do I think there's mal intent? Nah. But I'm sure this has an unconscious effect on how we perceive women. Besides lots of women look young without even trying, I think with the improvement of medicine and public health, people in general are just looking younger nowadays so we should nip this habit in the butt.

Hell, a business or industry run primarily by men in their fifties and older can be referred to as "a boys club."

True. It’s just a slogan in the same way that “being White is all right” is or “All Lives Matter” is. It’s not supposed to mean what it means. It’s a code.

Like - once, 4chan (/pol/ and /b/ primarily, early mid 2010s) that it would be funny to make drinking milk a racist thing. It was explicitly discussed how this would make people upset about people drinking milk, and how this would be funny. The alt right weirdos in on the joke get the joke, leftists are befuddled and outraged, the stupid conservative weirdos are laughing at the dumb liberals and their cancel culture getting worked up about milk. Same thing with that pinched thumb and index finger “okay” symbol. 14 and 88 have lost their plausible deniability in most spaces at least.

Very similarly, the idea of MAPS was a /pol/ operation that was carried out to delegitimize the LGBT movement. The idea of people identifying with a sexual orientation based on being exclusively attracted to children, to the point of creating a pride flag, was mostly a /pol/ op. This is not to say that there aren’t creeps who did actually identify as such as a consequence of this movement, but it wasn’t a natural movement of creeps.

Language games. The limits of my language are the limits of my world. They mean something entirely different even in just human there.

Obviously the exclusionary group is going to exclude the people they don't like with their slogans though. Trans exclusionary radical feminists don't believe trans women are women. The "adult human female" shit across from them "defining woman" or something to that effect.