did you leave because of what I said T.T
I feel like if you don't want people to reach out to you then don't join..? >.<
Having them not respond to a host rather than a direct PM surely is less pressure.
I haven't, and I'm not sure if I could. The whole point of relo is to have someone to come home to, and I'm not much of a chatter tbh (despite what it might seem like online). I notice that once I get comfortable with someone, I stop chatter and just like their presence near me. It's number 1 signal that I'm in a great place with them: that I no longer have to keep talking to ensure that they are still interested in me.
Not sure if that's a good thing tbh lel.
I'm not so certain there would be pressure, I mean it's sort of what one should expect since we're putting ourselves out there... Even if there is pressure, maybe this would be good practice to not do things out of pressure? :S Not something we don't have control over though, we could always put these in a disclaimer that you have to agree to when you sign up.
Most likely the people who signed up would not use their username but a nickname that they would actually use to introduce themselves as irl, or at least, that was what I had in mind. Also it's sort of a control test so it's by design; if I am hosting it, then I am responsible. I also serve as a gatekeeper; some girls may be too cavalier about giving out their info or what not and vice versa. I dunno, so many things that we have yet to experience until we actually do it to be able to see this from all angles.
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OOH right blind MEETUPs, yeah that sounds good!
I was also thinking:
we don't get to exchange contacts until we've gone through two sessions (for safety reasons among others). The contacts will be sent via the host i.e: Person A wants to connect with Person B. So host will send Person B Person A's contact, it will be up to B to respond to A.
Do you look good in your eyes?
aiyo so sad for younger women. I don't think they are two dimensional, rather I think they are very idealistic about how they should be treated. It's very much "I want equality, but in a relationship I am your queen" sorta thing. If you are not their first priority, means you don't love them to the ends of the earth. I mean, yeah somewhat true; I do feel like your relationship shouldn't be the most important thing where you drop everything for them. It's one of your priorities, but not the only one. I think that's the difference between a mature relo and a young one.
I mean that's the challenge: it's soooo hard to tell what's too pre-mature and what's too vague. At the same time, yeah, how much questions is too much before it feels like an interview and much too formal? Aaaaaaaa
I guess this never gets easier. >.< and if it does gets easier, what does that say about ourselves as well? hahaha.
wah on the SPOT reject ah. oof.
or both? HAHAHA
hor.. how you know so well they playboy unker.. unless... xD