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[-] peregrin5@lemm.ee 110 points 1 month ago

i mean, they're not wrong.

[-] teft@lemmy.world 40 points 1 month ago

If you have wrinkles at 40 you need to wear more sunscreen and drink more water.

[-] zloubida@sh.itjust.works 79 points 1 month ago

There are wrinkles in my soul.

[-] bacon_saber@fedia.io 37 points 1 month ago

you need to wear more ~~sunscreen~~ soulscreen and drink more water.

[-] Texas_Hangover@sh.itjust.works 37 points 1 month ago

My balls are wrinkly, and they've barely seen any sun at all.

[-] Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world 15 points 1 month ago

But you do admit you remember exposing them to direct sunlight more than once?

[-] crawancon@lemm.ee 21 points 1 month ago

is "direct sunlight" a code word for families at Shoneys?

[-] BarrelAgedBoredom@lemm.ee 7 points 1 month ago

They wanna drive a wooden stake through my heart for pulling my cock out at the Toronto blue Jays game; but all I'm saying is I bought the tickets!

[-] Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

When did you start dating Lauren Boebert?

Edit: grammar

[-] BarrelAgedBoredom@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

Im a demon. I have no loyalty for anyone! Never did, never will. Shorty chose to be with a demon, sounds like her problem to me haha

[-] Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

I'm enjoying the chaos of this comment chain.

[-] BarrelAgedBoredom@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

Then you'll love ~~the source of my plagiarism~~ my muse

[-] Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

I would never have gotten that reference. It's delightfully absurd and obscene, though.

[-] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 1 month ago

Nudist beach is a pretty good explanation.

[-] Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Please don't bring reason and understanding into this, I'm trying to be irrationally judgmental over here.

[-] exasperation@lemm.ee 19 points 1 month ago

If you have wrinkles at 40 you need to wear more sunscreen and drink more water.

But also even if you don't have wrinkles you should wear sunscreen and probably drink more water anyway.

[-] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 month ago

*Proceeds to drink even more water and die from brain swelling.*

[-] peregrin5@lemm.ee 11 points 1 month ago

It's more about how I feel inside.

[-] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 month ago

I’ve got mad forehead and cheek wrinkles and I’m 30 haha

[-] RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 month ago

Im sorry but if isn’t too much trouble could you open your eyes? People at 40 have wrinkles. That is very normal.

[-] teft@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

I'm sorry, where did I say that people at 40 don't have wrinkles?

[-] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 7 points 1 month ago

Or simply never tempt the smiting of the Sky Sphere

[-] Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

Hey! I resemble that remark!

[-] FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

What planet do you live on where you see 40 year olds without any wrinkles at all? Absolutely ridiculous comment. Why do people upvote trash replies like this?

[-] teft@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

I'm in my forties and have no wrinkles. I have a few friends who have wrinkles but most of them don't. Maybe you should drink more water and wear more sunscreen.

[-] Jiggle_Physics@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 month ago

Yeah, I am 43 and while I have some very fine lines on my forehead, and near my eyes, you can't really see them unless you are like within 2 feet of me, or closer. And I have a long history with smoking and drug use. Also I am white, very white, not quite ginger ghost white, but not too far off. Genetics play a very strong role in this, and, at least from my perspective as someone who smoked for 28 years, and did hard drugs for 17, staying out of the sun. I have only really been doing anything close to a routine skin care regimen in like the last 5 years. I have also been homeless. So... yeah, not only do I believe you, I know people just like you. Hell, I probably would have much smoother skin, with no lines, if it wasn't for how bad I treated myself.

[-] klemptor@startrek.website 1 points 1 month ago

Not even any fine lines? Hard to believe.

[-] RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works -2 points 1 month ago

You need to talk to an eye doctor as your vision has significantly faded if most of the 40 somethings have no wrinkles.

[-] teft@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

I live in a tropical country where most people take care of their skin. My eyes are fine.

[-] RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works -1 points 1 month ago

Again I doubt that strongly. No one has crows feet?

[-] FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org -1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I feel like I'm in the twilight zone with this thread. Are people going to start saying that the sky isn't blue? Extremely weird replies here

[-] RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago

That’s because by 40 almost everyone has some wrinkles as the elastin wears down in places with frequent movement like the corners of your eyes or your forehead.

I can buy that a singular person at 40 might have few wrinkles but suggesting most they know at 40 do not is an insane claim.

[-] FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org -2 points 1 month ago

All of my replies are being downvoted now, lol. I swear man....Lemmy is fucking stupid. The people here are absolute clowns and make the Reddit population look intelligent. It's really bad.

[-] RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago

That’s because the claim being made is legitimately insane. Suggesting that most of the 40 somethings have no wrinkles at all is simply not going to be true.

And again it is much more likely OP has nearsightedness they refuse to recognize

[-] Duranie@leminal.space 3 points 1 month ago

I think the problem is that one side is making a statement as an absolute, and the other one is making a statement which they quantify as "most".

One single occurrence disqualifies the person claiming the absolute.

"Most" would mean more than half, which may be a big ask but we don't know their entire experience, culture, environment, and all the other factors involved.

For the record, as a very fair skinned 53yo woman with blue eyes and blonde hair, I've spent my entire adult life hiding from the sun and wearing sun screen year round (I live in the Chicago area.) I regularly get mistaken for my early-mid 30s, and if I look really close I can see some fine crows feet when I smile. I dare say 10 years ago they'd have been hard to find lol.

[-] RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

It's because elastin actually fades with time, use and sun exposure. The time and use parts are why smile lines, forehead wrinkles and crows feet are common. Many of us only notice our wrinkles after they are observable by others because we see our aging day to day.

[-] FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org -3 points 1 month ago

That's such BS dude. You're telling me you have absolutely no wrinkles that weren't there in your 20s or early 30s? Not a single one. That's absolute bullshit I'm sorry. Unless you're claiming to be some genetic oddity and are immortal, you are lying.

[-] teft@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago

Eesh why the hostility? I don't have wrinkles. I don't care if you believe me or not. This is the internet.

Treat your skin well, get good sleep, drink lots of water, don't do drugs or smoke. You won't have wrinkles at 40. Neglect any of those and the likelihood of having wrinkles increases. Sorry that you look like an old bag at 40 but maybe treat yourself better.

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[-] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 month ago

I know you're claiming it's not possible but I'm 38, I've done mostly night shifts and stayed out of the sun, I moisturize religiously and have since I was a teen, and I don't smoke and barely drink (ADHD meds don't play nice with alcohol).

I'm wrinkle-free.

Now compare to my sister, a few years older than me, used to tan growing up by laying out and getting a sunburn, has smoked since we were teens. Insanely wrinkled. Big, deep wrinkles.

This happens. I think the other person was being flippant and dismissive but... it happens!

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[-] exasperation@lemm.ee 4 points 1 month ago

Are we all assuming everyone in this conversation is white? Because I know plenty of black and Asian friends who I don't recall having wrinkles. Most of them have pretty solid moisturizing/lotion/sunscreen routines, though, so it's hard to tell how much is cultural versus genetic.

[-] RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Look at the corners of their eyes, mouths, and forehead and you will see wrinkles. They are slight but pretty much everyone has them by 40 something

[-] FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org -2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I think any race will show wrinkles at 40. Some more than others, sure. But definitely all races will at least have SOME newer wrinkles at age 40. To deny this is insanity.

[-] grue@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I just double-checked in the mirror, and I don't have any wrinkles yet either.

That's what happens when you don't go outside enough, I guess!

(I am starting to get a few gray hairs, though, if it makes you feel any better.)

[-] FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org -2 points 1 month ago

Impossible. Not physically possible. If you were to compare your face to a close up high res pic of your younger self, you wil 100% see changes and wrinkles. They may be small but they're there. No way in absolute hell this isn't true.

[-] RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

They could just have declining vision in middle age and be dumb. They dont have to be lying.

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