And that came out of left field. What the hell?

Racism is not the same as trauma dumping. Obviously if someone is blatantly racist or sexist you can withhold your tip. But complaining about having to tip and tying that to the _qualty of service _ is the issue here.

Complain about the low wages they're paid (in many states submininum), but getting mad about tipping in this way is a bad look, especially when your post doesn't mention anything beyond the pale. Also, it doesn't change that servers should pool tips, tip out to back of house, and unionize. Fundamentally though, we can't withhold tips systematically to achieve increased wages. So until wages are raised and tipping is banned, you need to tip.