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Gender experts of hexbear, please help me understand wallet gendering

It's just a frigging wallet monke-beepboop

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[-] kleeon@hexbear.net 47 points 3 days ago

Transphobes: you can't just change your gender like that. Gender is all about biology

Also transphobes: this wallet is a woman, clearly

[-] joaomarrom@hexbear.net 23 points 3 days ago

man I can only imagine how fucking psychedelic things would be nowadays if English had grammatical gender

[-] lil_tank@hexbear.net 17 points 3 days ago

Crackpot theory idea : the absence of grammatical gender is the reason the anglo empire is at the forefront of transphobia, because gendered nouns convey the idea that gender is a social construct

[-] ClimateStalin@hexbear.net 17 points 3 days ago

I feel like you’re overestimating the degree to which people recognize that language is a social construct.

If English had grammatical gender anglophone transphobes would claim the gender words have is unchangeable fact and if words can’t transition of course people can’t.

[-] lil_tank@hexbear.net 16 points 3 days ago

Wdym crackpot language philosophy doesn't hold up to scrutiny how dare you

[-] joaomarrom@hexbear.net 16 points 3 days ago

I WILL DIE BEFORE I LET YOU COMMIES SAY MY TRUCK IS A LADY

[-] nohaybanda@hexbear.net 10 points 3 days ago

Bulgarian has grammatical gender and our chuds are still on that "gender is biological" bullshit. Never forget the cruelty is the point, there is nothing underneath fascist arguments but a yawning void where their humanity used to be.

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[-] conditional_soup@lemm.ee 35 points 3 days ago

Oh shit, I can explain this. Kinda. I can't explain how we got to wallets implying gender, but this wallet looks like it's bigger and possibly has a zipper (just guessing by thickness). Apparently it's a thing for girl wallets to be dummy thic; I'd guess because a purse can carry more than a pocket can. Maybe that's how we got here?

Personal anecdote time, back when $20 meant something, I stuffed a $20 bill in my pocket and ended up losing it. My SO was rightfully pissed at me about it, because we could not afford to just lose $20. After a bit of talking it over, we arrived the the problem being that I just had too much shit in my little wallet, so we decided that the best way forward would be to get me a big, big wallet to hold all my shit. I actually got some light teasing about it at work, mostly from the Gen X folks, about it being a girl wallet (am cismale), but it didn't bother me because I'm not stupid and I've got other shit to worry about besides whether my wallet is apparently gender normative. And besides, the teasing honestly wasn't that bad, I took it affectionately and started saying "yeah, it's my MANifold"; a dumb joke that got a few chuckles, and that was basically the end of it. It's been over a decade and I still use giant fucking wallets to this day because they're really useful for carrying a bunch of stuff in an organized way.

[-] MeowZedong@lemmygrad.ml 18 points 3 days ago

I enjoyed your manifold joke and hope you still use it when you get grief.

[-] conditional_soup@lemm.ee 10 points 2 days ago

I appreciate it! I do, though it doesn't come up much anymore.

[-] JoeByeThen@hexbear.net 40 points 3 days ago

They wanna fuck the wallet. panting

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[-] StillNoLeftLeft@hexbear.net 26 points 3 days ago

This wallet gendering is just a plot by the clothing industry so they don't have to put pockets in womens clothes.

[-] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 30 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Gender experts of hexbear, please help me understand wallet gendering

Sure I’ll help you a bit: The wallet is actually male-presenting. The reason for that is that it has a chain, which means it’s supposed to be put into your pockets, which only male-presenting pants have in large enough sizes, and not into a purse or bag, which are female-presenting of course.

Just another case of cis people being bad at gender. pathetic

[-] TrashGoblin@hexbear.net 18 points 3 days ago
[-] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 12 points 3 days ago

makima-think If Hazbin fans are running around with those, then the whole gender thing could get a bit messy.

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[-] ClimateStalin@hexbear.net 21 points 3 days ago

I’m not even gonna be obtuse and say I don’t know the difference between a “men’s wallet” and a “women’s wallet.” If you ask me to picture those two things this is what will come into my mind:

Men’s wallet

Women’s wallet

Men’s wallets tend to be smaller, intended to fit in a pocket, and are usually black or brown. Women’s wallets tend to be bulkier and wider, with more buckles and zippers, intended to fit in a purse or carried in your hand with a wrist strap, and are often bright colors instead of just black or brown.

So my problem isn’t even so much “are wallets gendered” as it is “that is not a feminine wallet”. It’s a black, small wallet that could fit in a man’s front pocket and has a chain to attach to your pants. That is a men’s wallet!

[-] echolalia@lemmy.ml 12 points 3 days ago

Apparently I am this obtuse

I bought a plain black wallet at walmart because idgaf.

Apparently this is a "man's wallet" and its completely reasonable for my coworkers to ponder why I have borrowed my husband's wallet for [insert coworker bonding activity]

I did not get this memo. Apparently I need a guide to acting "normal" and like a ciswoman even though I am a ciswoman. My debit card couldn't care less about where it lives.

I don't really think this comment has anything to do with yours. I just felt like venting. Sorry.

All wallets remind me of vaginas. They are flappy things, and you put stuff in them.

[-] ClimateStalin@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago

All wallets remind me of vaginas. They are flappy things, and you put stuff in them.

eric-andre

[-] doublepepperoni@hexbear.net 12 points 3 days ago

and are often bright colors instead of just black or brown

sicko-wistful

[-] LaGG_3@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago

You know, you can just get a colorful wallet if you want to. Nobody will stop you.

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[-] Horse@lemmygrad.ml 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Men’s wallets tend to be smaller, intended to fit in a pocket ... Women’s wallets tend to be bulkier and wider, with more buckles and zippers, intended to fit in a purse or carried in your hand with a wrist strap

bingo
ladies' clothes do not—by and large—have usable pockets, leading wallet design to be less constrained by size (and more useful tbh)

[-] GrouchyGrouse@hexbear.net 16 points 3 days ago

One of those trad nerds buys one of these because carrying coins in a tiny velvet sack, to quote, "feels gay."

[-] Xenomorph@hexbear.net 18 points 3 days ago

A thousand pardons m'lord, allow me to fetch a pennyfarthing from thine bag of holding.

yes-honey-left

Sir, you're holding up the line.

[-] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 23 points 3 days ago

The wallet has big eyelashes and a bow

[-] doublepepperoni@hexbear.net 17 points 3 days ago

Donald Duck dimorphism

[-] joaomarrom@hexbear.net 23 points 3 days ago

folks is it gay to carry your ID and cards in a wallet?

also, the old Portuguese word for wallet, boceta, is now a slang for vagina lol

[-] OldSoulHippie@hexbear.net 17 points 3 days ago

I use one of those things that people who carry purses use to hold their cards and money in as a wallet. Sleek and it doesn't hold a lot so no clutter.

[-] Thallo@hexbear.net 21 points 3 days ago

Finally, this will make me a woman.

I can throw out all my hormones.

[-] Dessa@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago

They're called billfolds, not bettyfolds!

[-] RION@hexbear.net 19 points 3 days ago

Any kind of zipper, button, or clasp will bring it closer to a clutch visually I guess

[-] doublepepperoni@hexbear.net 16 points 3 days ago

Real men betray no emotion as their change clatters onto the floor and when they lose their ID

[-] D61@hexbear.net 16 points 3 days ago

A man must spend a lifetime to hone their relexes to instantly catch all objects that come shooting out of their wallet every time there is a need to get into it. dril

[-] RION@hexbear.net 10 points 3 days ago

Gender aside, do people really carry change these days?

[-] LaGG_3@hexbear.net 8 points 3 days ago

I take one coin with me when I go to the grocery store for the cart deposit lmao

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[-] WizardOfLoneliness@hexbear.net 16 points 3 days ago

all y'all analyzing the gender of this wallet and none of y'all consider that the wallet might be trans

[-] Asafum@feddit.nl 15 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Stupid woke wallet makers putting type 1 and type 2 as the description! Just write male wallet and female wallet like God intended!! I'm going to buy one an burn a giant penis on it so everyone knows my wallet is manly!

[-] ExotiqueMatter@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

The wallet pass

[-] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 12 points 3 days ago

frothingfash not tactical enough, must be for the ladieeees.

[-] ClimateStalin@hexbear.net 9 points 3 days ago

Is that not a tacti-cool wallet though?

Sleek MENS Black All Leather Tactical Wallet with Protective Carrying Chain

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[-] drippylilkitten@hexbear.net 10 points 3 days ago

the chain goes hard ngl

[-] SchillMenaker@hexbear.net 12 points 3 days ago

These are all five star reviews though. Maybe the trans-fluoride we've been putting in the water is starting to work.

[-] daniyeg@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago

they expected a cock to pop out when they opened that wall instead they saw a gaping hole.

[-] blame@hexbear.net 9 points 3 days ago

who needs a wallet these days, it's all computer now. transit card? computer. bank card? computer. id? computer.

[-] LaughingLion@hexbear.net 11 points 3 days ago

carrying a wallet with some spending money so you have something to give homeless people and the occasional desperate mugger is praxis

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[-] queermunist@lemmy.ml 11 points 3 days ago

"Why do you care so much about shoes? No one is paying attention."

The exact same people discussing their money holder:

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