It's your fault, accept the shame and teach her.

She loaded it, but poorly. Which is a vast improvement on my wifes not loading it at all.

1. Thank your daughter for helping you with chores.
2. Bring her to the mess and let her see it for herself.
3. Kindly ask her why she thinks it turned out that way.
4. Ask her what she thinks she can do avoid this kind of thing next time. (This is your opportunity to explain to her how to do things.)
5. Kindly ask her to do it again, correctly. (Consider doing it together)
6. Tell her she’s awesome for helping out, and that you really appreciate it.

Never be angry. Be patient and supportive. Don’t let frustration escalate.

OP admitting to not teaching their kid how to do dishes.

You only have yourself to blame. You raised her, but clearly not better than this.

But who taught her to load the dish washer?

My daughter is not an adult, she's a teenager. But it's her job to put away the dishes. And no matter what I do, she can't understand that, in the silverware drawer, THE BIG SPOONS GO IN THE BIG SPOON SLOT AND THE LITTLE SPOONS GO IN THE LITTLE SPOON SLOT!

And she thinks this is acceptable.

I understand the compulsion to disown.

Many dishwashers will clean all of that fine, in my experience. The annoying part is the cups or bowls that may fill with water, just make sure they’re upside down.

As far as scraping or rinsing things…. Nah. Haven’t done it since I worked in food service and saw what dishwashers could do. Some stuff needs scraped, sure, but most will come off under the detergent and hot water.

She's trying, and she's already got the concept of "concave side down" so you need to acknowledge that. Moving on, "water sprays from the center" and "similar shapes share space" are good concepts to add. She can't exactly do "Don't crowd" because there are just too many here. But she's fully grasped "you can always rerun anything that doesn't come clean the first time."

Does the machine result in clean dishes? If yes, all good. If not, she dumb, u dumb. You built her

Believe it or not, jail.

These are the kinds of people who go on the Internet and claim that dishwashers don't work very well.

She's from group B. Group A loads correctly. Group B does this stuff on purpose so we in group A will just stop letting them screw this up and they no longer have to load it.

You clearly failed as a parent.

Am I married to your daughter?

This honestly looks fine. (Assuming this is before the dishwasher has run). There's not like solid chunks of food or anything just the actual stuff that you own a dishwasher to wash off for you so you don't have to. The configuration of the dishes is haphazard and chaotic but if you want to fit a lot of dishes it usually ends up that way. The cup and cup like vessels not being upside down is a problem but for the most part things are upside down or on their side as they should be. I want the dishwasher to wash dishes for me not the other way around. If you get the occasional dish after a cycle that hasn't completely cleaned you have to wash it yourself, which sucks, but that doesn't always happen so there's a reasonable chance you won't have to, and when it does happen, it's still way cleaner than it was so you're talking a cursory fix up of very few dishes. I'd take that over rinsing each and every one every time or having to hand wash half the load when there's a lot of dishes in service of a neater stacking configuration that's optimal but less space efficient.

Or just educate her.

Jon Richardson would probably say yes

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Ymh8o6GI_g&t=3

This comment section is saucier than OP’s dirty dishwasher!

Man your daughter is lucky, I don't even have a dishwasher. I am the dishwasher. I used to have one, but then we moved house.

In the end it doesn't matter how it's stacked so long as they come out clean - don't forget to fill the prewash section with powder, it helps immensely.

Throw it away and make a new one

You have brought shame on your bloodline with your failed attempts at raising a child.

I swear, the people obsessed with enforcing one right way to do... everything.

It looks exhausting. I feel kind of bad for them and when they start rearranging other people's work I always think of this sad lil raccoon for some reason:

Where problem?

Believe it or not its the opposite for me. I help take care of my elderly parents keep them independent and they both do this. I am compelled to physically take dishes out and rearrange them to reclaim like a second loads worth of wasted space. Some days I'm also tempted to disown them!

I live in a dry climate and very tightly meter my water usage and running the dishwasher twice uses less water than doing it once by hand unless I am extremely careful and use a single basin of water and a rag to rinse. That takes longer and is extremely annoying to do.