Take it from me op. Drop the imposter stuff in your relationship, that can kill a relationship. I very nearly lost my wife early on because "I just can't believe you want to be with me". That isn't attractive.

They like you, that's why they're with you. They weren't tricked, you didn't fool them, they like you. Who you are. All you gotta do is like them back :)

How long I've been single

Posting things online.

I have no "traditional" social media accounts, and over half the comments I type here I delete without posting. I don't like people judging me & talking behind my back, so my introvert tendencies include semi anonymous things like Lemmy.

I have a mild speech impairment. I don't stutter on a daily basis but when I'm under heavy stress or when I'm tired I tend to stutter-ish. On top of that I live in a country where I don't speak in my native language and sometimes I feel self-conscious about small mistakes I make (like using the wrong word or messing up the grammar) which induces the stress response. It's not a big deal but it makes me crazy when I can't express my thoughts in public.

my ethics

Everything, but specially my ability yo make decisions.

It doesn't matter what we are talking about. You just have to say "Are you sure?" to make me feel insecure about any topic, at work, home or with friends. And, of course, then every bad consequence is my fault.

I would feel insecure anyways, but i can usually control my feelings. Say that sentence and i struggle even to walk.

Teeth. Many years of poor dental hygiene.

I guess mental health. I am all kinds of fucked up.

'The woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those who sang the best.'

I never feel like I fit in clothing wise no matter what. I've figured out a way to make a lot of pocket money and I continually buy clothes and shoes in the hopes that one day I feel right but I seldom do.

My weight fluctuates. Sometimes I bloat up from medicine. Sometimes I can't eat and lose weight. I can't seem to just be me and be happy and have people like me no matter what my weight is. It is really frustrating going through your whole life hating your body because of external standards.

"Don't care what other people think."

Ok yeah well when you feel like people stare at you and silent judge you all the time, and internally you do the same thing to others and hate yourself even more for being part of the problem.

It's constant brainwashing of the 'ideal body' when the reality is people come in all shapes and sizes. It's hard to change that mindset when all the ads you see around you tell you differently.

I don't have a girlfriend (because I can't get one) when everyone around me is in a relationship.

Not getting enough updootes.

Irrationally insecure? My weight, or more accurately, my size. I was an eating disordered teen, still get stress anorexia, but even when healthy and relaxed my mind just thinks I am too big, when objectively and logically I know I am in great shape for someone with kids and over half a century of years. I feel fat unless underweight.

Rationally insecure? I don't trust my job or the economy overall. Have been homeless and so poor, dug out of it and doing great but I am not relaxed about it at all. I don't think that's irrational though.

You ever think maybe you don't have imposter syndrome? You're just telling yourself you do because it feels like it, but you actually don't have it at all.

I get called judgemental all the time. I have on idea why. I don't judge anyone. And yet.... they judge me as judgemental.

It drives me nuts. I think it's just my face and the fact I don't smile constantly. It also makes socializing very difficult, because I only tend to get along with very secure chill folks... which there aren't many of in the world. I often have people blow up at me for 'being mean to them' even though I have said nothing to them and didn't even notice them.

That some people are irreparably broken and I’m one of them.

Being overly secure can be a problem too... I'm quite secure, because I've gone out of my way to work on insecurities. Buuut this has the consequence of insecure people seeing me as arrogant 🤷

Feminine hips and high waist?

What do you got?

Looks. Never liked the face, I always look tired or otherwise scary. I'm absolutely blessed to have a preference in living my own life, I can't imagine trying dating or anything.

Life. Only death is safe.