Uno reverse : chapotraphouse

[+] LGOrcStreetSamurai@hexbear.net 71 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

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[-] spacecadet@hexbear.net 39 points 1 year ago

It may not be conscious on the part of the white woman in this example, but this type of compliment is doubling as a way for her to give herself a healthy lib pat on the back compliment for being an ally or whatever

[-] axont@hexbear.net 32 points 1 year ago

Crackers attempting to say anything normal about black people challenge

[-] WhatDoYouMeanPodcast@hexbear.net 25 points 1 year ago

I learned to do this while studying a second language. I had to rely on simple words and I've grown fond of them even in my mother tongue (USSR Russian).

[-] da_gay_pussy_eatah@hexbear.net 16 points 1 year ago

Counterpoint to option 2: complimenting people is actually cool and good, so long as you're normal. Caveat: if you're cis-het-male presenting, maybe it won't be as well received. But above all, just be normal.

[-] booty@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago

im a normal dude who gives compliments all the time. it literally is just as simple as be normal, in my experience. ive said "I love your hair!" to black women verbatim before (and also other women but just considering the context here), and they were like "thanks!" and we moved on with our lives.

[-] Tankiedesantski@hexbear.net 33 points 1 year ago

One of my friends who is a person of Indian heritage born in the West told me about how his KKKraker job interviewer once said "you speak great English" and without missing a beat he replied "thanks, so do you."

He got the job.

[-] ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml 33 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

If you don't shut your cracker ass up I'll wear yours

[-] BoxedFenders@hexbear.net 30 points 1 year ago

This white lady definitely took down the "In this house, we believe:" placard from her lawn when she got home.

[-] sexywheat@hexbear.net 29 points 1 year ago

… what?

[-] axont@hexbear.net 52 points 1 year ago

It's common for black women to wear wigs to have long, straight hair even if their natural hair is very curly and poofy, like an afro. This is the result of western beauty standards imposing themselves on people who aren't white.

The black woman is complimented by a white woman for daring to defy western beauty standards to wear her natural hair. The black woman then responds that it must take confidence for the white woman to wear her natural hair as well. Basically saying, "I'm not wearing a wig, but you should be." It's a good clap back.

[-] sexywheat@hexbear.net 18 points 1 year ago

Oooooh I get it now thanks.

[-] Taster_Of_Treats@hexbear.net 13 points 1 year ago

Also it's not just wigs.. Hair relaxers can be very harsh chemicals that can burn your scalp. So it's a lot to ask somebody or require that they straighten it. But some schools and work places still do.

[-] sexywheat@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago

some schools and work places still do.

My gut reaction to that was "WTF that's bullshit no way they could force people to straighten their hair!?" and then I thought about it for 0.00005 seconds and was like "Yeah of course they would."

[-] Taster_Of_Treats@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

The good news is that increasingly, those that do get roasted in the press and even protested. But yeah, 10+ years ago it was much more common.

The dems attempted to pass a law banning this in 2022, but they failed to pass it before midterms. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/CROWN_Act_of_2022

[-] alexandra_kollontai@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago

Creating a Respectful and Open World for Natural Hair - CROWN

this one is just 5/10 honestly

[-] Aradina@lemmy.ml 28 points 1 year ago

It's an extremely weird thing to say to a person.

[-] FungiDebord@hexbear.net 27 points 1 year ago

Imagine being in 2024 and still doing performative hair discourse.

[-] AndJusticeForAll@hexbear.net 36 points 1 year ago

I've been telling everyone their hair looks bad.